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Created by: AngieBob Original Starting post for this thread:
We sometimes invite a single to join us These guidelines might help you Realize that as a single male, you are in a "dime a dozen" situation. Couples can in fact have any and all single males they want, when they want them. That if you are the least bit disrespectful in any way to either the female or the male of the couple, you have just shot yourself in the foot. Don't put the moves on the female unless she puts them onto you and she makes it crystal clear that she wants your body. Even before thinking she does, ASK HER! Do not ASSUME! Ask her partner. You being a male and he, can determine if anything at all may occur. You are going to party with his partner, therefore ask! If you are going to meet a couple in a motel/hotel setting, pay for the room, or least half of it, split the cost. While you are partying with her or them, do not put "bar room hustle lines" on her. She most likely will not want to hear and he, her partner, sure as hell won't want to. Let them make the first move. Let them approach you. You don't approach them. Be thoughtful of the male of the couple. Don't "hog" her, invite him to help you satisfy her, if he is not already. Don't feel bad if he just sits and watches. This is one thing that most men enjoy, watching their partner party! Do what she tells you. No, not hanging from your toes, but if she says to you "slower, faster, deeper, not so hard, not so fast, gentle, not there," etc. do it! If she says "that's enough", then that is enough. If she tells you twice then you are out of line! Include her partner in all of the conversations. Let him know how appreciative you are that they invited you to join them. When you are done not only thank her but thank him as well. Your attitude, more importantly even than your performance, most often will determine if in fact they will invite you back. Never, I repeat NEVER attempt to contact her while he isn't home. If you want to call them to see if they want to get together again, ask for him, even if she answers. Say she answers the phone, "Hi Jane, How are you? (small talk for only a couple of minutes, then ask) Is Tarzan there?" If not then ask Jane to have him call you. Be polite but DO NOT just shoot the shit. She may misunderstand, and if that occurs you are out of there. The bottom line is respect. You most certainly must respect them as a couple. There guys, some tips. And as long as we are talking tips, I f you are on the net attempting to party with a couple, tell them the truth. Don't tell them you're this or that or the other or have a mile long perma-cock if you don't. If they ask for a picture, send them one, not "let me see yours first." That my friend will get you 86'd faster than telling them they smell! If they request that you meet them at 8:00 pm, be there, don't play games with them. Don't find a couple's ad and attempt to "hustle" her. You will lose out my friend! All you'll do is totally piss them off! Unless of course you're an asshole, and if that's the case, don't expect to party anyway. Speaking of that, you would be surprised, all of you single guys, on just how many single women are out there that want to party, even you married men that wanted to party alone without your wife. How many of your wives want to party? I know, I talk to them! Women that know their husbands etc. want to come too, or even that have attended CandleLight with her, they want to know why he doesn't want her to be a part of it. Gentlemen, give your wives credit, they are smarter than you think! As the old adage goes, you can fool all the people some of the time, but you can't fool all of the people all of the time, including your wives. CandleLight firmly believes that "Cheaters don't swing and Swingers don't cheat." Good Luck to you. Angie & Bob

Created by: AngieBob
Original Starting post for this thread:

We sometimes invite a single to join us   These guidelines might help you  

Realize that as a single male, you are in a "dime a dozen" situation. Couples can in fact have any and all single males they want, when they want them. 
That if you are the least bit disrespectful in any way to either the female or the male of the couple, you have just shot yourself in the foot. 

Don't put the moves on the female unless she puts them onto you and she makes it crystal clear that she wants your body. Even before thinking she does, ASK HER! Do not ASSUME! 

Ask her partner. You being a male and he, can determine if anything at all may occur. You are going to party with his partner, therefore ask! 
If you are going to meet a couple in a motel/hotel setting, pay for the room, or least half of it, split the cost. 

While you are partying with her or them, do not put "bar room hustle lines" on her. She most likely will not want to hear and he, her partner, sure as hell won't want to. 

Let them make the first move. Let them approach you. You don't approach them. 

Be thoughtful of the male of the couple. Don't "hog" her, invite him to help you satisfy her, if he is not already. 

Don't feel bad if he just sits and watches. This is one thing that most men enjoy, watching their partner party! 

