changing the misperceptions of vanilla friends: Swingers Discussion 2041041011

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TOPIC: changing the misperceptions of vanilla friends

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User Details are only visible to members.	I would stick to Discreet It's the password for safe, clean fun. I've heard more bad then good when this happens. Mixing the two worlds. Surf the threads and go back some there are lots of threads about it with differant storys. But I wouldn't take anything you might read in threads as gospel. It's all trial and era what works for some doesn't work for others. Always, always trust your gut.
Atlanta GA			Username hidden (2136 post)

User Details are only visible to members.	So sort of along the same lines, and maybe this should be a new post, but what about mixing vanilla and lifestyle friends? I have heard lots of encouraging stories of true friends with benefit situations developing, and seem to happily going that way with one of our new friends. So if a simple back story is created, has anybody had luck/ horror stories of combining friend groups?
Philadelphia PA			Username hidden (17 post)

User Details are only visible to members.	I've found it's best to keep it to yourself. There are a few friends that the mrs. felt compared to share this info with, and it really changes things. It has led to a situation or two that has at the very least cost us the friendship.
Toledo OH			Username hidden (1048 post)

User Details are only visible to members.	Bio, I have to agree with the posters in this thread -- safer to keep things to yourselves. I think in the beginning, you feel so liberated that it's tempting to want to say to the world, "this is me - accept it!" For those who have told their vanilla friends, I have yet to come across a couple who was glad that they shared the information. Said it really changed their friendship dynamics. One thing I disagree with, however, is that if you're new to the LS you should read lots of threads in the forums. I've found that with some folks, too much information makes them over-think situations and they begin to have cold feet. Glad to see you posting :) Kat
Morgantown PA			Username hidden (2965 post)

User Details are only visible to members.	In general Breeders' ** heterosexual monogamous people * are scared of anything that is not the normal flavor of the day and PC. So are pure nudist and smug LBGT people. Their just hypocrites about life choices. In time just like the LBGT has their Parade down main street America. So will wife-swappers, fetish peeps and try-sexuals. That is going to be one fun party. It may take another 20 plus years, but sure enough it will happen. Until then the word on the scene is Discreet It's the password for safe, clean fun.
Atlanta GA			Username hidden (2136 post)

User Details are only visible to members.	I dont feel the need to change the misperceptions of the vanillas, I instead like to smile knowing the truth myself. I dont feel compelled to tell my vanilla friends or my family of my fun in the lifestyle and I keep it in my Personal life. Works great. No drama.
Spring TX			Username hidden (1844 post)

User Details are only visible to members.	Awesome advice Mrs Sav. I so wish I had your way with words. Well said!!
Augusta NJ			Username hidden (16075 post)

User Details are only visible to members.	Thanks everybody for your responses! I don't know that we would ever make our activities "public" knowledge, though one or two close friends may be taken into confidence, mostly because I want somebody else to talk to and get excited about all the new and different experiences we are having. I will probably broach the subject in the way it was broached with our "safety net" friend, bring it up in general and see how they react before explaining our involvement. Until that time comes though, I may be on here more picking other people's brains and enjoying conversations with people who understand!
Philadelphia PA			Username hidden (17 post)

User Details are only visible to members.	Because we chose to keep our private life private I have zero experience explaining it to vanilla friends and really see no need to. I respect the rights of others to share everything and anything with whomever but I would caution you that once the words leave your mouth this is no taking them back. Such being the case I would be VERY SURE that those you chose to tell do not use that information to trash your reputation with those to whom it might matter......the PTA, Boy Scouts/ Girl Scouts, your Church or any organization that involves children like Big Brothers/ Big sisters etc. Many jobs have clauses in their contracts that swinging would raise a red flag if not in fact get you fired. Just be very careful . I suggest you spend a great deal of time determining Why you'd want to tell them , what the possible ramifications are if they don't understand and analyze the potential impact it may have on your relationships in the community and in the friendships you have. The wife you tell might suddenly decide you has aspirations on her husband and therefore create a wedge between you both. Although we are adults and free to make whatever choices we feel are right for us society as you've seen is not quite on the same page. Mrs Sav
Weaver AL			Username hidden (4069 post)

User Details are only visible to members.	don't you know once you become a swinger you will fuck anyone is sight? joking of course. but that for some reason seems to be the way some people think. Heck I'm pickier now then when I was dating! Luckily so far I haven't really had someone make a comment I really felt like I had to speak up for. PG
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