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"Treat ladies with respect, love them not merely f..k them."

My plan is to make them "love" the way I "f..K" them. Is that close enough? :)

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Dnick, of course we want to insure that our female partners are enjoying themselves, but as far as what respect means to either a SF or both halves of a couple, there's a broad range of definitions out there. My expectation is that this will either be communicated via their profile or any "pre-game" communications.

Are they looking for a wham bam/hard fucker sexual experience, a BFE -Boy Friend Experience, or something of a blend in between? Respect and expectations are defined across this spectrum. If a single female or couple have clear expectations as to what they seek, and we choose to deviate from this because of how we define respect, aren't we being disrespectful?

Ultimately, our partners are the ones who define this. Then, we decide if we can operate within those guidelines.

As for the Sport fucking vs Lovemaking thing, personally, I don't think you could ever call what we're doing Making Love. Is it affectionate? Maybe. Caring? Of course, but not lovemaking unless over time, we've fallen in love with a particular single playmate, or in the case of the Poly world, a couple or multiple singles, and the feelings of all parties involved are mutual.

BT

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I really believe that a male has a responsibility to see that the female enjoys herself. Just getting her 'wet' so you can lump between her legs and pound away, is rude and callous to her in my opinion. If she's a swinger should make zero difference in this since she is still a lady and she is granting you a favor by submitting to intercourse. Treat ladies with respect, love them not merely f..k them.

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I really believe that a male has a responsibility to see that the female enjoys herself. Just getting her 'wet' so you can lump between her legs and pound away, is rude and callous to her in my opinion. If she's a swinger should make zero difference in this since she is still a lady and she is granting you a favor by submitting to intercourse. Treat ladies with respect, love them not merely f..k them.

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How about considering we give what we get? Aren't we in it for the same reasons? We all just react differently? Let's have have fun and do it again!! :}

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This topic's funny. My husband is very loving when he is with another woman. After sex he was laying with a woman and rubbing her. The guy asked, what's he doing? and he answered, "I'm cherishing your girl" Most of the women want him back. The one's who don't, screw em. Now for me, I like the feeling they are just in it for my body and couldn't care less if I have a brain in my head. I like them to be on fire for me. I like them for their hard ass body not because they are a doctor or a dentist or sweet.

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And all the best to the both of you after all we are all in the lifestyle together.


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thank you but honestly, no apology necessary. just didn't want you to think we thought you were putting us down. didn't feel that way at all. just clarifying.

you both seem like very sweet people.

have fun! j

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You and your lovely wife shesmooth have a great day I would never call you that sorry if you took it that way.We to being married 41 years are very much in Love also,we all have are wild side I know me and my wife do to.so again sorry.


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older... where on earth did you get the idea that I thought you were calling us sluts?

I think if you reread the post you will see that I, not you but I, identified us as sluts. it was written in an attempt at irreverent humor. nevertheless, the fact is we enjoy being up to our ears in debauchery and make no apologies for it. love plays no part in it.

in fact, if a couple wrote us interested in getting together and we read anything in their profile referring to love or emotional connections with playmates, we absolutely would not be interested in meeting them. I fell in love with my wife. I make love to her. everything else is just fucking.

but you're right. to each his/her own. :)

j

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