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User Details are only visible to members.	When we play in separate rooms, which is most of the time, both couples normally are finished with sex and just lying there talking before anyone thinks of leaving the room. Sometimes the first couple to get up joins the 2nd couple in the same bed, but more often the 1st couple finished just hollers "we're going downstairs to get some dessert" and the other couple then knows what's going on and can join them for dessert as soon as they finish. Usually, like I said, both couples are done fucking by the time one couple announces it's dessert time, so it's usually only a matter of minutes before the other couple joins them. Gotta have that sugar quickly after sex to replace all those lost calories! LOL
South Riding VA			Username hidden (8158 post)

User Details are only visible to members.	Couplelooking you were wondering: <<Does anyone have any specific ways that they work out the separate room time table with the spouses? Do they give a general amount of time and say that they will meet in like 2 hours or something? >> When we go into separate rooms, we give each other plenty of time to take care of business, at whatever pace makes sense for all involved. We have never felt a need to stipulate any time rules. Invariably one of the swapped couples will finish first (about 90% of the time will be the other guy). Is that a problem? Not in the least. First, we don't have any restricton on the ability of members of either couple to move around and visit the other, even if the other couple are in the thick of the action. The most common thing to do for the pair who finished first is to just talk, get a snack, help themselves to a drink, play some darts (once Mr. Content even played a match of chess with his lady guest!), whatever. Remember too that we swing with people with whom we have developed a level of conversational comfort (so we don't feel like being "stuck with a stranger" while we wait; in fact, it doesn't feel like "waiting" at all). Sometimes, but not often, the other husband has come into the room where I am to take a peek at his wife while I'm doing her. Ms. Content has done the same, to watch me. All of that is cool with us. We just like the separation during most of the sexual activity because we have learned, through experience, that it promotes a more satisfying experience. But we don't take the seclusion to an extreme or obsessive level: doors remain open, sometimes depending on the layout the two swapped couples may be within sight of each other, etc. Almost always, when everybody is finished, like Valovers said, we converge on the same bed and continue socializing. After all, the social aspect of swinging is one its most attractive features for us. Sometimes when Mr. Content and his lady guest finish, Ms. Content has already started a second round ... time to look for that chess board again lol... Mr. Content
Pittsburgh PA			Username hidden (1153 post)

User Details are only visible to members.	We've never actually tried separate rooms. Though the thought has passed our minds a few times. Both of us dislike being the center of attention when inevitably one of the "couples" takes a little longer to finish up and the others end up laying around watching. We've went out with friends on our own for the night on occasion. We even had it on our profile at one time that we were open to playing alone. What ended up happening was endless emails from ladies we had met in passing asking her to entertain their husbands when they were unavailable. The separate room forum sounds like a good idea if we could keep it on topic. Fat chance... We recently ran across a mention of "creeping"; one half of each couple sneaking to the other's house late at night. Not much of a point in that statement. It just popped into my head and I found a little humor in it for some reason.
Jennings LA			Username hidden (771 post)

User Details are only visible to members.	You know it just dawned on me(light bulb going off) that these couples are not really swinger couples. It seems to me that if the guy is not paying attention to his partner (FOOL) and all he wants is to watch his wife....than why in hell not get a single guy to join them in bed or what ever activities they want. It's a shame people just don't know how to act when their with other real swingers. Granted from what I can tell, most of your experiences were when you were new to swinging and that really could have turned you away from a freat adventure. It would seem to me that new people to swinging need an experienced couple to help guide them. Don't get me wrong I'm not talking about teaching, just be able to give direction and help them always have a positive experience, That's a good use for this forum, let's face it everyone wants to have a great time especially if your new. As a single guy I'm always looking to please my partner first and every thime. If I'm in an open area with others we may use the other couples as part of forplay, but when it time to get down to business the lady has my undivided attention untill she is satisified.
Brick NJ			Username hidden (9674 post)

User Details are only visible to members.	<<We should start a forum sign up sheet of who is interested in separate room play and go from there. Maybe do a match up from it. LOL>> There used to be a thread in the Forum called "Same Room vs Separate Room" in which people discussed their preferences and their reasons. We participated by stating our preference for separate rooms, and were promptly informed that we must be immature, insecure people who lack good communication or a solid marriage. So much for a separate thread on this topic. No matter which preference you have, somebody with the opposite preference will be unable to resist telling you what is WRONG with you for having that preference! By the way, we do both separate room and same room, depending on the couple, or on whether we have played with them before enough to establish a confidence that they won't get wacky in the same room. Often we go one round in separate rooms and then all get together in the king sized bed in the master bedroom for chitchat, touching, caressing, and quite often a 2nd round all together. But we still prefer separate rooms for most occasions.
South Riding VA			Username hidden (8158 post)

