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We have always talked to our children as we would talk to any other human being.

The difference I notice is that our children (at least most of them) develop better critical thinking skills.

My now almost seven year old was figuring out at four how much time he got to spend with me per day. And was quite upset with it...

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Oh and might I add....

One thing that helps younger people talk to us oldsters is if we don't talk to them like they're 10 year olds. I tend to talk even to small children like adults (using age-appropriate vocubulary) and I find it rather quickly elicits a more mature response out of them. The 6 year old urchin of a friend of ours at lunch was trying to snatch the red crayon I was using (yes) away from me without asking. I stopped and asked her what was the matter. She said "I want the red one." I told her I was using it. She told me to give it to her. I told her - quite plainly - that I was using it, and when I was done I'd give it to her if she asked me for it. She quietly put her hands in her lap and watched what I was doing, and when I put it down, she asked if she could have it.

"Oh - he's NOT good with children, is he?" her mother said to Mrs. VA.

Probably the first time in the kid's life that the little shit behaved herself...

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I agree with Fun. I didn't mean to make it out to be like it was ALWAYS that way, but the tendency becomes larger the bigger the age difference.

When I was teaching chemistry lab in college, the difference even there was becoming clear. Every year I'm a year older, and every year they're still 19.

Some youngin's are vapid twits. Some oldsters are vapid twits too, however. Sometimes I wonder how some people made it to this point in their life without getting their house repo'd or drowning in a lake on their way to work.

But as a general rule - with some exceptions - the younger they are, the higher the chance that the relationship will be almost exclusively sex.

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Fun, I think your young friend was really remarkable and a rare gem. My kids have always been able to talk to adults, but some of their friends were too clueless, nervous, and self-absorbed to carry on a conversation. Hell, I've met people MY age who are like that!

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JW why it is that the neighbours must slam the door hard enough to shake the ENTIRE building every. single. time. they come in or go out.

often, multiple times within a 5 minute period.

oy.

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Did someone say, "You're just weird".

Thornton CO
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@Fun

You're just weird.

Ask anyone

~rabbit~

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"So the talk - when it comes to something other than sex - is where the real age difference shows."

Yes, and no. I took a young lady over to a lifestyle friend's house earlier this week to lounge around the pool. She looks so young that our host pulled me aside and seriously asked me for assurance that she was of legal age.

We found lots to talk about besides sex. She comes from a very religious family (preacher's daughter), and we had a lively discussion about the intersection of sex and religion. She's in the market for new housing, and my recent involvement in helping my daughter buy a house gave us some common ground.

She's also very interested in politics, so there was that. She correctly guessed that my reference to "Jimmy Cardigan" was about President Carter, but appreciated me filling her in.

So our frames of reference are very different, but we had no trouble relating about a bunch of non-sexual things.

I think it depends on the people, not their age differences. When I was young (teens, college), I spent a fair amount of time with people my parents' age. Used to have lunch regularly with one of my mom's best friends. So, convo that transcends generational gaps is almost second-nature to me. But maybe I'm just weird.

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*snort*

it's the advent of the WVM feature, methinks.

Bridgewater NJ
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JW: Is it just my imagination, or did someone roll up with a truckload of whiners and dump them into the fora?

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