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TOPIC: Family Vacations or do you leave them at home
Created by: Nkenswing
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Are they really vacations? Cooped up with the kids for a week. You already do that at home. Why take that aggravation on the road?

I listen to friends talk about their vacations with their kids and it just seems like nothing but work. We've taken the kids to amusement parks and stuff but my limit for being in the car with kids is like six hours max. Damn sure wasn't taking them to a resort for a week. Sitting around and watching them have fun.

How is taking your kids on vacation a vacation?

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I meant, as children, my CHILDREN, etc., not my ex and I as children. But you people are smart enough to figure out my blunders.

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As my kids are grown now, 31 and 26, we fly them here to visit anytime they can, and always will. We've done quite a few fun things, trips, with each of them, as my husband had never had kids, and got his stepsons after they were both pretty much grown. Most times they come one at a time, as they enjoy that time alone with us, and so do we, but I'm in heaven whenever they both can visit at the same time, and also when we go to Ohio and can see them both.

As children, my ex and I usually had mini vacations, and we always enjoyed our kids. while I do believe that parents need some time to themselves to develop their relationship as well, I am with the census that family vacations are just that...family. And enjoyable.

That said, my husband and I have seen families in Vegas trying to do the vacation thing, and they ALL looked miserable. Kids in tow in strollers walking through the casinos at midnight with all of them just dragging and looking unhappy, arguing, crying, etc., please parents, do something that is more child friendly and leave places like Vegas for time for adult related fun. It's ok. You don't have to take your kids everywhere if they aren't going to enjoy it. If they don't enjoy it, you don't enjoy it either.

"Staycations" can also be fun as long as you do a little touristy thing in your own hometown, or nearby. We loved going to Dearborn, an overnight trip here and there, all around Ohio. Then again, some family vacations were spent driving and visiting out of state family members, and that was never a chore b/c I had things for my kids to do in the car (these were the days before every child had a video screen in front of him). Anyway, I was the mom who cried when her kids went back to school each fall. I loved having my kids home.

Gina, who just saw her sons last week and cried on the flight home to TX because she already missed them.

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A family vacation is for the entire family --- as far as I was concerned my children were without a doubt the best part of my family. Actually, during the last 3-4 years of my marriage I took my kids to the beach and various Nature Areas/Parks in surrounding states and we left their Dad at home. He was a guy that liked having his own "fun" or "alone" time ..... so I gave him exactly what he claimed he wanted and I have the awesome memories of fun times with our kids that he doesn't, that's his loss.

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We are lucky enough to be able to do both family trips and trips with just the two of us.

We took the girls to NYC last March and are planning an Agean cruise or trip to Spain with them this March. We haven't decided which. My girls are excellent travelers and we love the chance to take them places. We generally get adjoining rooms or rent cabins or apartments so everyone has their own space.

My parents enjoy having our kids and actually lobby for additional time with them so we are lucky to be able to get away on grown-up trips quite regularly.

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" For it to be considered a "vacation" two criteria must be met; otherwise it's just babysitting in a new location- fun for a little while but annoying after the 2nd day of mommy this and daddy that."

Parents don't babysit their own children, what a self center , hateful comment. My pity to your children. I fully support alone adult time now and then but am completely sickened by so called parents who pawn off their children every Friday and Saturday night so they can go party like rock stars. As it is with most household where both parents work children are being raised by strangers . The typical kid might see their parents for an hour before school and from 5:30 until bedtime 5 days a week. That means "others" spend more time with your children then you do. It is a necessary evil in todays work place but to expect high 5 because you can't tolerate being around your children and call it a vacation is nauseating. I raised 4 children who were born before the oldest was 5. They knew how to behave in public, restaurants and on vacation. All vacation revolved around where the children would make the most memories. Once a year my ex and I took a 4 night trip "away" but other than that our children we welcome everywhere we went. It was a privilege and a honor to raise my children, I delight in their company. They could never annoy me as much as some so called "grown ups" who act like spoiled self center brats. A father spends time with his kids, a sperm donor should have invested in condoms or simply jerked off. Trust your children will grow up with the same distaste for having you around when their old enough to make a choice , not that you'll care .

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That is why I figured 10 and 12ish. Because I figure after that, even though they only get to go every few years, they will start to lose interest in it.

I would LOVE to get to New Orleans for the New Orleans Burlesque Festival as one of our "only us" trips. This year it is on our older girls b'day so its a no go. If they move it back a week-end for next year it can be an anniversary trip for us.

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My youngest is turning 14 in a month. He's been going to Disney since he's 3, just like his older brother. He has zero desire to return. They actually want to go on a a cruise to the Middle East.

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I'm thinking more like when the girls are 10 and 12. While I know a great number of adults that love disney and my kids are welcome to go on their own when they are older it wouldn't be a family trip I would even think about asking my kids about if they were older then 15.

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Interestingly, we asked the children for the past two years whether they want to go to Disney, and the answer is a firm no, from both. The kids have gone to the Dominican Republic, Mexico, Dominica, San Juan, San Thomas, San Martin/San Marteen, St.Lucia, Some European countries, Canada, and most states. Older son has gone to Israel on his own two years ago. We're shopping around for a 2-3 week Middle East family vacation, with approximately 10 to 12 days in Israel. Disney isn't a thing for any of us anymore.

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I went to Disney as a 9 year old in 1982 for the first time. I loved it. I had all of these things I couldn't wait for our kids to see - Captain Nemo's submarine ride.... Mr. Toad's Wild Ride...

When we first got their with our kids in 2001, I was pissed off. Captain Nemo's sub ride had been decommissioned (although it was still there). Mr. Toad's Wild Ride had been turned into Winnie the Pooh's Crappy Adventures.

Thankfully, the Bear Scout Jamboree was still there.

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