Can one be to young for the lifestyle: Swingers Discussion 397081031

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User Details are only visible to members.	See my original post. I noted it's not age so much as the work required. One doesn't just wake up one morning with the skills to swing. It is a coming to grips with your needs kind of thing. That takes time. My youthful indiscretions were about having fun, stretching limits. They were not about growth, bonding, or even the person involved. My intentions, desires, and wants have matured over the years. The behavior is very similar but more refined. Ergo! I'm less of a slut. Agree with Pen about the net and sexuality. I would have turned out much differently if I had had information on bisexuality at 14. I just might be that combat boot wearing, leather clad, weapon carrying, butch dyke, computer geek/hacker/programer I was always meant to be. Big Smile.
Glen Burnie MD			Username hidden (2785 post)

User Details are only visible to members.	Pen sweety dont ever give up on anythingn you your interested in. Its funny about the age thing. I am a little older then you LOL
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User Details are only visible to members.	I (ladywife) was 22 when we entered the Lifestyle or whatever anyone wants to call it. (See other thread, oh my can we all argue semantics or what? LOL)Bacchus was 32 and had essentially been in it before but without the label. Back then it was just called "free love" or something like that. 25 years down the road we're more organized about it but I can't say my attitude was less mature then. IMHO swinging depends on the people not the age. We've encountered people in their 60's not mature enough for this. On the other hand we're some of those gross people who actually have done people younger than our children who range in age from 25 to 32. Some of these young couples are quite prepared to embrace swinging in a healthy manner.
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User Details are only visible to members.	I do agree obladi, Bravo Y'all! Very interesting thread!
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User Details are only visible to members.	Justy an observation from a non-participant... This has to be one of the most fascinating discussions I've seen in the forums for a long time. At times it almost appears to border on defensiveness, but then you all show that you're above that. Well done, all of you. May this discussion set the pattern for others that have not been so deep and rewarding (certain threads immediately pop up in my mind).
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User Details are only visible to members.	pen, it's so unlike you to declare such a strong opinion based solely on perception rather than the solid ground of facts, which admittedly are not always easy to find. To your great credit, however, you LISTEN and seem to modify your opinion as new information comes to you. While experience may not always be a benefit, it very seldom is detrimental. Experience is a difficult thing to measure, though. Someone who has worked the same job for 20 years may not really have 20 years' experience. They may just have one year's experience repeated 20 times. It depends so much on how much you learn and how you use what you've learned to be more effective or more productive. Time alone does not equal experience, but most people DO gain experience, i.e., learning, to achieve a higher level of understanding and/or performance than they achieved as "young'uns." You are still so young, and I think it's frustrating sometimes to be so young and yet so highly intelligent. Intelligence plus learning plus time plus keen observation plus a strong work ethic usually results in the development of WISDOM to some degree or other. I think you have all the ingredients to get there. I would love to know you 20 years from now. I expect you to be very wise by then, as a result of good use of time and experience. This discussion reminds me of why I find 20-somethings adorably cute, but to me women don't really achieve real beauty until somewhere around their mid-30s, by which time they have gained enough EXPERIENCE to develop some WISDOM about wearing the clothes, hairstyles, etc. that look best on THEM instead of on some fashion model on a magazine cover. In addition, you can SEE the wisdom in their eyes, as they have gained so much confidence and poise over time with EXPERIENCE. You 20-somethings are adorable, but you are brimming over with POTENTIAL, which means that you have not yet ACHIEVED your potential. YOU, will, almost certainly, because of your intelligence, attitude, and inquisitive mind. Honestly, I'm a huge fan of yours. If I weren't, I wouldn't even bother to try to change your view about us ancient ones. Hugs & love, Jim
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User Details are only visible to members.	Pen: That's what I meant about extrapolations. The generalizations resulting from them. Swinging is self selecting. I seriously agree (in general) about men. It's still amazing to me the (mature?) guys that hit on me like a child would. They act like they have learned NOTHING. What babies!! They want to get laid and they have NO idea how to go about it. amazing. No wonder they tend to be afraid of me. ROTFLMAO. I do know how to approach ladies. wink. hugs, Mischief<--remember you are not your average 20-something. Neither is my gf. She regularly scares men. LOL.
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User Details are only visible to members.	In general, I'd say so! ROFL
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User Details are only visible to members.	Well, couldn't it be also argued that a person younger than 25 might have a lot less to lose than trying the lifestyle? If for whatever reason that person decides they don't like it, they can chalk it up to their crazy 20s and call it a day.
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User Details are only visible to members.	Pen: The psychological construct isn't that hard to figure out. What do YOU prefer age-wise? A peer or an older person? That's the difference Va, Jaw, and others are making. The only way to cut your teeth, is to cut your teeth. That said. I KNOW you have much more experience than your angelic pictures would indicate. Kiss. That's the difference. Book knowledge allows for extrapolations. Unfortunately, one can extrapolate straight out into the bushes. Data points are needed to keep the deductions on target. The youngsters of today are no different than their previous peers. They are just as insecure, lacking in direction, needing experience, reality checks, and the entire rite of passage we all endure. There is no way to get there other than to live through it. That's why swinging is more populated with veterans of life, not folks just out of boot camp. kiss, smile, Mischief
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