Hey y'all!! I wanted to give you an update because I did start this thread lol. Obviously I was very frustrated when I wrote this lol. I just wanted to tell y'all that things have become MUCH better, as in a 360 degree turn, since we started focusing more on house parties and have opened up to the idea of singles. We have not played alone yet but we are still in discussion about it. Thank you to all of you for your input and advice! Shell

I doubt you will get someone to admit that he has that problem and honestly, isn't this all a game of chance anyway. I, personally, would not ask a man that and probably be offended if someone ask my husband a that as well, (FYI no problem getting it up and keeping it up with him). To me, it is all about the flirt, the intrigue and the fun of getting to know someone new. And there is more to sex than a hard cock. There is foreplay, there is oral, there is teasing, just the fun of watching someone squirm when you giving them all you got. MAN I am really starting to love these forum. HEHEHE

I think there are many good points here. To those who claim that ED never happens to them nowhere nohow, I'd say there are no shortage of claims online where there is no stand up and prove it. Claims are a dime a dozen. Claims are stock in trade for humans. The male sexual animal's workings are complex enough that disengorging a cock is not difficult at all. It grows less difficult with both age and experience. Experience because a man learns what is erotic to him and what is not, and his cock follows that experience very nicely. Age is a factor and that factor can be used to our advantage with a positive attitude. Of course among males there are many variations, a spectrum from difficult erections to endless erections. If your claim to fame is being on the endless side of that spectrum then by all means use it, because it's what you have. And if your desire as a female is an endless erection then your desire is not very interesting or creative. Some are not here for experiences of depth, and more power to them. But we will opt out of that mileu. Perhaps the equivalent question to ask a female would be "Can you have an orgasm from penetration alone within the minute or two it takes to cum?" If you can't I'll move on to the next female. Can you see that as shallow?

Shelly, Not wanting to sound negative at all, I was simply wondering about something you'd written. This is not word for word so don't scold my ass for misquoting you. You mentioned the males in couples not being very good in the playroom, yet your Jay, has no such problems. So do you think your Jay is somehow a cut above all married men, and that married men, for the most part, suffer from this condition? I think alot of it has to do with entirely too much alcohol, anxiety over whether their counterparts are having a genuinely good time, and perhaps the womans approach doing nothing to stimulate the desire to play in the man. If I meet you at a party and you smell more of liquor then perfume, I won't touch you. If your speech is slurred or your train of thought incoherent, next. If your walk looks more like a pinball reacting to bumpers then someone intent on getting to point B, then I won't touch you. Should your breath only lack a heat source to become combustible, then odds are I will pass. I am unsure as to how many times this has occurred to you, but trust me sweetness, it's not the wedding band that make those men less then responsive. Not knowing whether or not woman do understand it or not, but there are actually some of us guys with absolutely no ED issues who need more then an exposed pussy to feel the desire to fuck.

ED can strike any male at anytime. There are many reasons, for it. And for some reason it strikes; every male at some time. Well there is for some reason a certain guy who made many of adult film. Jeremy or what ever his name is. Not a good looking man at all. I am sure you know who I am refereeing too. Kind of bald, big belly, hairy all over. But for what ever reason he was never struck with ED. "Lights, action" and he could perform. He could do it. So he was hired to make countless numbers of adult films. All sorts of "good looking studs" tried to make it in the adult film business but could not stand erect when the money was on the table. Also this is where the term "fluff girl" comes from. A girl who was not expected to be on camera but who's job it was to take her time off of camera and get the male lead erect for performance before the camera. Perhaps you need to take the fluff girl roll. If you were to walk up to me and ask: "Do you suffer from ED?" Yes some times....

exactly.

The best sex I have is with those who quietly have a certain look to them, a quiet confidence, if you will, like my husband's. He just has that wink and look in his eyes, he doesn't have to say a word.

All talk no action in either sex is no fun.

Gina

The men that I'm attracted to ooooze with self confidence. They don't brag. They don't need to. As soon as a guy starts bragging to me about what he can do sexually... a red warning flag goes off in my head wondering if he is bumping up his lack of self confidence. Confident men don't need to brag. Consequently I don't play with men that are braggers. On the rare occasion I have ignored the red flag.....indeed they couldn't live up to their boasting (at least not in my mind).

scorpy i think that is good advice

if being asked that question puts a subliminal message in the males head ,he already has a problem with ed.So ask away.Who cares if you have shot your foot, you have bypassed a potential problem for you. Remember you are in this for fun daring creative sex. Do you really want an overly sensitive guy who can't preform?

The way you speak and think makes me want you more :)