Busy Swingers Forum - everything you always wanted to know about swingers.
SwingLifeStyle Swingers Personal Ads. | SwingLifeStyle Swingers Clubs

Busy Swingers Forum

Everything you always wanted to know about swingers.

Create A Free Account

HELP
FORUMS General Discussions Men Talk Interracial Couples
TOPIC: Interracial Couples
GoTo Page: Less ... 2 3 4 5 6 7 8 9 10 11 ... More 
Start   11 to 20 of 173   End
User Details are only visible to members.
We have been in the lifestyle for a long time now and have seen the good and bad of the racial sterotypes. Being a white couple from a rather segrgated area of the mid-west, when we moved to the NYC area it was an eye opening experience for sure. We realized very quickly that some people just aren't willing to let go of preconcived notions and stero types and just let the lifestyle be what it is. We have had some of the best experiences with interacial couples and have no hang ups playing outside our race. Honestly as a white man, I get a good deal of flack for being really attracted to black women in general, though I'm not discounting my Asian,Spanish and white girls;sexy knows no color :-). My vanilla friends really don't get it when we have guys nights talking about women and drinking and I'm all about the sexy colored girls. To each their own, people are attracted to what they are attacted too, just don't be a douche about it.

Melville NY
Username hidden
(15 posts)
User Details are only visible to members.
NJboy,

Truthfully, it is similar for black women. A lot of men of other races find other women more attractive than black women (or desire them more). Maybethey feel it is worth the effort to choose other women and not worth the risk of choosing a black women. In any case, I (the female) think you are handsome and sexy as hell! So, keep you're head up!

Brunswick GA
Username hidden
(9 posts)
User Details are only visible to members.
"Probably the one demographic that has the hardest time in all this is Asian males. White men tend to find Asian women very sexy/cute/alluring whatever. This is generally not a reciprocal situation - white (or black) women don't seem to find Asian men as a demographic particularly interesting."

---------------------------------------------------------

The day I see a profile that says "Looking for Chinese guys ONLY!!!" is the day I have a heart attack and die! Haha.. But yes, most people do percieve Asian guys as quiet, weak, shy, and nerdy unfortunately due our low representation in Hollywood, US politics, sports, and even porn. It was strange growing up because as funny as it sounds, I never really thought of myself as Asian early on due to the fact that all my friends and my parents friends were white, black, or hispanic. To this day I've never had an Asian friends, and I'm almost 33. Pretty sad now that I really think about it.. Although I work with many, I never see them outside of work, and I know behind my back they think of me as the sellout since I can't speak Chinese. But even though I'm totally "assimilated" into American culture, the stigma will always be there which I have accepted.

It will probably take at least another 2-3 generations before us Asian guys can manage to break the percieved stereotypes.

Toms River NJ
Username hidden
(1069 posts)
User Details are only visible to members.
<br /> Plano, there is zero angst on my part - I did mention that we should accept people's preferences. I do think you took what I said and made it more than what was meant to the point where I am not sure we are even talking about the same thing. I am not saying that people who do not play outside their race are necessarily racist or has anything against them, and racism was not the point of my post. This thread is about interracial couples (race) so race, not racism, was my focus in my posts. My question is, that has yet to be answered, what is it about an entire race of people that a person finds unattractive?

"What about women who aren't interested in guys under 6' tall? What about guys who only like women with big tits or dark hair? What about size queens? Are they discriminatory in the sense the word "racist" implies? Were they mistreated by short guys or women with small tits or whatever? Race is no less a physical feature than tits or eye color or height or weight or any number of things that are taken for granted as being acceptable preferences."

This goes to show that race isn't really on the same level as big titties or large penises or certain color hair. I know women who do not play with certain races based on past experiences with that race, but I know zero women who don't play with blonds or guys of a certain height based on past experiences with them. Race just isn't the same as the other traits you mentioned.

Some of what you asked I already addressed - like your question about white women who seek black men. Some say they like the taboo, some say they like the contrasting skin colors, etc. But these women are not necessarily saying they are only attracted to black men so it's not really the same thing. As far as your last paragraph and your questions about only playing with women with big tits or only dark haired or tall men, I cannot relate to people who ONLY play with certain types of people or do NOT play with certain types of people, be it based on race, weight, height, whatever. I PREFER tall, dark haired men but if a shorter blond guy is nice and I think he's attractive - it's on. None of my preferences are hard lines, just preferences. I take everyone on an individual basis.

Hampton VA
Username hidden
(131 posts)
User Details are only visible to members.
"...someone who finds black men as a demographic UNexciting, and this doesn't mean they find ALL black men UNexciting."

Exactly, so how can a person say they are unattracted to all black men if there is a chance that they may be interested in a black man? This goes back to my rant about excluding races in profiles, so I will move on.

<br /> "I find east Asian women, in general, very cute and sexy. ... I likewise think that the other person couldn't tell you why they think they aren't."

I don't find any particular demographic generally sexy, unattractive, smart, or otherwise. I find that there are members of each demographic that I am attracted to, and there are other members of the same demographic that I am not attracted to. It doesn't make sense to me to generalize an entire group as attractive or whatever, then pick exceptions. Also, it makes no more sense to say 'I am UNattracted to every single member of this demographic' than it is to say 'I am attracted to every single member of this demographic.' Both sound equally crazy to me, but I hear people say they are unattracted to a whole race all the time and no one bats an eye while being attracted to everyone person is a certain race would be considered very, very strange.

<br /> "I've also seen a few black women who want white men only. Who knows why - maybe enough black men have pissed them off."

