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Not sure about others, but I had a small bit of that for a few minutes doing our first encounter with another couple. Odd, because I wasn't uncomfortable or anything. Then I got sort of frustrated with myself and started a mental back and forth on my own psyche.

Thing got working and things were fine. And it was a soft swap situation, so that made it easier too.

Later though, we realized that other than being new, we'd been out at a wine festival for a a couple hours earlier and had a bunch in my system. We were also using a different brand of condoms than we normally use, which were too tight, and most importantly, I was too focused on my significant other.

Her entertainment and comfort was of utmost importance. I was so worried and focused on her I kinda lost focus on the fact that there was fun to be had for myself.

Needless to say, I didn't do myself any favors. You live and learn. :)

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For some reason he doesn't think it's worth risking death to get a nice stiffy. Some day he may understand the frustration I feel."

Jay is this same way, all of those meds have been ruled out due to his blood pressure. Same thing, the dr said that no party is worth him ending up inside a coffin. I kind of agree with the doctor. Have you had your testosterone levels checked? As men get older their test levels lower naturally, as our estrogen does. This can DEFINATELY mess with your sexuality, your erections, confidence, everything. You may want to ask about this, there are meds that can help you if this is your issue. I am sorry you are frustrated. Trust me, noone can relate to being frustrated with your body like I can relate to you. You may also want to ask about a pump....I have read that they work wonders as well. I am sorry if this is too personal. But there is NOTHING to be ashamed of. These are valid medical conditions and there are treatments out there for you. Hugs.


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are good many will wI in most cases have not had a problem performing this is not bragging just saying in most cases. However there has been a few times that has caused me to go limp in the night. My very first encounter in the LS I could not perform as I was with a guys wife and he wanted to watch and I just kept thinking of the movie misery and thought I was going to wind up in a cooking pot as i did not think people really did this, another after years in the LS bad smells is a big turn off if we get into play and someone has bad body odor I cannot get the scent out of my mind and I go limp. Over drinking is another but I seldom if at all do that but if it is a wild night after awhile yeah, or over play if you are a big hit for the night and you play with a few ladies and more want what they had then after a few you just cannot do it no matter how sexy she is. The last that has happen is take one for the team as a single male sometimes you are asked to well you know and she just does not appeal not much else to say. But got to lovr those super rich men that made the V...wow hats off to you

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Bigstorm64 is the man!!!

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We're new to the LS as well, and I had a "performance issue" on our second meeting with the couple we've met and are playing with. (Disclaimer: A lot of champagne and a hot tub were involved, so....;)

Thankfully, the couple is very understanding and our enthusiasm for one another hasn't lessened. Personally, I attribute this partly to nervousness. When I think back to my single days, I'd get the occasional performance issue with women to whom I was very attracted. As time went on, these occurrences became virtually non-existent. I'm big into pleasing my partner, and sometimes may put a little too much subconscious pressure on myself. I don't worry about it much, though it can be very frustrating (especially when my wife is having the time of her life right next to us...LOL)

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I had troubles once when I was cold. It was cold in the room. I took my socks off. Everyone else had already done that. My feet got cold. I got distracted. I was bummed out.

What are the coldest conditions that any of you guys have ever performed satisfactorily?

I wear big wool socks from now on, LOL.

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I'm glad I found this thread. She and I are new to the LS and are loving it. I get get soooo turned on watching her and when it is just her and I having sex together everything on me works fine and we are both very satisfied. Again since we are new to the LS, we have only played with two other couples and both times I could not get erect and stay that way when I was playing with the other woman.

We were all having fun and before we began playing with the other couple I was erect and ready to go and even will me and the other guys wife was fondling each other. But when it was time to the little guy to perform, he was a no show. I still made sure I helped her get off. It's not her fault I was soft.

I am not sure why this is happening. Maybe it is a mental thing and I just need to keep at it. I think we are meeting with the couple again next Saturday. I do have a Viagra and I think I'm going to take it before we meet.

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Age IS a factor, Health issus IS a factor, Improper diet IS a factor. including a few others. If the issues cime from preventable reasons like health and nutrition then change it! Simple. If it is something that can't be changed then at least use the things below the cock and tell upfront that no matter what you do, Mr. Winkey isn't going to wake up. I worked on a guy for what seemed to be hours before he said that he had his prostrate removed. OK, so chances are there isn't going to be hard on. So tell me upfront that there may be a problem, so I can make a choice. I would take hours of play and fun and laughing over a hard cock. We went to a party with another couple that was tryng to be with us for weeks. We started playing and he went naked to the bed, layed back and expected me to "DO Him". I lasted a minute and walked away. At least be an active participant, we are?

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lets see no foreplay,no flirting,does she really want me,what if I do something she don't like,is she doing it cause she want to,is she doing it for him, perform now or you will never get aother chance,is he really ok with this,I wish I could relax more,its late and I am tried,he hasn't smiled all night,she hasn't looked me in the eyes all night,she is one of the nicest woman I have ever been with,hardon don't fail me now,o no I'am thinking about it not getting hard,don't think about it don't think about it,drink a nutter bear to relax,no drink to much and you won't be able to perform,hope I don't cum to soon,what if I can't cum at all,does she cum easy,does it take a long time for her to cum,is my dick to small ,is it to big,is it to short,is it to long,well I just came it my pants,time to go home,bye, see you some other time,had a wonderful evening.and you think all this in five seconds after she says lets get nekkid.....issuses I don't have issuses....HA HA..and every person thinks this at one time or another.men and women.with men it shows.women can fake an orgasam,men can't fake a hardon..live form down town bull shit ville.this is BS sigining off.......BS

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This is a good thread, and I should stick to the subject.

We were new to the lifestyle the time I had an issue. it seemed the sex was to personal. We were all in a small bedroom at a club. This is suppose to be fun sex, not love making. We like to be in an open room where you can have fun. Laugh will each other try little tricks you may have learned.

We avoid going into small rooms to play now.

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