If I read Ops post right, her intention is to help this guy meet some women.

If you guys are friends, then be his friend. If you don't want to sleep with him. Don't. Just like before.

The first step is presentation. Find a gay man to help him with his wardrobe. he will know what looks good, on a man from a woman's point of view ;) Trust me, this works. Also self confidence. People in general gravitate to it.

The second step to getting laid is talking to women. He's talking to you because there's a prior relationship there and your safe. He has to get out there and meet women. This displays self confidence also. See above :)

I'm not understanding what you are meaning. do you mean he is outdated in how he relates to women, or in how he dresses, how he speaks, etc. I would not write him off, number one. He is a widower and I am assuming he was in a long term marriage before his wife passed away; so remember, he has not been in the dating scene for many years. I would suggest first off being his good friend. If his clothes need help take his ass to the mall. However, if you just are NOT interested just say thank you for your offer but no thank you.

it is very simple. you are not attracted to him so dont do it or you may end up with a guy who will be following you like a lost puppy.

maybe convince him to update his style to help him out but sex would be just a mercy fuck.

First of all we agree with VALOVERS. Beyond that if he really is your friend then you need to find a way to be honest with him. Tell him he needs to update so to speak and as a friend you want to help him. If it works out than he may find someone he is more compatible with. Who knows, you mat even change your mind.

First, do no harm!

Oh, wait! That's for physicians! LOL

OK, here's a couple. If it doesn't feel right for BOTH people, stop pushing it.
Second, NO means NO. No further explanation is necessary. Graciously accepting that he is not physically appealing to every woman is an asset to any man.

Jim

I have a widowed male friend..he needs sex and thinks he wants me....., but his style is totally 1960's.....there is NO chemistry,and I am NOT turned on....but he's a nice guy. He is TOTALLY out of step.
I am looking, for not more than, 10 rules for the 21st century man (to get laid).....YOU TELL ME....help me help him!