I realize people may only play within or outside of certain demographics when it comes to swinging and may have a totally different feelings in their vanilla life - such as the white woman who is married to a white guy but only swings with black men. To me, this is more of a fetishy kinda thing. (Not gonna go there as far as "I will play with this race but not date them.") As far as the above quote: Every black man didn't piss off this black woman, so I don't get why she would cut the whole race of men from her life based on a few, although I have heard many woman say this is their reasoning. I personally don't understand it.

I realize that we don't always know the reason why a person says 'No race X' or 'Race X only' on their profiles. Are they racist? Did someone of race X mistreat them? Are they just looking to fullfil a fantasy? Dunno. We just have to accept it either way. Newfun, I agree with what you are saying and I think this is the deal more often then we would like to admit.

Hampton VA
Username hidden
(131 posts)
User Details are only visible to members.
Yes, Biscuits you are right about some pple welcome different races. Unfortunately, that is not reflected more often than the negative response to different races. The post was just simply explaining that the thought process behind entertaining or not entertaining other races could go deeper than the superficial thought of "its just sex". Again, its surprising how many pple sound like race playing a role in the lifestyle & other aspects is a new concept. Pple experience issues with them being Non-Caucasian on a daily basis in & out of the lifestyle. It sounds so nice for everyone on this post to sound so open-minded & accepting, but some of us know from experience this small sample doesn't represent the masses. It is quite different in different skin. This is where your statement about it's sad that some pple can't get under the skin of other pple fits nicely as well.

Brunswick GA
Username hidden
(9 posts)
User Details are only visible to members.
Just add a little something to this subject #1 yes i have played with more women of color BFthan women who are WF. Why ??. Because i get along with BF better than WF.Why ?? .I do not know and do not care Why ?? , color is only skin deep.

Is it because of my age ,is it because of my color or where i live or where i cum from.The way see it ppl are so fucked up ,and love to complain.

The sexy ladies that i have played with 1on1 or 3 somes have asked or say when can we do this again, or haved said ,we hope we can get together agian real soon.

Just little note to you all ,if you missed the chance to play with this single male you only have your self to blame.

Newmarket Canada
Username hidden
(292 posts)
User Details are only visible to members.
Just had to respond to newfun. There are plenty of people that don't consider race an obsatcle to socializing. We find that different viewpoints and experiences are rewarding in that it allows us to grow emotionaly and intellectionaly. Race is a function of nature and personality is a function of both nature and nurture. We welcome all persons who are open, accepting and kind. It's sad that some just can't get under the skin of another person.

Cape Coral FL
Username hidden
(151 posts)
User Details are only visible to members.
Unfortunately, race plays a very bigrole in society and always has played a role even in this so called fantasyland we call " The Lifestyle". We still have to remember that some pple still apply "real world" thinking to life in the lifesyle. For example, some pple fulfill that fanstasy of being with some one of a different race because for some reason or limitatation they couldn't excersize that curiousity ineveryday life. Then other pple feel like their idea of fun (in the lifestyle) is finding that person that looks like them because that's what they are used to and prefer.Some ppleare creatures of habit even whenthey can choose to do something different. They don't prefer someone outside their race. It would seem (from my experience) that the most common interracial couple combo is BM/WF. So as far as potential couples go, some BF's of apotential BM/BF couplewon't entertain because thefemalemay take it personal that you chose a WF as your mate with there being a shortage of BM for various other reasons. White couples may not entain the thought because they think it isnasty,dirty, etc.or it may degrade their status. (There you go....real world thought process creeping into the fantasy world.) If she was with a white male, they would have to beat couples away with a stick compared to the recent situation.

The very thought of entaining AA pple is considered degrading to some pple and it has been for hundreds of years.Not sure why it's a surprise thatit still exists in some sense.Technically, the oppositethought can apply as well. Some pple could think entaining Causasianpple is degrading. I have heard ppleexpress that thought aswell.America has come a long way but stillhas a long way to go. It's sad that with all the great achievements and contributions that AA pple have made and the potential to make, that the (they willdegrade yourstatus) stigma still sticks. I guess, it is what it is.

Brunswick GA
Username hidden
(9 posts)
User Details are only visible to members.
Well, think of a couple of common examples Mrs. Fancy... and please - everyone - EVERYTHING I write here is in general terms. Of course there are loads of exceptions. This isn't rules. Just general observations....

I don't know how many profiles of white women I have seen that demand black men only. I'm sure it's not because they don't find white men attractive (well, OK maybe some do), but something about black men excites them. OK.

I've also seen a few black women who want white men only. Who knows why - maybe enough black men have pissed them off. Or maybe there's something about white men they find sexy or interesting.

Probably the one demographic that has the hardest time in this is Asian males. White men tend to find Asian women very sexy/cute/alluring whatever. This is generally not a reciprocal situation - white (or black) women don't seem to find Asian men as a demographic particularly interesting. If I may hazard a guess as to why, one woman told me once that Asian men tend to be slighter build, shorter, and do not exude the "manliness" that they are looking for. Like I said obviously there are exceptions. But this was their informal take.

<br /> If someone can say that they find black men as a demographic exciting, this doesn't mean they find ALL black men exciting. However, I must conclude that the converse situation must also be possible - someone who finds black men as a demographic UNexciting, and this doesn't mean they find ALL black men UNexciting.

I find east Asian women, in general, very cute and sexy. I would therefore think it is possible for a person to find Asian women, in general, to be unattractive. I can't tell you WHY I find them very cute and sexy, and I likewise think that the other person couldn't tell you why they think they aren't.

Winter Garden FL
Username hidden
(20541 posts)
GoTo Page: Less ... 2 3 4 5 6 7 8 9 10 11 ... More 
Start   11 to 20 of 173   End
TOPIC: Interracial Couples