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I heard, when I read that post, that ok, the guy is in swinging so he has "permission" to fuck women who are younger, smarter, prettier, sexier...and a "good little wife" will let him without acting jealous or insecure. If that's the reason a guy wants to swing, then he's in for trouble. Not just in the swinging world, but in his relationship.

So, if I reversed this: let's say a wife wants to fuck a dude who is more built, who is sexier, longer lasting, more endowed, etc., than her husband, then he should just try to "be the jackpot" for her so she can have the best of both worlds...lame ass hubby at home, and ability to go for all the things he is not.

Funny how clear it is when you turn it around a bit.

My husband and I are NOT swingers because we want to sample what we think we might be missing out on out there...that's the rub of it. We KNOW and FEEL and BELIEVE we have the best with each other. That doesn't change. That's the initial belief going into this thing we call swinging.

It's FUN being with others. It's fun being with others TOGETHER. It's fun coming back together after being with others. There might be other people we meet who have some special "technique" or enhancement or ability or attraction that is different than what we find with each other. That's ok. We are not insecure or jealous or competitive so we can enjoy those other...um...enjoyments. For example, my knees hurt and I'm short and sometimes riding him on top is not easy...and there are plenty of women who are better at it than I am, so yeah, he gets to enjoy that with others. Does that make that other woman prettier or sexier or better than me? Not to Dan it doesn't. It's just something different.

Why would your relationship be so unstable that there would even be that hint of "he could still leave her for someone prettier, thinner, sexier..."? Of course, there are no guarantees in life...but if someone is that callous that he would just be with his wife...what...until someone "better" comes along? that was implied.

Okay. This isn't any clearer, but it feels better running it around in my mind and on the page a bit.

Gina

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We only play together. Our personal preference. Hell, we got into the LS to enjoy it with one another...it isn't as much fun for us if we can't be there to share it together.

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OK why is everybody always picking on the 'One'

BTW I don't think Michelle even allows him to play with himself. Might be why he is wound so tight. ;-)

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*Argh...I'm so frustrated I can't explain anything today.*

I'll have to mark this one down. You not being able to express your point in an understandable way is kinda like Obama accually meeting a campaign promise. It just don't happen very often!!! But sexy, I did catch your drift.

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I am totally in agreement with "be the jackpot..."

But the way it was presented might leave something to be desired...

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I get what you are saying. It comes across like they are saying if you swing, he won't leave you. I don't really think that is what they meant but that is how it came out.

Carrie

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Yeah, that too.

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Maybe it has something to do with the word "lets?"

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"The above just rubs me the wrong way....can't quite put my finger on it though..."

Inferring to be someone/something you're not, just to hide said insecurities behind?

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the 3somes, and 4 somes work better in came room for us, however, with older friends, we seem to like seperate, which are never far apart, the sounds can still be heard, my wife is very vocal, so she can be heard. if anything wrong is suspected, couples should not get involved to start with, thats out take

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