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TOPIC: Interracial Couples
Created by: DangerousDuo
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How come interracial couples have problems finding other couples to play with unless its another interracial couple?? I know everyone has a preference but the preference here is about RACE. I thought we were supposed to be an OPEN-MINDED and NON-JUDGEMENTAL lifestyle. Or is RACE the only thing thats being excluded in our open, non-judgemental minds???

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I know quite a few.

Chesapeake VA
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I want to be with an african-american woman so bad...anyone know a black girl that likes white dudes

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The Mrs and I don't look at race at all. Ever. But we do look at if they are our "type". I can't speak for others but I am not here to judge or be judge. To each their own and I will respect their preferences. I would hope others would do the same.

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If you don't like black and feel the need to share it on your profile, why not take the time to say, "anything" but black? After all everything else on the planet must be just dandy. Don't be shy about it!

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We are one of those couples some people may not understand. I like women of all color, the wife only likes white men. It's hard to understand what a woman likes. She flirts and teases with all colors out in open, but when it comes right down to the play time, it's white males only. Even between white guys, she'll often choose the one I didnt expect. She doesnt say never on other races, but only not at this time.

This has been a point of minor turbulence for us at times. The male is clearly attracted to her, the wife and I are clearly attracted.. but it cant happen for the one reason. I do have to say that I cant argue with her.. it's her vagina, she can let in or deny whatever she wants and racism cant even be called into play on such a private and personal issue. If she's rascist, then it can certainly be said that it only comes out where her body is concerned, and nowhere else.

Our friends of all colors understand and accept this. We once invited a black couple to a club with us. We were secretly asked if we were sleeping with black people, which I felt a bit uncomfortable being asked since that is certainly nobody else's concern, but no, they were just friends.. and still are some of our best friends. The question was unacceptable... at least in the way it was asked.

On our profile we state she doesnt play outside her race. We have been turned down because I am white, I dont scream rascism, I accept it as their preferance and I honor it. Thus far, this has always been the case either way. Everyone involved has always been accepting of such preferances.

In the end, this is choice. Some people even turn others down based on political views. I once argued politics with a hot wife, then we went upstairs and had hot 2 hour makeup sex. Nobody should ever be made to feel uncomfortable. My wife doesnt say never, but if you make her feel bad because you are another race and thats why she wont play with you... then you will never have her rather than a 'maybe later'.<br /> <br /> And most of all, you should be honest to everyone. Dont be afraid to tell the truth if they ask why you wont play with them. Dont be afraid to accept the truth if you are turned down and ask why. We know from experience that even if not sexually attractive, you can still be great friends who like to eat out, go to movies, and party together.

And if the day ever comes where mine changes her mind about going outside her race, there's me and a couple cute Asians ladies waiting for it :-)

One area of concern is when one of the parties in a couple doesnt want their spouse sexing with anyone of a certain race. One hispanic couple, although the wife and I wanted to play, the husband wanted her to only be with Asian or Hispanic. Unfortunately, you have to accept that as if it's the woman that turned you down. They both have to be accepting of you, they are the ones married to each other and you never make waves for them. Let them sort it out on their own and you just back away from the situation.... damn she was hot, but I shook his hand and walked away :-(

It is what it is.

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We have been in the lifestyle for a long time now and have seen the good and bad of the racial sterotypes. Being a white couple from a rather segrgated area of the mid-west, when we moved to the NYC area it was an eye opening experience for sure. We realized very quickly that some people just aren't willing to let go of preconcived notions and stero types and just let the lifestyle be what it is. We have had some of the best experiences with interacial couples and have no hang ups playing outside our race. Honestly as a white man, I get a good deal of flack for being really attracted to black women in general, though I'm not discounting my Asian,Spanish and white girls;sexy knows no color :-). My vanilla friends really don't get it when we have guys nights talking about women and drinking and I'm all about the sexy colored girls. To each their own, people are attracted to what they are attacted too, just don't be a douche about it.

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NJboy,

Truthfully, it is similar for black women. A lot of men of other races find other women more attractive than black women (or desire them more). Maybethey feel it is worth the effort to choose other women and not worth the risk of choosing a black women. In any case, I (the female) think you are handsome and sexy as hell! So, keep you're head up!

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"Probably the one demographic that has the hardest time in all this is Asian males. White men tend to find Asian women very sexy/cute/alluring whatever. This is generally not a reciprocal situation - white (or black) women don't seem to find Asian men as a demographic particularly interesting."

