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Created by: BTEXPRESS Original Starting post for this thread:
Hi all you good looking men!!! I need your opinion on this matter. My hubby and I always have this fun discussion, I just want some outsiders to tell me how they feel about it. How many men feel that once they were married their sexual lives changed for the good or the bad. For example; did your future wife perform oral sex on you before you were married and was reluctant to do it after you were married or after she had children??? I'm not saying that the children were "around or could hear", I'm just saying that once they were BORN the oral sex and other extras ceased. Please let me know. My hubby and I have a bet on what the answers will be. btexpress

Created by: BTEXPRESS
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Hi all you good looking men!!!
I need your opinion on this matter. My hubby and I always have this fun discussion, I just want some outsiders to tell me how they feel about it. 
How many men feel that once they were married their sexual lives changed for the good or the bad. For example; did your future wife perform oral sex on you before you were married and was reluctant to do it after you were married or after she had children??? I'm not saying that the children were "around or could hear", I'm just saying that once they were BORN the oral sex and other extras ceased.
Please let me know. My hubby and I have a bet on what the answers will be.
btexpress

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User Details are only visible to members.	Marriage, almost 20 years ago now, brought many new and wonderful changes for us. Our wedding night was spent in a small hotel in the mountains just outside of St Louis. We were on our way from Oklahoma to my parents house in Michigan. We couldn't drive any further and spent the night there... her cat slept in a crib that was there. The next night was the first time I ever performed oral sex. It was a magnificent feeling being between her legs like that. Over the years, we have moved beyond those simple times to unbelievably exciting times. We have both done things we never thought we would. I didn't think I would be able to try a mfm with her. She had the right guy in mind, and it was beautiful. But, the things we have done go far beyond just that. We may not be the perfect couple in any way, and we may not be porn stars when it comes to sex, but what we have done has always been good to us. Whatever a coupe does or does not do is between them. The secret to a long marriage is not sex. It is communication. But, the sex is always there. Joseph
Newport News VA			Username hidden (141 post)

User Details are only visible to members.	My wife would do anything when we met and she still does today!!! 16 years of very happy marrage.
Ventura CA			Username hidden (23 post)

User Details are only visible to members.	Yes after 30 yrs of married a lot will change, but with entering the swing world everything is now fresh and better than ever before. As for oral Sex I love giving all day long to my wife, but I personnel hate blow jobs. This will before my ED happen, Since I have had the inplant my mine has not change. If you have to suck cock to get off leave me out. Any man with ED go for the inplant it will change and add to sex life 100 fold. It not cheap Medicare will pay for all but 20%, the VA is about the same unless you are a rate vet. Hold on your seats. $60,000.00 three yrs ago. worth every penny Al
Palm Beach Gardens FL			Username hidden (7 post)

User Details are only visible to members.	Moi!? Vocalize in less then angelic verbiage? yea,ok.Ya caught me. My name is Chuck and I am a perv. Also...my name is Chuck and I like to fuck....hehehe chchchuck
Cumberland MD			Username hidden (1592 post)

User Details are only visible to members.	Oh Chuckie, we love it when you talk dirty like that! LOL Jim :-)
South Riding VA			Username hidden (8158 post)

User Details are only visible to members.	sex Interesting that the main concern about maraige in this thread revolves around sex. Is that the main (only) reason you married this man/woman,supposedly for better or worse,sicker,etc,richer/poorer? Of course the sex diminished over time. We are,after all,merely mortal humans. Thats why none of the traditional wedding vows contain references to sex ever after. Recall the honeymoon? The medicos have a term for the wear and tear we experience during our first few months (weeks,days,hours for some),it's called 'the honeymoon syndrome'. Where we can't seem to get enough of that good stuff. Then after we return home to reality of jobs, bills, house repairs,maybe pregnancy( or kids if its not the first time around) and sex seems to take less of a priority than when it was a 'brand new pussy/cock. Not that it becomes less enjoyable or desireable, but other life events happen that have a tendendancy to make sex less of an instant demand than it was before. Of course there are always exceptions. The couple married 30 years that still fuck like minks in heat several times a day. I would venture a guess though, that there are more couples married less than 30 years that don't even WANT sex every day. At least not with their own partner. Thats when the love and affection and partnership takes over. If one has made a wise choice in partners then sex everyday is not needed to keep the partnership alive, thriving and happy. Woe be unto thee that chose the wrong partner based solely on the great sex at the time. What happens to that relationship when his pecker of steel becomes an ole half-dead snake? What happens to that couple when he has to roll her socks down to suck her nipples? If everything was based on sex,I would be willing to bet my one and only remaining testicle that they went their seperate ways long before that happened. SEX-it can be a strong ingredient to the glue that holds a relationship together,but if its the ONLY ingredient then its like paste . As soon as bad weather and rain hits it, it melts away,leaving what? Usually just a mess. chchchuck
Cumberland MD			Username hidden (1592 post)

User Details are only visible to members.	I think this needs to be seperated from those with children and those without. With children , other things become important. Your talk is centered aorund your children and their lives.What we have seen and what happened with us you lose touch with one another . The chat is no longer centered about the two of you.Sex is managed when it can be.After the kids are sleeping,while the are in timeout!Sometimes your just to exhausted to have sex. The talks at the dinner table are about what went on today for your childs life. What can be done to change certain situations for your children.Once the children become older, you now have more tiem to concentrate back on youselves. Hopefully you will not have grown to far apart that what was lost can be regained.What we are convinced about for marriages broken after the kids have grown into young adults (14 and up) the growth between the two adults has grown to far apart to repair any loss of communication that was there prior. As far as those without children we can not answer the question
Sarasota FL			Username hidden (2070 post)

User Details are only visible to members.	Just my opinion..... What men dont understand is something i call mommy mode. Once a women has a child her life totally changes. There is this person that totally depends on her for a good 12 years or more. So with a husband and child or children to take care of her energy level isn't quite what it was before marriage. Our children came along right after we got married. Yes our sex life slowed down from time to time in our marriage. But we never refused each other and we didn't stop any sexual act just because of marraige or kids. I think some women lose thier sex drive after having kids mostly cause of sheer exhaustion. Each couples situation is different but some marriages could probable be saved if couples learn to talk to each other instead of talking at each other and thowing blame around. Just my opinion
Montoursville PA			Username hidden (98 post)

User Details are only visible to members.	I don't think I am wrong in saying that sex diminishes shortly after marriage, because that is just about all I have heard from the men that I know. It's an old joke that, "When the ring goes on, the blowjobs stop." And, I don't think I'm wrong when I say that most women marry thinking that they can change the man into her ideal, and that most men marry hoping the woman will stay the same and not change. That's why young women marry these no-good outlaw types that they are all attracted to and have children with them. The guy fucks them silly along with all the woman's friends and every other woman he can get his dick into and then, after he tires of her nagging and things get too hot for him, rides away into the sunset on his motorcycle, if it hasn't been repossesed yet or if he's not in jail. Sadly, neither the bride or groom are correct. Women will never change their men and women inevitibly do change. I think it an old arabic saying that goes: Men are born with a thousand devils sitting on their right shoulder. Women are born with a thousand angels sitting on their left shoulder. Each year that goes by sees a few of the devils exchanging places with the angels. So, yes, usually sex diminishes after marriage, that's why couples swing, to reinvigorate their sex lives.
San Luis Obispo CA			Username hidden (1192 post)

User Details are only visible to members.	My wife God Bless her has always givin me blowjobs! Before we were married after we got married and after our children were born. I really appreciate her very much and YES I return the favor every change I get.
Stonewall LA			Username hidden (3 post)

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