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TOPIC: Reduced Sensitivity - Ugh!

Created by: itsbeen20yrs Original Starting post for this thread:
OK, so during most of my life the goal has always been to last long, go stronger, etc, etc. To this end (as most of you guys probably have) I read about Kegel squeezing, masturbation, hold and repeat, cock rings, etc, etc. Here's the problem now...lasting too long. Of course some of the problem has been physical recently (too much too drink, too tired, fan blowing on my balls, 2nd performance, too much lube, condom, etc) but some of it has been mental too. As soon as I she has had her fill and she starts to wander a bit, I start thinking, "My God, cum already" and it just gets worse and worse... Once on a 2nd round the words, "come on baby, don't make me feel like a failure" were uttered...wow, that was a major drag. So know I got that in my head every time too. I've laid off the masturbation to some success, but it still seems to take too long. No such thing as a quickie for this guy! Any other suggestions for getting the feeling back? Getting it up and keeping it up are not an issue at this point (thank GAWD!) I avoid the profiles that want the quick load. That's too much pressure! LOL Thanks Mr. Stroked too much as a kid! PS. Anyone else feel funny when they hit the "submit" button...LOL insert Dom Joke

Created by: itsbeen20yrs
Original Starting post for this thread:

OK, so during most of my life the goal has always been to last long, go stronger, etc, etc. To this end (as most of you guys probably have) I read about Kegel squeezing, masturbation, hold and repeat, cock rings, etc, etc.

Here's the problem now...lasting too long. Of course some of the problem has been physical recently (too much too drink, too tired, fan blowing on my balls, 2nd performance, too much lube, condom, etc) but some of it has been mental too. As soon as I she has had her fill and she starts to wander a bit, I start thinking, "My God, cum already" and it just gets worse and worse... Once on a 2nd round the words, "come on baby, don't make me feel like a failure" were uttered...wow, that was a major drag. So know I got that in my head every time too.

I've laid off the masturbation to some success, but it still seems to take too long. No such thing as a quickie for this guy!

Any other suggestions for getting the feeling back? Getting it up and keeping it up are not an issue at this point (thank GAWD!) I avoid the profiles that want the quick load. That's too much pressure! LOL

Thanks
Mr. Stroked too much as a kid!

PS. Anyone else feel funny when they hit the "submit" button...LOL insert Dom Joke

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User Details are only visible to members.	SLO - I have never in my life cum too quickly -- not one time that I can remember. Not the first time alone or the first time with a girl - nada. I think the shortest time in my life - even when masturbating was around 3 minutes. I'm not bragging since I have the opposite problem - just saying I was TOLD I had to go longer so I could be a "good lover" and satisfy the girl. When I started having sex the jokes were all about men who couldn't last and couldn't satisfy a woman, so I THOUGHT I had to hold out longer. And longer. And longer so now it takes up to an hour or more. It is all mental.
Waterloo IA			Username hidden (73 post)

User Details are only visible to members.	lol SLO I agree, of course it works both ways. I love receiving pleasure, and LOVE knowing and watching others do so, as well. But when it starts to resemble some sort of marathon or a mission, I am often compelled to snap him out of it. lol
Kunkletown PA			Username hidden (2981 post)

User Details are only visible to members.	-----kinddragon "Amen to that sabrinasslave! :) It always bothers me when I hear how it's 'all about her, all about her', ...sometimes the male doesn't even cum at all because it's 'all about her! I don't get it ... and i think it's awfully boring too! Everyone should be able to focus on themselves. I prefer (if not together) taking turns... ;) " YEAH! THOSE BITCHES!!!! That's what I say! Most of them just need to be spanked and f$@%ed, !! ;-) Truth is, though, I have always enjoyed pleasing women. When I was a boy, I really did come too quickly (we all did), cuz there was no experience and control. But when I first made a girl orgasm from intercourse (after the third time I did it), I was hooked (so was she!) :-) on giving girls/women what they needed first, because a man has a recovery time and women do not (they might, but they can just keep going for the guy). Hell, I didn't even know what happened and she wasn't sure, either ("It didn't feel like THAT when I played with it!")! I thought she was screaming because I was hurting her, but she dug her heels in and told me I wasn't going anywhere!! YOW! Of course, women also learned along the way to give men what we need, too. So, it worked both ways. I guess what I'm saying is that I'm not sure that this "it's all about her" thing actually existed.
San Luis Obispo CA			Username hidden (1192 post)

User Details are only visible to members.	oh, I wasn't thinking without lube for either. We were with a woman who liked it very rough. I was like, 'hon, have at it, cause you aint ever doin that, like that to me!' LOL
Kunkletown PA			Username hidden (2981 post)

User Details are only visible to members.	You are right, KD -- there are all kinds. Yet I don't recall having met any woman saying she wants her clit rubbed hard without lube. I've heard a joke about a guy who would fuck a hollow log, but it wasn't about me.
Flat Rock NC			Username hidden (2810 post)

User Details are only visible to members.	What reduces my sensitivity is rough handling of the penis. A woman might assume a dick should be treated just as smoothly as her clit likes it. ---- i think that too!! ... but not sure it is so. if a woman likes her clit treated roughly, and i have seen that, she then might assume he will like it roughly treated too. Or the other way around, if a guy does like it roughly treated, he then assumes women will too..... i think the answer is not to assume, and to just ask or tell. my mind reading skills are not so great anymore. lol
Kunkletown PA			Username hidden (2981 post)

User Details are only visible to members.	What reduces my sensitivity is rough handling of the penis. A woman might assume a dick should be treated just as smoothly as her clit likes it. If the guy wants it rougher, he can easily make that known.
Flat Rock NC			Username hidden (2810 post)

User Details are only visible to members.	Sabrina- Thanks for the insight. Tell me about it, lasting like a porn start, hold off on the orgasm, keep going, keep going and now...Aren't you gonna cum? Damn, make up your minds! LOL And yes, it's a major mind fuck...I like some of the advice, just go with it. It's not like I'm not enjoying myself...I love it and lasting longer makes it go on and on and on. And round two...Fuggeddaboutit! Engergizer bunny ain't got nuthin on me! LOL
Amherst OH			Username hidden (2271 post)

User Details are only visible to members.	We have gotten the take turns down but trying to get to go off together is a little hard for me. I do not why but it is.
Schertz TX			Username hidden (68 post)

User Details are only visible to members.	Amen to that sabrinasslave! :) It always bothers me when I hear how it's 'all about her, all about her', ...sometimes the male doesn't even cum at all because it's 'all about her! I don't get it ... and i think it's awfully boring too! Everyone should be able to focus on themselves. I prefer (if not together) taking turns... ;)
Kunkletown PA			Username hidden (2981 post)

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