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TOPIC: SEXUAL PERFORMANCE ANXIETY

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User Details are only visible to members.	Valovers703 That is so true. We have been swinging for a long long time (started in 1987), and it has it's down side. I have to tell my wife to slow down when we play, she loves to give head and the first thing she wants to do when she's ready to play is go at it. The biggest down side to doing this so long is that what use to turn me in doesn't do it anymore. Seeing a woman naked or watching other people having sex just doesn't get me excited anymore. Swinging is like a drug, the more you do it the stronger dose you need.
New Orleans LA			Username hidden (2193 post)

User Details are only visible to members.	I have a FWB, in his 50's, who says he uses "Horny Goat Weed" made by ProLabs (you can get it at The Vitamin Shoppe). Don't skimp, get the good one made with Maca and Yohimbe. Of course, if you are on medications or have health problems, I would suggest you check with your doctor first.
Visalia CA			Username hidden (4125 post)

User Details are only visible to members.	Yes, as much as some women may want us to be; We are not walking sex toys. {usually} -M
Fort Worth TX			Username hidden (1434 post)

User Details are only visible to members.	Valovers703, I like the way you think. Ditto for us too
Hagerstown MD			Username hidden (219 post)

User Details are only visible to members.	It happens. Especially when you are with a woman who has been swinging for a while. I've found that women who have been swinging a long time often just strip naked and lie down - sort of a "go ahead, do me" attitude. That isn't going to get the old pecker to rise. We both still find we need to go through the steps without skipping any. Flirting first, then sexy kissing and fondling, then upstairs to a bedroom. Kissing and fondling continue as the clothes come off. Then some NAKED kissing and feeling before we get in bed and lie down. Almost always by then, old Woody has made the scene. Then some oral and on to the fucking. If you rush through the preliminaries, things can easily fall apart. Even women who have been swinging for years forget the importance of going through the steps in order. Remember, unless it's an old and familiar swinging playmate, you need the time to really warm up to each other. Jim
South Riding VA			Username hidden (8158 post)

User Details are only visible to members.	Every oak tree experiences anxiety when a young nut is about to be dropped to the ground. Young akorns know their destiny is to be in the squirrel's belly sooner or later. ZZ
Treasure Is FL			Username hidden (6109 post)

User Details are only visible to members.	It never hurts to go warm things up ahead of time with your wife. If you know play is imminent and your in a club, head to a private room/bathroom with your mrs for a 5 minute bj, or if your doing a date with another couple, start off play with your wife, in separate rooms if need be. Once I get that first erection of the night, the following ones are easier to achieve for me. Abstaining from any sex a couple days prior though difficult, can also be a big help. -M
Fort Worth TX			Username hidden (1434 post)

User Details are only visible to members.	I hear your pain guys, Im the same way,meet a couple take a lil blue pill, start to play an nothing,cant get a rise out of it at all,it is very embarrassing for sure, then go home with wife and its as hard as a rock go figure,I think it has to do with the fact that the first time it happens from that time on its in our head an I dont mean the lil head lol, maybe its the fact of the excitement or just being with someone new, but I know what were all going through,an it sure is an embarrasment especially when all your life you were very sexually active with no problems,we sure hope the ladies understand that it is really out of our controll,we want play an enjoy what a new lady has to offer but no matter how hard we try it dont want to work,if anyone has any ideas throw them out there Im sure were all interested.
Eagle Pass TX			Username hidden (24 post)

User Details are only visible to members.	I have the same problem.. When i am with my wife i never have an issue. There have been times when we have had a night a hard partying, doing enjoying things that you shouldn't do. The type of things that would make most men unable to performing, And I can still go for hours multiple times without any problems. But I can be with an other women and it's a struggle to maintain an erection. Now my wife is very oral and I have seen her raise the dead many times, where as a lot of women just are not that into it, most just want you to get it hard and stick it in, like at almost fifty the damn thing is going to get up all by its self without any stimulation. Now with other women who are into oral and willing to take their time the problem seems to take care of itself. There have been times when I have had to have my wife give me head so I could get an erection so I could have sex with someone else. I used to take a pill every time we played, But a $20 a pop and numerous wasted pills I said screw it and quit taking them. so I really don't know what the answer is.
New Orleans LA			Username hidden (2193 post)

User Details are only visible to members.	Its happened to me at 30. It's mental for me, and it sounds like its mental for you, so no amount of ED stuff is gonna fix it. You have to figure out whats making you uneasy, or distracting you and let it go. For me, extended foreplay helps. After 20 minutes of making out/groping, you'll find yourself feeling like a teenager pretty easily. The other possibility is a lack of sexual spark between you and whoever you are trying to play with. Passive women give me the most trouble with this, as the little voice inside my head starts to say, "maybe shes not into me" "Maybe shes just doing this for her man" even if I know for a fact she IS interested. Again, the extended foreplay can help here. It seems even the most demure lady can only take so much before shes goes mad with lust. And of course unsexy conversation in group rooms, or even worse, the moaning competitions that can spontaneously erupt can prove distracting. If you are looking to medicate for the problem, an anti anxiety drug that doesn't harm the libido might work, and I have heard some people suggest weed for that very thing, but I am personally unable to check that fact. Reevaluate the whos wheres and whys, and see if that helps. -M
Fort Worth TX			Username hidden (1434 post)

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