Can one be to young for the lifestyle: Swingers Discussion 397081041

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User Details are only visible to members.	Penny, By the time I was your age I lived more life than you have studied. I agree with Jim, your generation is not more diverse than ours. You and your peers weren't around back then. You see only what we've grown to be, not the path that brought us to be what we are. You are seeing your peers on that path as they seek to find themselves, and that's why you think you are more diverse than us old farts. But fear not, we all thought the same of our perants generation when we were your age. As you reach our age you'll come to see that the song remains the same. I aknowledge that you are well trained and educated, but that is just book smarts, you lack the practical application that comes from "field experience". You can't learn what we were really all about from a book. If you want to know what previous generations were about, ask those that were there. I'm not saying any of this to down you, but you really need to open your mind a bit if you want to understand humanity as well as you think you do. Mebby then you could tell me who is a lunatic. Mike
Bedford PA			Username hidden (5527 post)

User Details are only visible to members.	Ditto, LOL
Center Valley PA			Username hidden (8530 post)

User Details are only visible to members.	well stated penbuttons, although at a tender 34 years old- hippies and rainbow people were WAY before my time! lol man you made me feel old and decrepit... :) without taking any of your points as absolutes- i have a few comments to the contrary... not that you are wrong- just that i disagree. :) while boundaries have definitely blurred and pretty much deteriorated over the decades, i don't know that i equate that with faster maturity. just because now it's not taboo for a girl to publicly kiss a girl- but rather, kinda "MTV cool"- Bill Clinton and his "oral sex is not sex" proclaimation, that doesn't necessarily make your generation better equipped to HANDLE the lack of restrictions. some are, some aren't- but in GENERAL, i think it adds to an already confusing time in the lives of MOST 20 somethings. ancient as i am (tonguein cheek humor here!!)- i remember my 20's being full of physical insecurities (though I give give my LEFT ARM to look THAT good again!), trying to wrap my head around who i was and what i wanted to accomplish in life, still understanding the different between love, lust, sex and making love- because it all felt the SAME until i figured it out! until i met someone who GOT IT like me, who was going in the same direction, had the same ultimate goal- yeah i partied and had fun, but some nights were so LONELY even when i wasn't alone... no amount of boundry-free, over/early exposure to sex and adult sexual behaviors can guide one thru that- only EXPERIENCE makes one truly learn. and experience means more than DOING it in my mind- it's DEALING with it... do i make any sense? i see where a certain type of young 20 something could get into this lifestyle and have relationships just as healthy and emotionally stable as their ELDERS- their the same ones who matured in other aspects of life quickly as well- career, goals, etc. But, realistically- i think that number is FAR below the number that will not be properly equipped, and will have far deeper issues with trust, confidence and intimacy than had they not dabbled so early in this thing... you penbuttons, sound like the exception to the "rule". mmmmwah! ciao, X
Sterling VA			Username hidden (92 post)

User Details are only visible to members.	Alas, Penbuttons Sweetie, you generalize WAY too much. We "ancients" are just as diverse as you young things. It's just that your experience with us "ancient mariners" is so much more limited than your experience with your own age group. Of course, that's the reason why ALL age groups have made the mistake of generalizing about every age group but that of their own peers. Jim
South Riding VA			Username hidden (8165 post)

User Details are only visible to members.	Hell, we barely trust anyone under FIFTY! ROFL Jim
South Riding VA			Username hidden (8165 post)

User Details are only visible to members.	Well..as 1/2 a couple under the 25 y/o mark, I think there needs to be a definete level of honsety & trust with someone before you can go about this lifestyle that you might not be able to get when you're just getting started as a couple. One the same note, we've been together 7.5 years so I think that we've had enough time to know & trust each other.
Wilmington DE			Username hidden (1094 post)

User Details are only visible to members.	i think it's an excellent topic! i know WE were too young at that age- we were married at 23 and still dealing with the petty jealousies, still growing "into marriage" still growing up ourselves! maturity had nothing to do with it- it was about being at that stable, comfortable place with yourself AND within your relationship. by the time our first experience came along (PUN INTENDED...) we were firmly in a strong place, we had that faith in each other that makes the fantasy fulfillment of this lifestyle that much more satisfying. there was no question of loyalty of "are you doing this b/c I am not enough for you", you'll fall for her/him and leave me... we were beyond that! young has 2 meanings in this instance- too young WITHIN a relationship, or too young- i.e.- immature, or unprepared- to deal with the feelings after the deed is done. age may or may not be a factor, considering how many old souls i've met in their early 20's. ciao! X
Sterling VA			Username hidden (92 post)

User Details are only visible to members.	We've been dabbling in things since we were both 19, yes we were married by then...lol. We only had chance encounters over they years and never did any of them occur less than a few years apart. We only started looking for other people openly when my wife decided she was interested in experiencing another woman. Thanks to the internet as we really had no idea how to proceed.
Jennings LA			Username hidden (771 post)

User Details are only visible to members.	We think we got in at just the right time, the children were heading off to school and we had new found free time that we didn't have to devote to them.
Center Valley PA			Username hidden (8530 post)

User Details are only visible to members.	I started sport fucking at 20. I met my current husband at a sex party (1979). We were both married to other people. I had cut my teeth on most things by 23. (Novice PowerXchanges and sex.) It served to get it out of my system. I maintained a fairly normal life for more than a decade. I started playing again 10 years ago, after I discovered the net. I have been playing steadily since then. I have been married to my second husband for 20 years. My own take? You either bond or you don't. You either keep your emotional prespective or you don't. I learned how to ride storms back then. My mature status only serves to strengthen my ability to keep relationships & strong feelings in their proper place. Yes, you can be too young. But I see it differently. Folks of all ages don't understand the work required to be non-monogamous. They think it's all fun and games. They underestimate the risk. They underestimate the communication, honesty, commitment, and plain ole' resolve that has to occur. The water is deep. The current swift. This is not a gig for most folks regardless of age. Mischief
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