I have learned from an expert form another site and he told me that we men can practice prolonging our ejaculation. We can try to jack off to the point we about to shoot and stop. Take a deep breathe and blow it out. Keep doing that while concentrating not to cum, then go back and jack off again. Keep doing that for months, it will help us to prolong your ejaculation. His longest time was 3.5 hours. If I can hold for half an hour, I am a happy man. I have been practicing for 6 months now and it show some improvement but not that much yet. Now, I've found this product online called "Viherbal"; it works really good for me. With this product, I can last longer. I can even cum a couple of times. without being tired the next day. Our sex life is great now. I am still trying to practice as much as time allows me. I just don't have the patience to practice everyday. Oh, you guys can find "Viherbals" at directchi dot cum. Peter & Kim

Much of Eastern philosophy concerns itself with being in the moment, and letting go of the illusion of control. Yet Tantric is very much concerned with control. And going beyond. I see it as an ego manifestation, that longer is "better" than shorter, that being a better lover means controlling the lovemaking.

We feel that control is best let go of to allow making love to flow as it will. There are discoveries to be made by making love rather than making sex. Too often in the lifestyle sex is an Olympic sport with everyone vying for the gold.

D and J, some perceptive comments. and you're right... the lack of control letting your mind wander does cause some VERY satisfying orgasms. Part of tantric control is also living beyond the short orgasm and drawing it out. I think that using either method depending on the mood is satisfying in either case....plus you do always experience the explosive mind blowing thing at the end....or go sevral times depending on ability :-D

She feels especially nice after having climaxed. The clitoris may be extra sensitive but elsewhere there is given up copious mead to dreamily consume. Soon the sensitivity will have diminished to allow for further gentle, soft, clitoral caressing with the tongue. In less time than before, she will need to be filled once again and the cycle repeats as long as it may. If one partner, the spouse, does not use a condom, the creamy smoothness of her lips will be greater and more receptive to being kissed and explored deeply. Even two male partners can continue for hours, each rising to fill the need as the other falls from the giving. Find the ambiance that suits the emotions, senses, keeping all of the senses enthralled by sexual bliss. BC

"And just because a man cums, is not the end of satisfying a woman. We enjoy so much tasting the fruits of orgasm, creating for her orgasms of special intensity and intimacy. Cum, cum, cum!"

Well not all men are like you when a man cums it usually is the end of play time and they are ready to sleep LOL Maybe this is why I like girl on girl play we can pay much longer after intercourse.

Mrs Voya

Part of the point of orgasm is to let go, to be free, to let your body free from the control of mind. We humans tend to be so much in our heads rather than purely in the moment. I've always felt that tantric gets signals crossed when teaching both control (mind, ego) and being in the moment. Orgasm is the ultimate in letting go, letting go of control over your body, letting you and your body be together in the moment of pure rush. I know well the mantra of satisfying a woman, that men cum too often before a woman does. That's because men do cum quickly. Age and experience can temper that quickness, but letting go of the mantra of control is a special wisdom. And just because a man cums, is not the end of satisfying a woman. We enjoy so much tasting the fruits of orgasm, creating for her orgasms of special intensity and intimacy. Cum, cum, cum!

Same goes for women, and that was a good suggestion for all.

G.

Heres the secret. When you pee...practice stopping in midstream. The same muscles you use to control your bladder can be used to delay ejaculation. :-)

BC-

Another technique that I use for control is that I masturbate frequently without cumming. In fact, I very rarely cum by myself, as I like to cum forcefully with my friends. Masturbating for a long time up to the point of orgasm, then stopping, will help curb premature ejaculation.

I've also noticed that as my testicles strike a sensation is generated that builds. Withdrawing has to be done before a critical point is reached from which the result is inevitable, irreversible and only momentarily .... good. Exercising the needed self control is going to be the challenge?

Since women haunt this venue and other men have understanding and judgement to draw from; what happens to a woman's level of pleasure, orgasm and build up when I withdraw to oral or digital, returning later to continue coitus? I am guessing that this is individual to a large degree.

BC