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We have met people through swingers clubs and groups in our area. Suggest you go to a club or two. Keep in mind that at least here in the midwest some clubs have hot weekends with lots of people then other weekends are quiet. Also, you could try to go to a lifestyle resort for a little R & R and lots of friendly people.

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Put up pictures

Villa Rica GA
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I guess we are one of the lucky ones here. We have met several couples and single folks on here. The only trouble now is finding the time to play.

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Its not easy, but it is possible to meet people on this site. With patience and some communication, I have made many new friends. There are a lot of fakes and people that don't show up to an agreed meeting, but eventually there are those that are real.

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Hi guys...thought we'd share here.....look at another thread in this section 'How to Keep from Being Discouraged.' Yep....that is us... Or it was....a few months ago. Read the advice there....as for your profile, for gosh sakes, put up a few public pics of something...ANYTHING! Her elbow, a blurred pic, anything will help that first impression.

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We send an email, with a pic attatched, and layout a place to meet and talk, if they want great if not NEXT!

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As others have said, public pictures are a must. Also, you need to know that couples with straight women are going to have a harder time because most of the ladies here are Bi and want to play with another woman, or have the option when they have a full swap. I also noticed that you put a very heavy emphasis on being friends without the sex. I am they type who wants to be friends with my playmates too, but this is a sex site not a dating site.

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We don't really use the site to meet people. We do use it to sign up for events where we meet people {and because I enjoy the forums}.

We do often put up hot date listings and know that has gotten some people curious about us to also sign up.

When the calendar's event hot date starts building with people signing up, we go in and unilaterally open some pics for people we find interesting. That way they can recognize us. Sometimes people do the same back but no biggie if they don't. We traditionally do not write to people ahead of time because it can lead them on and unnecessarily raise expectations on both ends.

Profile pics like strobe lights in a dance club can lie- sometimes the actual people show up, sometimes they send their parents (have really old pics). Only at the events will you get to see if you connect on personality, attraction, and all that good stuff. Go in with the plan of getting laid and you'll end up unhappy most of the time. Go in with the expectation of just having a fun night out and you'll get surprised.

One of the biggest hurdles for us has been how to manage going to a couples event and then meeting a couple where there is only a half match; say your spouse and one spouse of the other couple. Definitely talk about how you want to manage that before you go out- whether or not it's okay to play separately or if it's got to be a total 4 way connection. That has bit us in the ass a few times; especially when the other couple is one you kind of know and your spouse really wants to have a little fun. Just talk, talk, talk :)

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I def agree with SexTX .. put up a couple of pictures for starters. We kind of felt the same way too at first. We sat down one day and wrote to several couples one night and were hopeful that at least 1 would write back and meet us for dinner or a drink. And a few did. You have to make yourself available and we found that an offer of a meet & greet to say hi and chat over food or a drink works best just to feel the other couple out. We also started going to a couple clubs/events. What better way to actually meet people than to be right there? A smile and hello costs nothing! And good conversation even if it does not lead to sex is always a good time!

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some suggestions? You might want to post in the "profile help" section of the forums, located near the bottom. 1. Get some sort of pic up, publically. You do not have to include your faces, if you want more discretion. But something. Most people will bypass a profile with no public pic at all. 2. Is there something about you that is unique? Reading through your profile, nothing stands out from most other profiles. There is a slight desperation tone to the information, and borrowed clich├ęs. Make your profile appealing so that when someone new reads it, they are either intrigued, or you make them smile.

Good luck, G.

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