Ravenareana,

Toys and imagination work wonders... I love a male who knows how to use different toys on me endlessly.

I (Mr Ravenarena) have the opposite problem I cum very quickly. Now after a little recharge time I can get it up again but have found recently that unlike a few years ago I still do not last that much longer. I worry about not pleasing my partner. While I am talented at "other things" I do worry that those do not equal a nice long screwing session.

I don't mind playing with males who hold off cuming. I have an insatiable appetite and enjoy endless playtime (: If he does cum, I have a variety of toys for him to use on me while he catches his second, third, forth, fifth wind. WEG!

If he was someone I played with frequently then I might start to wonder if he never came for me. I've never experienced a male who never came repeatedly though.

RaveN (:~

Gina, I read your post and thought I wrote it. LOL! We are exactly the same way. Mr. Sim has cum for other women one time in 5 years in swinging and I
"assisted" the other woman with it (BJ). He plays all night long but can't cum, which is great for him and the other women.....unless the woman has an ego problem and "insists" that he cum....which won't work either. He gets home with me alone and cums big time or he holds off until he is completely rested the following morning when we wake up.

Can he cum in a same room situation? If you are playing with a couple and he is with the other female for a time can you switch back and he cums with you while the other couple is there? Or does he have to be with you alone? Just wondering...

My husband also has this "dilemma," especially when we swing. Afterwards, he cums with me pretty easily, but also goes for hours sometimes without ejaculating. He doesn't mind it, and actually it's quite nice for the various women, but what we're finding is that the women then think "oh, we're not sexy enough," or, "Oh, he must not be attracted to me." How do you deal with that one? There are women we've met who are DETERMINED to get him to cum...of course, that rarely works! He likes nothing more than to give women multiple orgasms and then later be satisfied with me. It's usually quite hot. But we need some sort of way to let these ladies know, it's quite okay... Thanks. Good to know that others deal with these same things. Glad I opened the men's talk, bc it's the first time I have and I'm learning. Gina

Thanks, but -- like me -- her ass is exit only. :D

Hey Brewster,
Try rolling her over, it's usually tighter at the back door!
Just remember, when it comes to butt love, better to be a "pitcher" than a "catcher"

I appreciate all the replies. It's weird, but I've been this way since college, able to stay up and playing for hours, and cumming if I'm lucky. I don't really regret it (except for wishing I could enjoy the occasional quickie to climax). I think it made me a better lover, as I had nothing else to do but focus on how to make HER feel better. I became pretty damn good at oral sex, and exploring a woman's body for hours is one huge turnon for me. After all, just pumping away for three or four hours can get boring if there's nothing else to jack up the excitement, so I taught myself all I could. And I'm still learning... the best part about sex is there's always something new to try!

I have the same thing going on, I can stay hard for what seems like hours! but have a hard time cuming. I think in part it stems from a fear of cuming too soon, and not satisfying my partner. it is nice though that with the right partners, it makes for plenty of time to try different positions and just enjoy the moment, just make sure you have plenty of lube on hand!
I do find that I have an easier time, if I don't eat a heavy meal before sex.
I think the main thing is to relax and don't worry about it, and if it happens great! and if not just take things in hand and enjoy!