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This sounds interesting. We are finding out way as newbies. We met a man and decided that while both of us were willing to have a 3some with a man, neither of us really wanted to after meeting him(no fault of his). But we still like the idea of exploring out boundaries and having some fun.

So the way it works as I see it, is we meet a couple see if we are all comfortable and then meet in a bed and just sort of overlap a little....Is this difficult to find people to do this or is it failrly common?

Sorry if I'm hijacking a thread!

Parsippany NJ
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"Why bother" would be valid point if this lifestyle were only about intercourse. But it isn't.

We started as a soft couple because we were exploring this wonderful hobby and weren't sure just how far we could go with it. We had some incredibly erotic encounters.... and soft swap encounters are still just fine as far as we're concerned, even though we've moved on to full swap too.

Of course, if you're gonna do soft... it helps if your spouse is the best fuck you've ever had.

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Welcome to the forums, newtothescene! You sound like the kind of woman who will likely fit in here quite well - intelligent, sex-positive, well spoken, etc., and fun. Keep posting and reading! There are a lot of gems in these threads.

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For me, it's where I am sure I am comfortable vs what I am open to exploring. Those click if you want this box does not allow us to be very clear there.

I hate the idea of leading someone on. In our profile, we have that we are interested in soft swap and well soft other things too. ;) More will well require more; the right mood, the right fit, some communication and some trust.

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We have had a few soft swap encounters only and they were all fun. But it of course depends on your definition of soft swap. For us it is more than just watching. SOft swap in our book is basically anything but penetration with the others, just between own partners. So in between watching and penetration there is a whole spectrum of fun things to do like cunnilingus, fingering, jerking off, blowjobs (with or without swallowing), touching, feeling, nipple play etc...

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We think a lot of the confusion comes from the preferences folks list in their profiles. For example if you're SOft Swap how can you list yourself as "Wild" or (looking at it from the other perspective) if you're Full Swap how can you be "Tame"? "In the condominium of life: one person's ceiling is another person's floor"

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We did soft-swap for a number of years - took it all the way to oral, but no penetration. It was the way we tested the waters and established mutual trust. When we were ready, at a New Year's Eve party, we all headeds into the bedroom at 11:30 and got naked and cozy. My wife initiated with a little oral sex to get things started, then climbed over onto a friend's rock-hard cock - and I watched that cock slide in and out a little at a time - until it dissappeared. She had a good, thoroughly enjoyable slow fuck that night and was fully ready for it. So was I , ready to watch it all go down. interestingly, this couple had stopped full swap for some time, and we were their first couple as they made a return to full-swap.

His lady was lying next to me, watching in amazement as I did for a few minutes - then she turned around, got into a doggie position on her hands and knees, and I fucked her with a nice relaxed rythym until she came ..... Later, I did as well. I might add that another male, a mutual friend of ours, was there as well - T sucked him off while he pulled her nipples and I thoroughly fucked her. After I came, she pointed her little buttercup toward him and he gave her an encore fucking. It was a most excellent night.

So - soft swap allow you to enter the lifestyle a little at a time, until you are sure it's what you want to do. Once you have total sex with someone other than your partner, IN FRONT OF YOUR PARTNER - you cannot undo it. So, soft-swap lets you test the waters . Makes sense to me / us.

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Our first encounter was soft swap. We used that as something of a testing stage for ourselves.

How would we view the other being intimate with someone else?

Was jealousy going t be an issue?

How fast did we want things to move? etc.

We were pretty sure we knew the answers to these questions, but we wanted to be sure before jumping right into the deep end of the pool. It worked out great. We met new friends. We've been having fun in the lifestyle ever since.

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Because you get to be intimate with someone other than your primary partner. That's what swinging is all about, right, the variety? It's just that some couples prefer to keep intercourse sacred between the two of them, so they do everything BUT that with the other couple. Those are the people who do soft swap. Still great fun. And then there are couples who start with this and then progress to full swap because they prefer to go a little slower.

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real4ucpl, welcome to the Forums. I hope you keep looking around and posting wherever it meets your fancy.

We are soft swap and are very satisfied with what we have chosen to do and not do. Why bother, you ask? We bother because we love the excitement of being with and enjoying the pleasures of another couple or single male, on occasion, but stop at full intercourse with anyone but each other. In our case, that allows a full array of sexy fun, especially since I'm bi. ;^D The couples we play with are like-minded, and together the four of us take pleasure in watching others who are very much in love finish off the evening by fucking each other. It works for us, and as you say, to each their own.

What we do with others has never involved watching a pornographic movie, to answer your question. For us soft swap involves a lot of physical involvement that could be defined as foreplay. Very hot, very erotic, just not full swap with exchanging partners to fuck.

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