there is the dutch rudder........ as an option to relive stress LOL

mostly I was being a smartass about sex.

if it got that bad I would take matters into my own hands but for right now my sweetie getting better is TOP priority.

she did offer to let me to play with the woman of another couple who are open to that but I turned it down.

as said for better or for worse.

Oh good, now I am relieved it was not just me thinking that same thought.

If you care enough about the other person you take things into your own hands until the other is healthy.
I just asked my husband about this thread.
He made the jerking off hand motion and said" Tell him to do this for now.

Shelly had said something one time about how you go into the nurture mode and how sex doesn't even become a second thought.

That is how it is with us.

M, I believe that it is/was a tongue in cheek post. Making levity out of a situation that has him concerned for his wife's health. That is why I made my smart ass comment on handling it. My personal experience when my wife was sick was to spend as much time with her as possible. And show her all the affection she could handle. If that caused a boner I relieved it myself.

Maybe he is not ambidextrous.
He does not want to look silly with only one buffed out arm :)

I am sure many guys ( and woman) handle it themselves until their spouse feels better. Why not?

but it is worth it ......
the whole for better or worse thing, because the memories of the better are far greater than those of the worse,
and some of the whining of some singles I have been reading of late reminds me of why we opted to take the plunge over 21 years ago and not look back, saying "oh whoa is me"

I have been feeling like total crap for months now.
Just because one part of me is out of commission , I can still manage to do "other" things with my husband.
Between his illness and me being out of commission, we have been taking turns with not feeling well enough to "have fun"
It all falls into that "in sickness and health" clause .

number one daring, I am sorry to hear that your wife has had post operative complications. I don't know, I can't really give an opinion because I just don't know how y'all roll. I know you are horny and lonely and sexually frustrated. I just cannot say because I don't know your wife and what she is okay with as far as what is and is not respectful to her. I do hope she feels better soon though.

"in the meantime its torture.....my goodness my NUTS hurt........not used to going this long without sex....... "

Daring it looks like you may have to handle(yuk yuk) this one solo.

Well lets just think of your poor wife who too has not had sex and is in pain recovering from her surgery.
I am sure she would love to trade places with you :)