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"This isnt swinging anymore "

There you go in a nut shell

Swinging is not, and should not be one sided , unless it is what you are into and agree upon it ahead of time.

It is obvious she NOT being honest with you . Sit her down and have a talk before it escalates even more. Good Luck

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I have first hand experience with EXACTLY what you are describing. You guys are not swinging. She and that guy have moved beyond that. She is having an affair and emotions are involved now.

Once one partner starts making decisions on their own against the wishes of their spouse, the love train has left the station.

I guarantee if you tell her you dont want her to "play" with him anymore, she will refuse to comply. She will get nasty with YOU.

You have a big problem on your hands. Ive experienced it, and seen it happen to friends of ours too.

This isnt swinging anymore

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This is not a good situation !

Before Mrs John and I play both of us have to agree, If either one of us has doubts no one plays. We are in this for each other and of course for ourselves, but the main thing here is no one takes one for the team, both must be happy or it ends.

There is no way we are jeopardizing our relationship for an outsider.

you didn't mention if you two had ground rules before you started, did you ? It sure sounds like she is starting to like this person an awful lot, she is starting to get irritated buy you questioning her, thats never a good sign.

what you two need to do is sit down and talk, without any conversation this is going to get worse.

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HotGinger, I second what TotalBabe said. You are not the first to have problems like this and post about it in the Forums so the advice CAN be found elsewhere, but it all comes down to the advice you already got: stop everything, discuss your perceptions and feelings about what's going on with your wife, and get clarification from your wife about her intentions. It does sound like she has moved the relationship with this guy into the affair category and you have let it go on. Successful swinging requires both parties to be happy with the boundaries and activities you engage in, not just one. Some men enjoy being cuckolds, but it sounds like you do not. Let your wife know that, and tell her how you want to be included in all of the playtime, not just when some guy "allows" it. YOU and YOUR WIFE are the people who set the boundaries for yourselves, NOT the other guy.

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TOPIC: Looking for a honest opinion
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