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The day I see a profile that says "Looking for Chinese guys ONLY!!!" is the day I have a heart attack and die! Haha.. But yes, most people do percieve Asian guys as quiet, weak, shy, and nerdy unfortunately due our low representation in Hollywood, US politics, sports, and even porn. It was strange growing up because as funny as it sounds, I never really thought of myself as Asian early on due to the fact that all my friends and my parents friends were white, black, or hispanic. To this day I've never had an Asian friends, and I'm almost 33. Pretty sad now that I really think about it.. Although I work with many, I never see them outside of work, and I know behind my back they think of me as the sellout since I can't speak Chinese. But even though I'm totally "assimilated" into American culture, the stigma will always be there which I have accepted.

It will probably take at least another 2-3 generations before us Asian guys can manage to break the percieved stereotypes.

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<br /> Plano, there is zero angst on my part - I did mention that we should accept people's preferences. I do think you took what I said and made it more than what was meant to the point where I am not sure we are even talking about the same thing. I am not saying that people who do not play outside their race are necessarily racist or has anything against them, and racism was not the point of my post. This thread is about interracial couples (race) so race, not racism, was my focus in my posts. My question is, that has yet to be answered, what is it about an entire race of people that a person finds unattractive?

"What about women who aren't interested in guys under 6' tall? What about guys who only like women with big tits or dark hair? What about size queens? Are they discriminatory in the sense the word "racist" implies? Were they mistreated by short guys or women with small tits or whatever? Race is no less a physical feature than tits or eye color or height or weight or any number of things that are taken for granted as being acceptable preferences."

This goes to show that race isn't really on the same level as big titties or large penises or certain color hair. I know women who do not play with certain races based on past experiences with that race, but I know zero women who don't play with blonds or guys of a certain height based on past experiences with them. Race just isn't the same as the other traits you mentioned.

Some of what you asked I already addressed - like your question about white women who seek black men. Some say they like the taboo, some say they like the contrasting skin colors, etc. But these women are not necessarily saying they are only attracted to black men so it's not really the same thing. As far as your last paragraph and your questions about only playing with women with big tits or only dark haired or tall men, I cannot relate to people who ONLY play with certain types of people or do NOT play with certain types of people, be it based on race, weight, height, whatever. I PREFER tall, dark haired men but if a shorter blond guy is nice and I think he's attractive - it's on. None of my preferences are hard lines, just preferences. I take everyone on an individual basis.

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"...someone who finds black men as a demographic UNexciting, and this doesn't mean they find ALL black men UNexciting."

Exactly, so how can a person say they are unattracted to all black men if there is a chance that they may be interested in a black man? This goes back to my rant about excluding races in profiles, so I will move on.

<br /> "I find east Asian women, in general, very cute and sexy. ... I likewise think that the other person couldn't tell you why they think they aren't."

I don't find any particular demographic generally sexy, unattractive, smart, or otherwise. I find that there are members of each demographic that I am attracted to, and there are other members of the same demographic that I am not attracted to. It doesn't make sense to me to generalize an entire group as attractive or whatever, then pick exceptions. Also, it makes no more sense to say 'I am UNattracted to every single member of this demographic' than it is to say 'I am attracted to every single member of this demographic.' Both sound equally crazy to me, but I hear people say they are unattracted to a whole race all the time and no one bats an eye while being attracted to everyone person is a certain race would be considered very, very strange.

<br /> "I've also seen a few black women who want white men only. Who knows why - maybe enough black men have pissed them off."

I realize people may only play within or outside of certain demographics when it comes to swinging and may have a totally different feelings in their vanilla life - such as the white woman who is married to a white guy but only swings with black men. To me, this is more of a fetishy kinda thing. (Not gonna go there as far as "I will play with this race but not date them.") As far as the above quote: Every black man didn't piss off this black woman, so I don't get why she would cut the whole race of men from her life based on a few, although I have heard many woman say this is their reasoning. I personally don't understand it.

I realize that we don't always know the reason why a person says 'No race X' or 'Race X only' on their profiles. Are they racist? Did someone of race X mistreat them? Are they just looking to fullfil a fantasy? Dunno. We just have to accept it either way. Newfun, I agree with what you are saying and I think this is the deal more often then we would like to admit.

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