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Well said Doc-n-Janine! If it happens it happens, if not hopefully you've made some friends along the way. But don't settle for anything less that what YOU want.

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Most people are in this for full swap, so they don't really understand people that like anything less. Some do, but most don't, and most don't tolerate people that are different.

Best wishes finding someone to play with you. It is our experience that being soft swap limits your potential successes. Just be prepared to have a long wait before you find compatible people. Don't compromise though; soft swap is plenty fun and erotic. There is enough to do without going full swap. Of course, if you want to go that route eventually as you get more comfortable in the lifestyle that's a natural progression, but if you're not having much luck stirring up action with your limits, don't just open them up to try and get more attention. Stick to your guns.

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Really? Well we are still new but so far everyone has been as nice as can be...Which is a good thing when you are two people trying to figure out how far you want to go and how much you are willing to share the person you love with other people....

It's all VERY exciting and fun....I mean I can only imagine how exciting it's going to be when we do something with someone.....

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Wow, several replies that weren't flames or filled with finger pointing and name calling. That's not the norm when it comes to most people around here talking about soft swappers...

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Welcome to the forums njcouplewantsfun! As long as you guys are open/honest and proceed at a pace that's comfortable for you both you will be fine.

Kudos 24u4lust, glad to know there are still people like you around. Like you said "everybody starts somewhere" and we remember being wallflowers as well, but then we got to the point where we would make it a point to introduce ourselves and strike up a conversation with other noobies (kind of an unofficial welcoming committee). We may not have made any lasting connections but we at least put others at ease enough to find their own way.

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24 that is really nice.....that's where we are really....excited to think about it but still feelign our way.....we don't want to mislead anyone we just don't know what's good for us....yet

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"Swinging can light a fire, but it can also burn down the house", a quote from a wiser swinger then I. You have to start somewhere and test the water. We gladly invest time and effort in noobie couples because we we remember our beginning days. In fact, at many of our house parties there would be noobs, invited to come along and test to see if the experience starts a fire of passion as it does for us or whether that fire threatens to destroy the special that they have.

Cut ppl some slack.

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I'm not sucking your dick if I already know I wouldn't have sex with you....just saying. If I am not comfortable enough ,if I don't trust you enough or am unsure of just how "attracted" I am ,you can suck your own cock until I decide. While we don't have intercourse with everyone potentially with based on circumstances, timing or compatibility we will not venture beyond hi how are you with soft swap couples. To each their own but we can turn each other on and have sex , I don't need to give you a blow job so I can get all hot and bothered for Mr Sav. Full swap must at least be an option before hand. Just how we roll.

Mrs Sav

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Thanks WNC....nice to feel welcome!

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nj, the way you say it, it sounds lovely. You shouldn't have trouble finding others who feel the same. For many here, there's more appeal in folks who aren't yet sure how far they'll go. Each encounter is literally an adventure into unknown territory.

No point in pretending you're "hard core" when you're not. We find people kind of scary who say they just want to cut through the feeling-out and get to their fave scenario.

And welcome to the forums.

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