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Ideal first meeting? one where everyone shows up at the specified place on time, showered and dressed appropriately for the venue, whatever that may be, and actually looks like their pics.
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Thanks Scandle, how did you recognize her? We were trying to be discreet!
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Love that picture, Nic (and TB)!
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My ideal first meetings have more to do with how they end up than with where they begin. I'll give you a hint:
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An "ideal" first meeting depends on the people more than the place.
Most of my initial meets are simply for drinks, not dinner. Sometimes, if we already have a pretty good feel that things will click, it is at the couple's home. And if there's a very strong mutual feeling that things are good, it's at the arrival area of the airport. |
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Although I generally "know" how Mrs. VA is feeling about people we just met, we have a non-verbal communication system established that allows us to decide about whether or not we go forward.
I like to say that both of us always have unquestioned veto power - if either of us says no - about anything - it's a no. No arguing or trying to change the other's mind. If we discuss later, it's for the purposes of understanding what the other is thinking, not trying to change their mind. |
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our ideal first meet is simply a fun, normal couple that is not 6 months from divorce...who enjoy dancing and listening to classic rock music. Thats it. My standards are really low, you'd think I'd be easy to please. WRONG ANSWER lol
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We're with scandle on this. If the conversation works on SLS and by phone, we prefer to meet for a casual meal in a public place. We tell people up front that we do not play on a first meet. Gets rid of all of the expectations and pressures. It also means that there are no unmet expectations if we are invited to someone's home for quieter conversation, dessert, glass of wine etc. This happens with some frequency, we think because some topics of discussion might raise eyebrows on the part of whoever might be listening at the next table. Public places are never really private in the iPhone age...
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"The fact that your game is so different, yet with similar end results, is no big deal."
Other than being insensitive or outright inconsiderate to the point of being rude, I don't think there is a right or wrong way. We have modified our approach over the years as we have learned new ways. Hopefully, we all grow. We are all shaped by our experiences. |
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always, if it works for you and presumably for the other couple, I have no problem with it. I can see how in some cases it might actually be fun, but only if everyone wanted to keep the lovefest going.
Mr. Scandle and I have a method that works for us that would not fit your wishes or your schedule, and likely seems overly cautious or slow to some. We cherish our private conversations to figure out what we both want to do. The fact that your game is so different, yet with similar end results, is no big deal. |
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