Just because people choose to swing, does not mean they do not have morals. If that were the case, we would be doing lots of other stuff, like cheating, stealing, killing, etc. I've known vanillas that do unethical things, yet they think swinging is wrong. People are all entiltled to their opinions though.

Some break ups harder than others, especially when feelings are involved.

I hope things work out for you both and you both find happiness.

Be well and have FUN!!

joan*

BTW alcohol NEVER solves problems, it only creates more!

Goof you were doing fair until you pulled the anger card. I understand you feel wrong, but you have to act like a adult and be able to handle opinions that you may not like to survive here, or life for that matter. I for one did not buy her story, as an investigator it just did not make sense on so many levels. But you blew it dude by losing your temper, you undid any headway you may have made with some of us as coming off as a angry, maybe violent person. Sober up and read your posts, then think about it as if it was somebody else saying it. She was morally wrong to come to the site to diss you, even though she did not use your SN I am sure it made the rounds in backdoor emails. That is just the way life is. But you openly broke the rules set by the site, people were only trying to tell you that you fucked up. Sometimes it is just better to let it go, because intelligent people can read between the lines and know when they are being bullshitted. So do as you said, put her and it behind you. Let it go and enjoy life and by all means the site.

I guess it kind of threw me for a loop, when she posted a comment on here.
I didnt expect that.

May I just poke my nose in here and ask you this, how DIDNT you expect her to post when indeed you knew she is on this site AND posts in the forums? After all you BOTH were on here TOGETHER (stated by you)
Try again....

"There are indeed always 3 sides to every story (his side, her side and the truth in the middle), but I agree you SHOULD cut all ties, move on and allow her to move on as well. "

The truth is not always in the middle and rarely comes from liars. If he indeed does cut ties and move on, how would he not be allowing her to move on as well? That does not make any sense.

"We really don't know your relationship and how or what it was, but maybe she just needed some breathing space? "

Then she should have spoke up, not sneak around behind his back and lie.

Seduction, I have to disagree with your statement, "once a liar, always a liar." The same as with any personality disorder, lying has some motivation behind it; a liar lies for a reason. It is possible for a liar to recognize what he is, to consciously decide that it is not something he wishes to be, and to do the hard work necessary to change his behavior. I am speaking as one who grew up telling lies as a matter of course. I did finally come to recognize that this behavior was extremely destructive and harmful to myself and to everyone whom I cared about. Over a few years of hard work I learned what was behind my lying, and I was able to stop doing it. It was so hard because I had learned growing up that telling the truth was full of risk, but I had finally understood that the risks involved in lying were even greater. I will agree though, that most liars will never stop lying. Like changing any ingrained behavior, the person has to recognize the behavior, to understand the reasons it exists, to make the decision to change, and to have the determination to do the necessary hard work.

Ho up - Lifestyle can be complicated, not every is always on the same page, sentence and punctuation mark. WNY has a good point, and GOOF maybe your GF just wanted to go do her thing or find out more about her self by herself.
Now this is the tough question: If she wanted to go out by herself would you let her and would you make her feel good about it?
We really don't know your relationship and how or what it was, but maybe she just needed some breathing space?

i like to go to the clubs just to flirt and just dance, didn't care if i hooked up or not. she also could have been doing the same thing. Maybe when he escorts her it comes with all his rules so she wanted to go out and just have fun without having to be so self conscious