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TOPIC: Why is it that so many men in the LS have issues performing

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User Details are only visible to members.	You said a Mouthful ;) Mrs Sav
Weaver AL			Username hidden (4084 post)

User Details are only visible to members.	It sounds like a wonderful combination. If being willing to play sexually with me makes a woman "easy" then I love "easy" women for whom I like to be quite hard. I guess opposites do attract (or work well together).
Fullerton CA			Username hidden (14 post)

User Details are only visible to members.	I'm EASY and insist my male playmate be HARD.....Call me Picky ! The Ever Demanding Mrs Sav
Weaver AL			Username hidden (4084 post)

User Details are only visible to members.	Frankly I think the idea of "easy" women is a vestige of male-centric society that, just like so many groups of people in the past, seeks to control another group of people using sex as a bludgeon. First they create a stigma attached to the phrase "easy woman" or just "easy" in a sexual sense then keep expanding the defining aspects of that phrase to include the activities that tend to lead toward independence. The only way to avoid the stigma is to act only within strict parameters dampening self determination and creating a sub-class of controlled people. Consider that determining what makes someone "easy" can be open to debate: (Huge disclaimer: I have no real opinion on the content of the following link. I pulled it mostly at random after a quick search. It might be good. It might be bad. I have no idea who Ms. Claire is. I pulled the periods to try and get this to post.) www marieclaire com/sex-love/men/looking-easy-100227
Fullerton CA			Username hidden (14 post)

User Details are only visible to members.	"I just REALLY don't see why people can't have a good time without sex. Don't get me wrong, I like having sex, but easy women have never been a turn on for me. I like to work for it. I like to build it up. " Easy women ? LOL this is a swingers site not the dating game . I'm not here to build a meaningful relationship with you. Clearly you must find something attractive about "easy" women as said wife IS upstairs banging some guy she hasn't really "bonded" with . ;) Jealousy has nothing to do with it at all. We're here to add to YOUR great sex life not give you wife what she might lack at home. We're here for SEX with others we find attractive and although I adore foreplay and a varied of orgasms I want the full meal not just the appetizer round. Nor do I want 3 foreplay "dates" with anyone only to find out they are incapable of intercourse or a lousy lay . Just for the record we don't ever play in separate rooms as a large part of our turn on is watching and interacting with each other. My scenario was purely hypothetical in response to your preference. Mrs Sav
Weaver AL			Username hidden (4084 post)

User Details are only visible to members.	Ya, I guess I just have followed a different path and seen how much enjoyment can come out of foreplay with or without sex. For anyone who has never attempted tantra, you really should. And ya I get your point, your husband up stairs fucking the other guys wife...but honestly that almost sounds like you're on the edge of being jealous! (Not saying you are, don't get all pissy) just saying. I just REALLY don't see why people can't have a good time without sex. Don't get me wrong, I like having sex, but easy women have never been a turn on for me. I like to work for it. I like to build it up. I guess it's the same as the minute man who gets a nut and is done. Would you rather have multiple clitoral and gspot orgasms or be able to say you had shitty sex for a minute and are "even" with your spouse?
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User Details are only visible to members.	LOL RDY.....AGREEDED Not Pee lol Nibbles, hugs and kisses Mrs Sav
Weaver AL			Username hidden (4084 post)

User Details are only visible to members.	"I also think it's funny how pissed some women can get instead of salvaging a good time. I used to have hours and hours of foreplay when I was younger, without ever having sex. Two or three dates like that, THEN have sex and it was always better because of the buildup. Noone ever does that anymore. Too much emphasis on the dick working. " Although I think getting "pissed" is completely wrong as no one should be made to feel bad I have to comment on the last part of your statement. "Two or three dates like that, THEN have sex and it was always better because of the buildup. Noone ever does that anymore. Too much emphasis on the dick working. " In our case we aren't "dating" anyone, we aren't here for strictly foreplay but for sex. As I stated in a different forum(same topic) everyone has an issue at some time or another and I don't think an occasional issue is a big deal BUT I am also not wasting our playtime with anyone who thinks I should be satisfied more than once with just foreplay.....I don't care how fabulous he thinks his hands and mouth are. If the shoe was on the other foot and the woman couldn't or wouldn't ( for emotional,mental /health issues or whatever) perform while her husband was banging your wife how many times are you as a couple going to meet with them? Are you going to be satisfied with her just wanting to make out and maybe some manual stimulation and go home and think to yourself "WOW what an awesome time I had , I can't wait to see them again!" If you and your spouse are here for soft swap than that can work just fine but for those of us here for full swap that just isn't going to cut it . On another note in reference to RDY's comment......" I heard a woman encouraging a guy once, saying things like, " you can do it; give it to me baby, i know you can." I thought to myself, " Oh boy, THIS aint gonna work out." and it didn't."...............heads up men that probably isn't going to work on women either. Not much I find as distracting as "Come on baby, you can do it, Squirt for ME RIGHT NOW ' Sex talk can be fun but it can also be FUNNY . Don't order me to Cum or Squirt....MAKE ME ! Mrs Sav
Weaver AL			Username hidden (4084 post)

User Details are only visible to members.	I heard a woman encouraging a guy once, saying things like, " you can do it; give it to me baby, i know you can." I thought to myself, " Oh boy, THIS aint gonna work out." and it didn't. Now that's so funny shit. that would be like me telling a women ,come on baby you can do it have that orgasm. I can honestly say I have never had a problem (regardless of what or how much I have put into my body) getting an erection with a women who had good oral skills.
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User Details are only visible to members.	I've found that I actually drink very little when I'm out at a club or far less than I do when simply going out to a bar. While I know that the vanilla world often uses drinking at a bar as a preamble to anonymous, sloppy, and unfulfilling sex for some reason I have the likely misconception that in the lifestyle there would be less impetus to inebriate. Admittedly I've seen a fair bit of drinking and on at least once occasion met a young woman at a club who was really too drunk for me to, in good conscience, have sex with her. We've only been active for a few months. I know I haven't had time for a whole lot of activities so my dataset is relatively small. Does it seem more common, overall, that lifestylers drink as a social icebreaker to drink to get their inhibitions low enough to play?
Fullerton CA			Username hidden (14 post)

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