when i feel it coming I count things to "break" it, like the mini blinds or the sheet stripes or something, that and slwong or stopping helps alot.

cheers

Uhriah,

Right now when we play with other cpls for the most part I do soft swap and my wife has my full permission to do full swap.

Believe it or not, when I pretend I already came a few minutes before I can hold out much much longer.

I don't know about anyone else, but when I take viatmin V (viagra) I have a very hard time cumming. Watch what robin williams says in his comedy routine about viagra, that's how it effects me. I swear i need to drink lots of water with it. 4 hr hardon my ass, thing stays hard for a day. Guess you could give it a try.

Ravenarena- I have been playing with a steady couple for years in which (i) the man is bi, and (ii) he also has a problem with control when fucking his wife. They contact me when she wants to be fucked long and hard, at which time he watches and videos. He sees other bi men periodically, which is OK with her as long as she can fuck other men occasionally. I have talked to him about Kegels and the masturbation without ejaculation techniques. His control has improved somewhat, but not as much as I think it could if he really tried. Frankly, I think they are satisfied with the status quo (i.e., they are happy as long as he can play with men occasionallyand she can play with other men occasionally). There is no jealousy or resentment between them. I believe he gets more pleasure watching me fuck his wife hard (and getting it on video), than fucking her himself for the few strokes before he cums. I strongly recommend that you give the physical techniques another try, and give them some time to work. If not, you may want to ask yourself if fucking other women (e.g., in a couple swap) is that necessary to you and your wife in the enjoyment of sex. It may be that the both of you would be happier in settings in which you are not expected to fuck other women.

Uhriah,

I have done the exercises before and have found that they do not help that much. I think part of the problem is that I am very sensitive & would almost have to stop once I enter a woman.

Size-Every woman is different with respect to size. I consider myself average, but some women consider me too big and others too small. The manner in which your penis stimulates a particular woman depends not only upon size, but cut, angle, and whether she is more sensitive vaginally or clitorally. SUGGESTION: Keep meeting people until you find partners with whom you click. Control-(1) Practice Kegels every day, by which you contract and release the muscle that controls your urinal flow. Do various reps and sets of them. Start slow at first, then add more reps (as with any weight lifting). This will gradually improve your control. (2) Masturbate frequently, but don't ever ejaculate. Stop right before cumming. This will also gradually imrpove your control.

What can one do if one suffers from the double whammy of both being less than overly endowed & due to being very sensitive not lsting very long? I have always been up front about that I most likely do not measure up to quite a few of SLS members prefrences for a mans required endwment to play. While I have developed other skills to make up for my lack of endowment, I find that also being rather quick on the draw so to speak to rather disapointing. What can one do to help with this problem. Do drugs like Cialis or viragra help with this problem? I find that I recharge fairly quickly but do not last any longer the second or third time either.