We steer clear of cheaters too...the few that truly have a sexless marriage should just get out in our opinion...it's not healthy to stay in a relationship like that and we don't want any of their drama! We also stated elsewhere here that if they are willing to lie to their spouse it's not likely that we could expect them to be truthful with us about anything either!

J & S

R U really in the Lifestyle if your wife doesn't know?

The cheating bi woman's husband finds out and hires a lawyer. The end.
LOL

Shells, you can't start a good story and not finish it...what happened next?

Oh totally agreed! OMG. I was talking with a guy who said he met up for dinner with a lady from another vanilla dating site. Said she was sweet, nice, etc. On their 2nd date they were sitting at dinner and a man walks up to their table and calmly sits down while she has a white shade of death on her face. It was her husband. So you are right, unfortunately both men and women do this. I have found that in this ls if the cheating wife is bi people are more "forgiving" than they are with men because trying to find a bi woman is so hard...they entertain people they normally would not.

Do not assume only men do this.... Woman do it very often also. Trust me there...

Well its pretty much like this. You should change the title of the thread to simply read: Cheating Husbands. People sometimes think that because a cheating spouse, whether husband or wife, is under the umbrella of swinging its okay....WRONG answer.

The idea of a married guy swinging w/o his wife doesn't work for us. We know it does for others and that's cool. We'd always be concerned about some kind of drama happening- no matter how much the guys says, "it's cool." You cannot predict at what point a guy's wife will suddenly decide it's no longer cool and spaz on whomever he's been playing with. And we'd want no part of that. We're not calling it cheating because we can't speak for others. However, we have come up with our own definition of what is and what is not cheating which is this: Each person can have or negotiate for (naughty smile) most anything you want as long as we are playing together. If either person goes off and plays alone, for us, that's cheating. Each couple has their own rules. For us this works because it's very clear what is in bounds and what is out of bounds and we want to be as stable and drama free as our potential play partners would want us to be.

Holy SHIT P, thats unbelievable!!!
You did the absolute right thing girl. Wow. We also have a friend though who was playing with a "single" man...and then a lady called her cell phone. It seems it was his fiance who like you found her number on his cell phone. Yikes.

A few months after I joined this site I was contacted by an older gentleman from San Diego. We met in Vegas several times over about three months. He e-mailed quite a bit and called just about every week. Long story short, about a year down the road of knowing him, I found out that he had a wife of nine years. The way I found out? The San Diego police department started calling my cell phone. Come to find out, she had a single male friend in the department and she was suspicious of calls that her husband was making. I did return the police department call--who wouldn't? I really did not know he was married--AT ALL!! She and I ended up becoming team mates to unravel all of his lies. She wanted to know everything and I really felt that she deserved to know. Actually, her and I got along pretty well lol. He was not appreciative in the least that I told all to her, but when the police department calls it gets a bit more serious. When he found out about the police department calling, he called me immediately and begged me to lie. Shortly after his call, his brother--who I never met or talked to--called me and also begged me to lie. Apparently both he and his brother (also married) were both swinging and cheating behind their wives backs. My motto is "Turn about is fair play!" ; )