Ok, isn't this pretty much on a par with someone having a 'no glove, no love' policy and then having someone else ignore the policy? If you don't communicate your limits, the onus is on you. If someone isn't aware of your limits you can't expect them to observe them. However, a knowing violation is another matter. If the host/hostess communicated "No M/M contact" before turning the lights out, then I'd get angry at the other M! If they didn't, and your limits were violated, I'd seriously reconsider returning to any further parties by that host/hostess. You might want to discuss it with your host/hostess, too. It pretty well hinges on A) what was communicated to you and the others about the blackout, and B) your personal comfort zone. Your host/hostess may just have erroneously assumed that everyone present knew the Blackout rules, whatever they were at that party. Getting a 'surprise' blowjob in the dark from another M doesn't make you gay or bi. Seeking out another M for that blowjob might, however.

"And as previously stated, knowing the common anti-gay sentiments by straight men in the swinging community, what gay or bi-guy would risk an altercation by going down on someone without some nod of approval (no matter how tough they thought they were)."

I know of two. On two different occasions the male half of the couple's mouth some how attached itself to my hubby's cock. No one asked or gave permission. It also didn't happen in a dark room or group setting.

Carrie

...I went into a forum thread and a hockey game broke out... but seriously folks... This could not happen with us as we get to know play partners before anything happens. We always discuss any boundaries that need to be respected and have an established trust. But even in the wild anonymous sex room orgy crowd this does not make sense for several reasons: - Even in a room with the lights turned out, there is enough ambient light to recognize the gender of someone nearby. - While receiving a blow job, a man touches his fellator with his hands. I can't imagine being sucked without running my hands through her hair, caressing the back of her neck, her shoulders or her breasts. Any guy would know in a second if it was not a woman. - And as previously stated, knowing the common anti-gay sentiments by straight men in the swinging community, what gay or bi-guy would risk an altercation by going down on someone without some nod of approval (no matter how tough they thought they were).

@scottyd27 southpaw or orthodox?

Homecookin,

I did box when i was younger but was never really that good at it.

I've been in a scrap or two.

I'm not the guy that is passive when someone does something to me that they shouldnt' do.

as for what i am. you'll probably never know.

Anyhoo in regards to the OP

Why wouldn't this guy tell his wife?
After all if you are a couple you two should share your feelings between each other.
Especially your sexual desires if you are swingers.
They should explore each others wants and curiosities.
Isn't that half of the fun of being in the lifestyle with a spouse?

It won't work...tried that. Plus I know it's an attempt to censor

Looks like two groupies have a tag-a-long going from thread to thread talking about two groupies.

Who's following who? I can't promise if you ignore them they will go away, but it's a start if you're serious about shaking 'em. Cause from where I'm sitting, it looks a little like the other way around.

You guys are quite entertaining with the exception of the two groupies.

It is easier to dig if you find the areas with sandy loam :)