Do what she tells you. No, not hanging from your toes, but if she says to you "slower, faster, deeper, not so hard, not so fast, gentle, not there," etc. do it! If she says "that's enough", then that is enough. If she tells you twice then you are out of line! 

Include her partner in all of the conversations. Let him know how appreciative you are that they invited you to join them. 

When you are done not only thank her but thank him as well. Your attitude, more importantly even than your performance, most often will determine if in fact they will invite you back. 

Never, I repeat NEVER attempt to contact her while he isn't home. If you want to call them to see if they want to get together again, ask for him, even if she answers. Say she answers the phone, "Hi Jane, How are you? (small talk for only a couple of minutes, then ask) Is Tarzan there?" If not then ask Jane to have him call you. Be polite but DO NOT just shoot the shit. She may misunderstand, and if that occurs you are out of there. 

The bottom line is respect. You most certainly must respect them as a couple. 
There guys, some tips. And as long as we are talking tips, I f you are on the net attempting to party with a couple, tell them the truth. Don't tell them you're this or that or the other or have a mile long perma-cock if you don't. If they ask for a picture, send them one, not "let me see yours first." That my friend will get you 86'd faster than telling them they smell! If they request that you meet them at 8:00 pm, be there, don't play games with them.

Don't find a couple's ad and attempt to "hustle" her. You will lose out my friend! All you'll do is totally piss them off! Unless of course you're an asshole, and if that's the case, don't expect to party anyway. Speaking of that, you would be surprised, all of you single guys, on just how many single women are out there that want to party, even you married men that wanted to party alone without your wife. How many of your wives want to party? I know, I talk to them! Women that know their husbands etc. want to come too, or even that have attended CandleLight with her, they want to know why he doesn't want her to be a part of it. Gentlemen, give your wives credit, they are smarter than you think!

As the old adage goes, you can fool all the people some of the time, but you can't fool all of the people all of the time, including your wives. CandleLight firmly believes that "Cheaters don't swing and Swingers don't cheat." 

Good Luck to you.

Angie  & Bob

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User Details are only visible to members.	I didn't say I have't been laid in three years.I said not at the club......BS
Kingston TN			Username hidden (1912 post)

User Details are only visible to members.	When I'm friends with a couple, I'm friends with BOTH of them. If I can't see someone as being a vanilla friend (or if I'm embarrassed to be seen with them in public), I couldn't possibly see them as a swing friend.
Memphis TN			Username hidden (3540 post)

User Details are only visible to members.	Regular guys are indeed a dime a dozen. The good/experienced ones are a little less common. For every really nice one we've met, we've gotten emails from 20 that seemed clueless. If you hope to have a longer term friendship with a couple- even the good guys, you need to be friends with the husband too.
Bensalem PA			Username hidden (777 post)

User Details are only visible to members.	You guys realize you're responding to something that was posted 3000 days ago, right? The OP hasn't even logged in for almost a year now. T
Danville PA			Username hidden (1805 post)

User Details are only visible to members.	"Realize that as a single male, you are in a "dime a dozen" situation. " That is complete and total bullshit. Arrogance like that pisses me off.
Memphis TN			Username hidden (3540 post)

User Details are only visible to members.	AngieBob....AMEN !
Elk Grove Village IL			Username hidden (2526 post)

User Details are only visible to members.	I assume there was a more recent post that Sed responded to that has since been deleted. Yes? T
Danville PA			Username hidden (1805 post)

User Details are only visible to members.	That's correct. We don't need no stinking sex. It's highly overrated! Swinging is NOT about sex!
Colts Neck NJ			Username hidden (12213 post)

User Details are only visible to members.	I been going to one club for three years.not played once.I go to have fun.I talk to some people,get to see some t&a,get to eat,and relax,listern to some good music.not trying to get laid,but looking for that O my god what just happen sex.when it happens it happens.why worry.just enjoy......BS
Kingston TN			Username hidden (1912 post)

User Details are only visible to members.	Yes there are SSOOOO many sigle guys out there that are just plaine stupid and just looking to get laid... sigle guys that are SSOOOO plain stupid, are just looking to get laid, swinging has nothing, I repeat, nothing, not a damn thing to do with getting laid.
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