BNB we agree. Honestly when I tell single men that they usually immediately fire back with something witty like "ahhhh...hubby is jealous eh". Real smart move. Just this last weekend I was talking with a hubby who wanted to meet me alone. He had no issues with Jay and his wife playing, just wanted separate locations. Not 2 minutes later he begins telling me how he fucking this other wife "like a real slut"....and I said what does that mean, whats your determination of a slut. He said really rough sex. Now I don't know details but I would not want to be alone with him, in a completely different place from my husband and he decides to do me like a slut.

I would never let my wife meet a male alone, specially the first time. She may be the one doing him, but I want to make sure he meets my standards as well. I wanna know if he is going to treat her right, not be pushy and make sure she is in charge. If you guys, like us, got in it together, then thats how it should be. I've let my wife have sex with a male but I was there. Now to add a little bit of spice for everyone, I'd leave to get a cold drink (or some reason to get out of the room for a few) then re-enter a short time later and either watch froma point they cant see me, or walk in quietly and watch.

I don't see a reason for your wife to suggest that she go alone the first meet. She's your wife, she should be comfortable with you at all times. Now, whether or not the guy is comfortable with you being there, that's different. I wouldn't let my girl meet any guys I haven't met myself. To be honest, I'd only leave her alone with a guy who's won my trust and friendship (and that takes a long time). You know your wife, but you DON'T know the other guy.
I think you should talk to her about it. If either of you are uncomfortable, then it's not something good for the relationship. Let her know you have to meet him before anything goes further.

Hmmn... I'd like to know how this turned out too! LOL! I date solo regularly, but my hubby is always present when I meet a new couple or single guy. It's both a safety issue for me and I like for him to know the other couple or guy and vice versa. I don't have this rule with single women. More of a guideline than a rule, actually! LOL! Interested to hear how it turned out.

Lost, I think you are right. As someone who usually plays alone, I have many who block me. But it's not worth it to lie. After all, I'm not here to get one night stands but make friends and keep them. Actually I have made several here, it takes a little patience for the single man..

I have always wondered, since it seems single guys have a harder time hooking up, do they have a scam going when they post a profile. They act as a couple just so he can get some? "

I always ask this. We have been told that because so many couples have single men's profiles blocked it enables them to see more profiles when they are labeled as a couple :0)

so what was the final outcome of the date?

This other couple sounds suspicious. The female isn't attracted to you but the guy is attracted to your wife, so he is free to work on your wife. Oh yeah, they have an open marriage. Maybe it is all the truth. Maybe they always use this story until they find a couple that falls for it. Now, why would a wife cooperate with this? Maybe she is being pushed into it. Maybe she won't full swap but gave her hubby the green light. Maybe she won't swap at all, but tolerates her husband's activities just to appease him. Maybe this is her way of making good for something she did earlier. Maybe she does swing but with one SM, or many SM's, so her husband is stuck trying to play games on couples. I don't think that you need to worry about your own wife leaving but it is true that a guy like that could realize that your wife is open to full swap, and that would open the door to make full swaps easier for him. Once he realizes that, then he may make a play for your wife. One way to tell if this is happening is if he tries to use your wife as a partner to set up a full swap with another couple, or as a passport to get into a couples only event. That would be a real red flag since his wife is supposedly also in the lifestyle. Having said all that, we would play seperately with people we already full swapped with, and my wife has met seperately with single guys, but your situation sets of the half swap alarm.

I played several times alone with one of the single guys we felt comfortable with. He would come over while the kids were at school and Trooper was at work. Most of the time we taped part of it for Trooper and I to watch later.......one hot one was I told him that I wanted him to pretty much come in the front door and do me against the closet door across from the front door.........lol think my words were "I want you inside me within 2 minutes of getting here" think we managed to hit that deadline ;0 he was fun to play with.

We play with singles on a very particular basis. On Sat. at a party I played with a man we know. He is a true gentleman and Jay likes him very much. So we do this on occasion. Jay doesn't worry about any man taking his place; he is my best fuck and he knows it ha.
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