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TOPIC: Guys, what is the deal
Created by: coupleforfun69
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I have a question for all the men on this site. We had been talking to a couple of guys trying to set up meetings. Talked to both guys for a while, traded pics and set up to meet. The first guy (oralguy25ny) never showed, never called or e-mail. Then we set up to meet with the second guy (hornyseldenboy), talked to him on a Tuesday, were to meet Friday, he too never showed. Called his cell, no answer. I sent him an e-mail, very nice just concerned something happened. Instead of writing back, he blocks us.

Can someone please fill me in to what the hell that is???

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I so?Hear what your saying and thats even after getting an honest response if you don't want to meet. Just say yes or no and hold to it. Sorry just rant, no solution.

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Sorry about the off topic thing something someone posted made me remember her . God she was cute

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As I mentioned earlier we went to a swinger convention a few years ago and met two other couples that we fuck for three days. The ladies were sore and believe it or not even mine was ready for a break and the sky is still there. So we decided to party it up well half way into my 2nd bottle of Jack Daniels a pretty little bodybuilder chick just comes over and sits on my lap and I have always wanted to fuck a BB chick. WE were having a blast talking and teasing and she was partying too. Then she wanted to fuck and I got to explain to her that damn near 2 5ths of Jack pretty well rendered me useless. I told her theres a chance I could but ask her if she really wanted to bother. She understood and stay on my lap the rest of the night and told me she'd be down about 8:00 in the morning. She never showed some other son of a bitch was fucking my cute little bb chick lol. One of those life situations that ya have no body to blame but yourself lmao

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Wow, a lot of that was actually helpful! Thank you! I'm looking forward to our next party. Nbmg

N Myrtle Bch SC
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MrsPandMe hit anothr nail on the head, and as usual, I like everything shesmooth has to say.

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nbmg,

"Not sure we understand how the lifestyle works yet. But, our positive experiences keep us coming back!"

The lifestyle is high school all over again. This time you have an advantage. The first time you went through high school you were clueless and just trying to survive. This time you know the game. Play to win!

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for the OP, agree with Jez.

nbmg, it's good that you temper your comments with an understanding and acceptance of your limited experience. that sounds to me like a couple who understands they still have much to learn about the lifestyle and are open to learning. that puts you much further ahead in this game than some who have been in it 10 times longer than you.

next, we love swingers such as yourselves who go to parties because they are looking to meet and fuck another couple or three. however, I can also tell you that our modus operandi for parties and clubs is as follows: identify a couple we are attracted to. take some time to talk with them to determine interest and compatibility. and finally, invite them to play or move on in our search. that makes us one of those "poof" couples, but if we're not interested, we're not going to keep hanging around and chatting you up.

and the lady who wanted to sit and yak all night. nutbag. welcome to the LS.

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Westernpa hits it on the head. I was once one of those single guys who looked to play with couples, but preferred a long term friendship/playtime to a quick roll in the hay. I'm not discounting the fun of a sexy onetime pickup, but in the long run, it was more fun with a couple I'd become actual friends with. And let's face it; different people handle the lifestyle differently and at different paces. I'm more the "slow and steady" type, preferring to relax and get to know my partner's hot spots, kinks, etc., rather than trying to be the World's Greatest Lover over one evening. As time went on, we all got more comfortable with each other, and the sex became wilder and more experimental as the trust factor set in.

In any case, that was what worked for me and the couples I played with. Now, as a married couple, we tend to be on the same page, though Mrs. T is more outgoing than I am and can get the ball rolling at a party a lot more quickly than I. Of course, this means that odds are that she'll have had a couple of encounters while I'm still shooting the shit with a lady or couple, but that's my pace.

I don't jump on the "hate single guys" bandwagon here because I've been in that position. True, most of these guys have earned the bad rap, but there are more than a few who are genuinely good dudes who just want to have fun with a couple and are willing to put in the work involved to get to know them. We're still looking for such a man or two, but you never know!

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From the people we've talked to that deal with single males, it's about a 10 to 1 miss/hit ratio. A vast majority of guys on here have no real intention of "pulling the trigger", and honestly you should be thankful for that, as they aren't the kind of guys you want within a kilometer of your pussy.

As to the club scene, this is entirely normal. Almost without fail, we've found that EASILY half the couples at a club type event are not swingers, they're just curious about swingers. Of the half that is left, half are so nervous they either become completely recluse and won't even make eye contact with anyone that expresses interest, or they try to overcome the nerves by drinking, which makes them, well, drunk and wholly unattractive to couples that know better then to bed someone who's been drinking. After the couples that have predetermined who they are going to fuck (the cliques) that leaves maybe an eighth of the couples at the party that actually are there to play. If you're not aggressive and quick, those few will rapidly pair off and go do their thing. We, in an attempt to not be overbearing and coming across as pushy assholes have missed out on a lot of action at parties...

Someone mentioned the parade of people walking in, looking at the two (three, four) of you going at it and leaving. We've run into this a TON. What's happening is people see you are screwing another couple and assume that it's not a dance they can cut in on, so they just leave. God knows there are a lot of times where we've been at it and would LOVE for another couple to join us, but it's hard to convey that to someone, and they might consider it rude to ask to join.

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Men who are full of shit and married with a wife that doesn't know would be my first guess ..........

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