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User Details are only visible to members.	One thing open relationships and swinging taught me is this: All of these missed expectations are addressed with brutal, constant, open communication. If you can't share what you want, say no to what you don't want, express you feelings both good and bad, and refuse to let time work it's magic when words fail... If you can't do these things then ALL of your relationships are doomed to fail. Mono. Swing. Poly. Whatever. Mono/vanilla relationships make going by assumption and passive behavior "seemingly" work. Since there are no other people with demands, poor communication only delays the inevitable. K and I practice daily. It works. It works so well, we're frequently disappointed when we encounter people who don't practice (even those in the LS). We come to terms with the facts "we're not perfect, so lose the ego" and "not everyone can do it". That's been harder than the worst, brutally honest convo we've ever had...including the "what's your number since we first met?" convo we had last week. Alas, she's ahead of me...especially since women count. J
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User Details are only visible to members.	is that question to me fjep??
Kunkletown PA			Username hidden (2981 post)

User Details are only visible to members.	Kinda funny. You seem to believe that men should accept women for who they are, But that is exactly what a lot of women do not do for men. The number one problem in a nutshell, or nut sack.
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User Details are only visible to members.	I know you asked for men's opinions, but I felt compelled.... I don't agree with all of them at all, (a couple I do) but one thing for sure is we ARE wired very differently, and if either sex does not understand those differences, then they need to find love with the same sex! really... If we want the opposite sex in our lives, we have to HONOR our differences, not just put up with them or tolerate them. And sometimes it is up to us to respectfully teach others how to do so. It can even be done very lovingly. I don't think there are two more opposite type of people than my husband and I, lol, and altho it took a while to learn how to do this, and sometimes it wasn't easy, ... we have done it. We are SO different, always will be, but we have found a wonderful balance. :)
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User Details are only visible to members.	Are these not equally applicable to men (as seen by women) and to women (as seen by men) ?
Flat Rock NC			Username hidden (2787 post)

User Details are only visible to members.	1. Anyone who would marry someone in an endeavor to change who they are is either a control freak or a masochist. 2. Set your expectations where you will. If someone sees hollywood as high expectations, they deserve my pity. 3. Who doesn't look to the future? That wouldn't drive me crazy. 4. I suppose it depends on the woman. I wouldn't choose to be with one who would use emotions as a weapon. 5. Unless it's constructive criticism it has no place, nor will it be well received. 6. Coy has it's place, I like a little reservation. No need to be "wild child" 100% of the time unless that truly is who you are, in which case that would get old quickly as well. 7. That's just how many women are wired. I have to focus on what I am doing, so that I come home every night. What I am thinking is usually what I will be doing next. 8. Nor do I understand her need for sleep, but I respect and appreciate that each person is a unique individual. This is why I get my alone time after she goes to bed at night. 9. "Boys have a penis, girls have a vagina." We're different, standards are different. Like it or not. 10. See #1. If I were to change who I was for someone else and not because it is who I want to be, I would lose respect for me too.
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User Details are only visible to members.	According to a survey on eharmony these are the ten things women do that drive men crazy. What do you guys think? 1.You see us as projects you can fix. 2.Your expectations are set by Hollywood and sky high. 3.You're always looking down the road. 4.You use your emotions as a weapon. 5.You have a tendency to be critical. 6.You like to play coy. 7.You fixate on what we’re thinking, when you should be watching what we’re doing. 8.You don’t understand and/or like our need for alone time. 9.You have a complicated set of double standards. 10.You want us to change, and then lose respect for us when we do. How accurate would you say the survey is? I would say at different times with different women they are all true.
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