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TOPIC: Why is it that so many men in the LS have issues performing

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User Details are only visible to members.	I also wanted to say, I think a huge part of it is the women who don't know how to react when it doesn't work. There is things you can do and things you shouldn't. I also think it's funny how pissed some women can get instead of salvaging a good time. I used to have hours and hours of foreplay when I was younger, without ever having sex. Two or three dates like that, THEN have sex and it was always better because of the buildup. Noone ever does that anymore. Too much emphasis on the dick working.
Grand Blanc MI			Username hidden (143 post)

User Details are only visible to members.	I agree with the flirtation stage being important. Every person is different. I am one of those guys who talks like I am a porn star, and when I am comfortable, I can back that up, but when I am with someone I hardly know, a lot of times it just won't work when it's game time. When I was single, I wasn't one of those fuck every girl I can on the first date kind of guys. I was always more into getting to know someone, taking it slow, and enjoying the beginning stages, so swinging is a huge change that I still have to get used to. I also think though, that too much teasing and foreplay is usually the cause. just as I can only do so many pushups, the same goes for the little guy. Too many up and downs and he is out. I've noticed, the times I have had issues, is when you are teasing each other all night, touching, getting into it, then stopping to check if everyone is okay, or whatever, this up and down all night just kills it. Valovers said it perfectly! Best advice I have seen on here in a while.
Grand Blanc MI			Username hidden (143 post)

User Details are only visible to members.	Evil confusing picture management. Thanks for the answer.
Fullerton CA			Username hidden (14 post)

User Details are only visible to members.	Public Galleries are the only ones available for Forum use as far as I can tell. You appear to have one public pic, one private pic(locked), and two person pics(locked) when I view your galleries.
Fort Worth TX			Username hidden (1434 post)

User Details are only visible to members.	Anecdotally, my first time playing with more than a single partner was a playmate whose boyfriend wanted to watch although she ended up taking both of us at once. There was definitely some foreplay, stripping oral play and fondling before we all moved onto a bed and I had no trouble keeping my end up. A few months later at a club my partner was having her birthday lesbian sex on another level and I slipped away with a very hot young woman. She was already naked having just been unsatisfied by two other men and we jumped to the sex pretty quickly. While it wasn't a "failure to launch" I didn't stay nearly as hard, nearly as long as I did when there had been some notable foreplay. With my partner in a large "see and be seen" room despite people openly enjoying the show and occasional women reaching over to fondle one or both of us I was hard and working her for probably an hour and a half straight and this was after extended oral foreplay. During a booty call where there was a man hiding in a closet watching (that I wasn't supposed to know about) we jumped right to sex with very little foreplay and I noticed the same "not as hard as long" effect. (Although this was also after having a nigh on obscene - at least 7 times a day with a few different women - sex for 3 days straight) Another club trip with my partner and another woman watching them pleasuring each other I stayed very hard for a very long time. Long and drawn out but a pattern definitely emerges where foreplay (I'm counting the visual stimulus of those two hot women doing very hot things to each other as foreplay) makes a huge (pun intended) difference in my penile performance. I wouldn't also discount performance anxiety in some men but for myself I've seen a consistent difference with foreplay as the prime factor. (Completely tangential but why is only one of the pictures available for attaching? I could've sworn we have two in the "G-rated" section but I only see one)
Fullerton CA			Username hidden (14 post)

User Details are only visible to members.	If the guy is blaming you for his problem, he is an asshole and be glad he couldn't get it up. Carrie
Corpus Christi TX			Username hidden (16530 post)

User Details are only visible to members.	Intimidating: You are very sexy, and have an air of quiet self confidence that makes many men (myself included from time to time) think "this hotties got her shit together. I am definitely going to need my A game to compete" which puts that thought in our head about performance. Being able to hear the Mr can also lead to some of that mental tug of war about inadequacy, so you are right about that too. Check your FB for a message. -M
Fort Worth TX			Username hidden (1434 post)

User Details are only visible to members.	Hah. I totally missed that you we're the originator of this thread C. My comments were not aimed at you as you are quite "interactive". In fact, it was more of a memory of my first MFM: three plays in, dehydrated, and late as hell. Her plan to strip and just lay there made it alot more work and alot less fun. -M
Fort Worth TX			Username hidden (1434 post)

User Details are only visible to members.	I think experience is more of a factor than age. We tend to end up meeting "first timers" and thats after a night of them building up that they are gods gift to sex and theyre going to rock my wife like shes never seen before, and how they can go for hours.....yada yada Then the time comes and theyre shy, cant keep it up, get weird cause im watching, and just turns into an awkward time until after trying everything, the game is over. Guys who we are not their first couple and they know they like the little group activity dont seem to have that problem
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User Details are only visible to members.	Bdh, joey,Justus, you all three are right. what I find amusing is that all three of you are young, so i would assume that the men you encounter are around the same age. Now I am fifty,over weight, smoke two packs of cigarettes a day, smoke weed every evening, drink on occasion, and experiment with party favors from time to time, and though I can't say I have never experienced a failure to launch, it hasn't happen in well over three years.
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