User Details are only visible to members.	We ran into one situation with about 8 people in a room and one guy kept hollering across to his wife with various questions. "Is he giving it to you good baby?"....."Do you like the way he's doing that?"......"I'll bet that feels good." It was one of the most distracting things I've ever been involved with.
Jennings LA			Username hidden (771 post)

User Details are only visible to members.	Oops... I forgot to say what I did about it. I did the same thing he was doing. I paid all my attention to what was going on next to me. It did bother him. At one point, he tried to keep me from looking but I wouldn't let him. Needless to say, when the couple wanted to get together again, we told them thanks but no thanks. Carrie
Corpus Christi TX			Username hidden (16506 post)

User Details are only visible to members.	We have had that experience also. This guy was totally absorbed in what was going on next to us. I love to watch my hubby with someone else also but while I am having sex with someone they do get my attention. I get to do my watching after we are done. At least so far, that is how it has worked out so I get the best of both worlds. Carrie
Corpus Christi TX			Username hidden (16506 post)

User Details are only visible to members.	We prefer same room, for various reasons, but in the right circumstances, have no problem with separate room. We have never experienced someone directing us on how to please their spouse, but have heard the male half directing the female half on how fast or slow to ride a cock, but that has been the extent of it. Only one bad experience with separate rooms, and that was the very first time I (Ms.) separated from Mr. Wildlife. Very nice couple we had met several times prior to deciding to play. The sweet man just couldn't get it up even after the wife took him upstairs. She came down after about 15 minutes and said for me to go up, and I did. Well, nothing was going to happen, even though he tried every which way to please me orally, but nothing was working. Mr. and the wife were having a fantastic time, but after about 20 minutes of hearing how sorry he was, I tried to comfort him saying it wasn't a big deal, things happen, but said to let's go join the party. He was a little hesitant stating let's not interrupt because she was having fun. Well, without trying to be rude, I said, oh well, I would like to have some fun as well and got up and went downstairs. As soon as I walked into the room, the wife quickly stopped doing what she was doing, I thought all of this was way to strange for me, especially she claimed to be bi. Long story short, believe that the hubby was just letting the wife have her some fun but he didn't want to be with another woman, or they could not be in the same room with us. We have not since that time (which was over 1 1/2 ago) did separate rooms. Even though we don't care if the couples we meet are bi or straight, if I am attracted to a woman and she doesn't oppose, I like to play with both the man and woman of the couple and you cannot do that in separate rooms. Also, I am turned on by all four into the act. But again, not opposed to separate rooms with the right couples.
Johnstown PA			Username hidden (11993 post)

User Details are only visible to members.	Like EANDPOFPGH and Couplelooking, we learned this lesson very early, with the first couple we started swinging with. We had great fun with them over the space of about 10 months, and we did a variety of things (and learned a lot). We decided that going into separate rooms was the simplest way to resolve this issue. After a while we became more flexible about it, and will do same room if the circumstances (but not the other couple) dictate that that's the best option, like if we are traveling and meeting a couple away from home or something. As of right now we are still flexible about allowing same room, but the two most recent experiences we've had with same room definitely suggest to us that going into separate rooms tends to give better results. I guess sex was ultimately meant to be a private act. In one such occasion the other guy just kept instructing me of what I was supposed to do with her wife. I found it annoying and not wanting to repeat THAT experience. At the end we ended in a friendly tone and parted ways amicably, but when they contacted us again for a repeat, I had to pass. The second occasion went ok, except the other guy lost his erection when he heard me rip off the condom envelope (I guess I must be more discreet!). Ms. Content was blowing him and she noticed that he went soft and never recovered. He pleased her in other ways, but again the proximity of being in the same room created some degree of interference. However, we would definitely play with them again; they are a very fun and attractive couple. We really think that men who are primarily interested in seeing their wives having sex with others should simply resort to threesomes. The same goes for women who want to see their husbands with another female. In the latter case, given the difficulty in finding interested single females, it may be more practical for them to find another couple with the same voyeuristic inclinations, and take turns at watching each other. I suspect people already do that. Mr. Content
Pittsburgh PA			Username hidden (1153 post)

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