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TOPIC: Why is it that so many men in the LS have issues performing
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I have ED issues, which are caused by my BP medicine, not by any lack of desire or psychological reasons. I cannot get an erection on demand, but I can and do get rock hard erections when my female or male or couple lovers take it slowly and stimulate me as I stimulate them during foreplay. I have Levitra to compensate for lovers who are not inclined to take it slowly and stimulate me ;)

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17 guys in a row huh, did she call Guinness ?

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A couple had invited me to meet them in their VIP room at TJ's IR Gangbang however when I arrived they flipped me the bird and turned their backs on me. I presume that they had finally after months of emails actually read my profile.

But we all know the saying: Couples are a dime a dozen. I wandered through the club as I waited for my prearranged backups to arrive. I happened by a room where several people were watching a black fellow floundering in his efforts to mount a young woman doggystyle. As sex is not a spectator sport, I asked if she could use a stiff one and she eagerly agreed and began oral. But moments later frustrated with the failure of the first guy she proclaimed she'd had enough and left.

Minutes later, she approached me at the bar apologizing saying that she had given the other fellow several chances. She proclaimed she was there to get laid by as many men as possible, was not being particular (thank you very much) and that I seemed capable. So we returned to a room and I was quickly ready to put paid to her shutout, but she would under no condition do bareback and so our purpose was thwarted.

Nevertheless, hours later, as failure after failure after failure of men to perform, she beckoned to me to join her in yet another room as at least able to get it stiff in her mouth. She told me that 17 men had failed to even get it hard. By this time, she had complained of her plight to several other women many of whom were actively recruiting to find someone to have sex with her.

I meanwhile was driving my rod into her mouth and exorting her to open her throat for me. A crowd had gathered and one woman blurted out, "You must be that narcissist!" I looked and found the source to be an attractive redhead and took her words as an invitation and quickly left the room with her.

But one wonders is that what it takes, an incipient madman, in order to perform?

The eager woman came to me again later to tell me how much she hated me and was angry with me for not being able to help her. She went home from an IR gangbang with at least 20 single guys there without ever being laid. I asked her if she had tried closing the door to give the guy or guys more privacy and she said that she had.

Because of my affliction, I seldom go to group events but when I have gone to gangbangs it seems the last thing that is going to happen is a gangbang. Most people are mere spectators and the proclaimed licentiousness of many nine-tenths pretense!

Mon Dieu!

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I think a lot of guys tend to have performance issues with age and most of us here are well into our 30s by the time we get the nerve to sign up. Not only that, the ladies tend to go with older guys because young guys often have absolutely no clue how to make women feel comfortable and have no game but can probably fuck like champs. Not a good combination because the ladies then go with the experienced older guys who make them feel psychologically comfortable but are less than stellar in bed because they're getting older and out of shape.

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"If you've properly prepared, you will have the requisite confidence when called to perform."

What dream are you in?

If a guy cant get it up, his mouth sure as shit aint broke. One can think of other things besides fucking if there is a man down. I agree, it is not the guys fault. No different than if I dont orgasm during a play session. It is what it is, deal with it and have fun. You make a big issue of it, you might as well just call it a night and turn on the nightly news...

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I have had issues with this in our swinging past....and admittedly, it can definately hit your confidence after awhile. However...in my opinion, a woman never has the right to act out or make him feel like shit. Being mean, even out of frustration, never helps any situation. Making him feel like less of a man is NOT going to get his cock hard, let me tell you....and you only walk away feeling like a cruel bitch and its just a nasty ass thing overall. It is easy for me. As a woman, if I am dry due to being nervous, tired, that time in my cycle.....I take some lube, put it on and there you go. My parts just work. That gives me a confidence men will simply never have. The cock, from what I am told...is like a woman in several respects lol....he does what and when he wants to and doesnt give a fuck what anyone thinks about it.


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Mondieu, thank you sweets!!! That is very kind of you to say...and it is greatly appreciated. You are definately bad ass yourself!


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i will say this though, several guys have mentioned that the woman's reaction to such a situation is a big deal. Swinging is like going out with someone and getting some play on the first date. It's exciting, there's a new person, but there's also unfamiliarity.

You can let the psychological part of things really mess you up if you aren't careful. The woman's reaction to the situation can be critical. If she freaks out and gets offended, that can might just mess the guy up more. If she's understanding, attentive, and slows things down to work him up and inflate his confidence, she can be in a for a good time.

With sex, it still takes two.

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Shelly Lost_j1, you are so stunningly beautiful.

Oh yes, the thought of failure encroaches and normally when the feast is at its finest. For me the overarching theme is control of the physical and the psychological.

Sex is a physical activity and you have to be prepared just like any other athletic event. If you've properly prepared, you will have the requisite confidence when called to perform.

1. Know when to fold them: I cancelled an assignation for tonight and tomorrow afternoon rather than disappoint. Listen to your body. I went to the gym this morning after an incredible night and could not lift that barge or tote that bale. I needed more time to recover. The big four oh is on the horizon and I have to admit that and grapple the harder.

2. Control the environment: I prefer hosting. I am completely at ease on my turf where above all else I control the ambient temperature. Like KurtEZ1, with me cold is a certain shriveler. I have to have it warm enough to quickly break into a sweat and I sweat like a quarterhorse.

3. Keep up your Health: Sex is a sport. You must have your health. Exercise. Eat right. I pound vasodilators so that my vascularity is evident. It is natural rather than using an ED drug that also promote nitric oxide formation. Adequate bloodflow is what keeps you erect. Veins constricted by poor health just will not do the job.

4. Eat at least one hour before: They say now that cramping after eating is an old wives tale, even for all those who've drowned swimming after eating; but I think it is obvious that blood used for digestion is not there to pump you up. I also get severe abdominal muscle cramps if I've eaten to close to sexual activity.

5. Maintain hydration and stay away from drugs. Again, would you have 4 martinis before competing in 1000 meter hurdles? Don't drink alcohol prior to sex at all. If at their home ask for water. Overnight or extended playtime, I bring my protein powder and l-arginine with me. let them think you're weird. You can't go, go, go running on fumes. The body must be fed. If you last ate an hour before meeting and then have 2 hours of sex, you need protein replenishment.

Psychologically:

1. Do not compromise. This is the Single Male Advantage. Couples nearly always have to compromise or spend their time at home. I use my profile to stack the deck entirely in my favour. Every meet is by definition: all I ever wanted. So determine your criteria of all systems go and stick to it. You should be throbbing on your way to meet your friends.

2. Destress. If you can make sex the very action that is your stress relief you'll be able to approach it with little anxiety and with a feeling of emotional release and laughter.

Works for my little world anyway.

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Welcome to the Forums Playtime.

-M

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