They could as be...dare I say it...MARRIED playing SINGLE and are afraid of getting caught or just can't get away.

Heather

Yes, its the "coulda had her" factor. I think this is a pretty common occurance and again, not taking things personally really helps in not being frustrated. Anyone who has been in forums for a while can attest to the fact that I was the most frustrated somebody around until I stopped taking things personally. Now I'm like whatever dude, I'm still going out and having fun so bite me. And its not just singles that does this, couples are just as guilty. Jay was going to do an MFM with one couple. When he was unable to literally drop everything to go fuck this lady in literally like 20 minutes they got huffy. So just have fun despite. With you there I'm having fun. Without you there...well, I'm still gonna have fun.

I agree with Uriah. Most of them are on here for the cyberthrill. Others may be intimated if the meeting is right away at your home or a hotel with playtime in the offing. After a few emails, just set up a vanilla meeting for lunch or drinks in a public place. If they show there, then work on the next step. If they don't show, enjoy your lunch or drink and try again.

A paid membership on his part is also a good start. Shows some commitment.

Good luck and if I lived in Michigan .... I'd show up.

Just a thought here but if you are pretty HOT they may think you are another troll out for their money instead of a legit woman in need of some special attention! There are just SOOOOOOOO many women who are willing to use us guy's it's pathetic! If they were to meet you in a group setting it might would be better.

CJ- Are you referring to men who contact you here online (in contrast to men whom you have contacted)? If you are, a large percentage of them will be no-shows. The anonymity of internet swing sites is an opportunity for them to exercise their sole goal-cyber communication. They have no desire to meet. If you want to make some quality male swing friends, you need to do some research. Look for single males in your area who (i) are Paid members, (ii) have pics, and (iii) have certifications. If you find some with whom are interested, contact them for a meeting. You will have better luck with men who you contact than with those who contact you.