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TOPIC: Why is it that so many men in the LS have issues performing
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I think all men have had issues performing. We try try to live up to the porn industry standards of sex. Is our penis big enough, will I be able to last more than 3 miniutes, will I give her an orgasm? Alot of preasure we have to endure. When the lady's biggest issue is will she get wet. If she don't, there's lube for that.

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I'm sexy, and I know it......

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I agree with RDY and I too would find that behavior repulsive. I am more than just a warm body. That being said be careful with " Especially if you find limp dicks happening a lot, you might take a hint." Many men have a problem far beyond their immediate power and although I am there to please you as well as myself your hard on is primarily YOUR ISSUE and perhaps one would suggest before you consider taking a women to bed just because you can you might want to be sure she actually turns you on and you are fully capable of getting an erection with her, medically and physiologically .

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Back to the original question. In my experience, a lot of women who have extensive LS experience get so jaded that they dispense completely with seduction. I've had a lot of women whom I used to enjoy change from attractive to not. The reason was that as soon as you get to the bedroom they hurriedly strip naked and flop down on the bed. And just lie there. As if to say "do me."

Veteran swinger men are not turned on by seeing a woman naked. What turns them on is the playful, flirtatious interaction that proceeds sex.

If you are one of those women who think being there naked is all you have to do, think again. Especially if you find limp dicks happening a lot, you might take a hint.

I'm in my mid-60s now, and whether I have a performance issue or not seems to depend totally on whether the woman I'm with is seductive or "just there."

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You said a Mouthful ;)

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It sounds like a wonderful combination. If being willing to play sexually with me makes a woman "easy" then I love "easy" women for whom I like to be quite hard. I guess opposites do attract (or work well together).

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I'm EASY and insist my male playmate be HARD.....Call me Picky !

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Frankly I think the idea of "easy" women is a vestige of male-centric society that, just like so many groups of people in the past, seeks to control another group of people using sex as a bludgeon.

First they create a stigma attached to the phrase "easy woman" or just "easy" in a sexual sense then keep expanding the defining aspects of that phrase to include the activities that tend to lead toward independence. The only way to avoid the stigma is to act only within strict parameters dampening self determination and creating a sub-class of controlled people.

Consider that determining what makes someone "easy" can be open to debate:

(Huge disclaimer: I have no real opinion on the content of the following link. I pulled it mostly at random after a quick search. It might be good. It might be bad. I have no idea who Ms. Claire is. I pulled the periods to try and get this to post.)

www marieclaire com/sex-love/men/looking-easy-100227

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"I just REALLY don't see why people can't have a good time without sex. Don't get me wrong, I like having sex, but easy women have never been a turn on for me. I like to work for it. I like to build it up. "

Easy women ? LOL this is a swingers site not the dating game . I'm not here to build a meaningful relationship with you. Clearly you must find something attractive about "easy" women as said wife IS upstairs banging some guy she hasn't really "bonded" with . ;)

Jealousy has nothing to do with it at all. We're here to add to YOUR great sex life not give you wife what she might lack at home. We're here for SEX with others we find attractive and although I adore foreplay and a varied of orgasms I want the full meal not just the appetizer round. Nor do I want 3 foreplay "dates" with anyone only to find out they are incapable of intercourse or a lousy lay .

Just for the record we don't ever play in separate rooms as a large part of our turn on is watching and interacting with each other. My scenario was purely hypothetical in response to your preference.

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Ya, I guess I just have followed a different path and seen how much enjoyment can come out of foreplay with or without sex. For anyone who has never attempted tantra, you really should.

And ya I get your point, your husband up stairs fucking the other guys wife...but honestly that almost sounds like you're on the edge of being jealous! (Not saying you are, don't get all pissy) just saying.

I just REALLY don't see why people can't have a good time without sex. Don't get me wrong, I like having sex, but easy women have never been a turn on for me. I like to work for it. I like to build it up.

I guess it's the same as the minute man who gets a nut and is done. Would you rather have multiple clitoral and gspot orgasms or be able to say you had shitty sex for a minute and are "even" with your spouse?

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