I've actually flirted with and slowly "recruited" guys that we've known for a long time in our vanilla life.

Rather than a one-night stand with a stranger, we thought it best to test the waters with guys we both already knew and trusted. I didn't just come right out and say "Let's fuck" but it was more of slow process to gauge their reaction each time I'd see them. If it seemed positive, I'd push on a little further each time. If not, it's always to back off as if it was only a joke.

The key is to choose wisely and proceed with caution. The benefits have been lots of fun when it's worked.

~ Jen

This is exactly how I was introduced to the lifestyle. a lovely woman in a bar began talking to me, a young college guy drinking a beer. She talked to me for a while then said that she thought I was very attractive and wanted to know if I would like to come back to her and her husband's room for a little fun. I had never thought about the lifestyle, threesomes with anything other than two women (WEG), or group sex at all. Needless to say, it floored me. I told them I was unsure that I could do it. The husband volunteered to hang out in the bar for a while before joining us. After another drink or two, I was loose enough to play with her for a bit. After about 10 minutes, he came into the room quietly, sat and watched for a bit. After a mind-blowing bj from her, I forgot he was even there! I tell you all of this to get to this. Most men will let their little head take over if given any chance. That small gesture of him waiting outside (I figure he was very close to the door) until she got me comfortable in a more vanilla setting, was the trick to popping my swinging cherry! I hope that rambling story helps.

I think the idea is overwhelming for a lot of guys outside the lifestyle. The only thing that ends up getting hard for them is wrapping their head around the idea that the husband actually LIKES what is going on, and isn't going to jump up and do something crazy. You're probably in for hit and miss if you try to involve guys outside the lifestyle in your play. The good males in it know their role and know what it's all about.

Thanks for the kind words, friends.

XOXOXOXOX.

Add another to the SEXY Uriah fan club!!!!! Woo Hoo!

I know, Uriah is the bomb dot com LOL
Shelly

Uriah, I have one in mind! wink..wink...

Another way of addressing this issue is how to introduce newbie males to group sex. I have a very active gang bang club and am always looking for qualified men. I have a lot of men contact me for introduction into the Lifestyle. Unfortunately, many of them don't qualify because they can't function in any setting other than 1-on-1 with a woman. It's not surprising to me that a couple wanting to pick up vanilla guys for a 3-way, voyuerism, or video will not have much success. My recommendation is to contact an experienced single male with a good reputation.

Thanks guys....Lost, I thought I would be too shy also. Fortunately we live in a tourist town so when we were at the bar this weekend the guy I met was from SC, so I knew I would never see him again, maybe that helped me get my nerve up there. I like the idea of not letting him know im married and picking up him and my hubbby. Sounds fun. This is probably my last real fantasy that has not been accomplished so Ill keep trying.

I like the idea but I'm too shy lol. I don't think I'd have the guts to do it, I haven't done that in a vanilla setting in like 300 years.
Shell