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TOPIC: Wife wants to swing but can't handle husband with another partner
Created by: latinoazncpl
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So here is the deal, We have been with two couples so far and my wife has not been able to enjoy herself.

Couple one: They are a great couple but we were not attracted to either of them but they were cool enough and we had such a great time together talking that we decided to play. My wife did not enjoy the oral that either of them provided nor did i when the pleasure was provided to me. So we decided to play with each other and climax then went home.

Couple two: They were another couple that had the same values and thoughts as we do, so we went out for drinks chatted it up also we all got along great so we decided to go back to thier house and have a few more drinks and talk some more. I asked my wife if she felt ok and comfertable enough to play she said yes so i asked if they were up to play and they said yes. So we fooled around together then I asked my wife if it was ok that we switched she said yes and handed me a condom. I asked the other female if she was ok with me and she said yes so we started to play. I looked over and noticed my wife was having trouble with the other partner keeping an erection with the condom on so i decided to help him out and told him to jack off a bit and replace the condom with a new one and to put it on while he is hard. He also said that he was also nervous because the last time they played he had no problem keeping it hard. He also mentioned that he has not used a condom since he and his wife have sex without it. "so he say's". So eventually he got hard and put on a new condom me and his wife were back to playing and was doing the same with my wife. My wife then asked me to play with her and the other partners wife did not want to get off of me even when her husband asked her to so i leaned over till the other guys wife got the hint. Thats when my wife said thats enough and we decided to get dressed and excused ourselves. My wife said that she does not like the way the other woman enjoys being with me and that i fucker the other woman harder. While she is with a guy that cant't keep it up the whole time and she cant enjoy anything. The only time she is having fun is when we are both playing together. I told my wife that i only love her and enjoy being wiht her but when we decided to play as a couple it was only to have fun together and have no feeling in the room. The whole ride home was tence and she still keep saying that she knows that the woman only wanted to play with me and not her husband because he has a limp and small member. So for now we are taking it slow. Let me know what you think about our so far swinging Thanks

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We've had a similar situation where in the heat of the moment managed to push Mrs. Central out of the way to continue the ride. Needless to say that didn't go over very well, but tact and diplomacy prevailed and we managed to end the situation quickly, get dressed and leave. It did cast a pall on things for a bit but we've chalked it up as part of our learning process.

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funlovin yeah fromunder cheeese I do believe that is what it is called. there is no way anyone would have adjusted the cheese head!unless you were really that horny On those that want to play alone.There are quite a few couples who only play by themselves, we have had quite a few ask both of us to play alone.Suzy and I will look at each other and laugh , they all know we play as a couple and you will never see one of us without the other. This is one thing that you will have to deal with while your in swinging. Its easy to deal with , you just keep saying you play as a couple.

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ClydeandLisa, I don't think you should generalize about all swinging couples based on just 3 couples, especially as new as you are to swinging. At this point in your adventure, it's natural to feel more anxiety and a little bit fearful, but those things will go away, I promise.

We have NEVER had an experience where either half of a couple suggested meeting just one of us separately or surreptitiously on the side. I think if you just make it clear at your first meeting that you only play TOGETHER and as a COUPLE, that issue won't even come up.

The other side of the coin has to do with how much you and your husband trust each other. Since you are brand new to swinging, you really don't have the experience to KNOW for sure that you can completely trust each other not to try to meet someone on the side behind each other's backs. But that is exceptionally rare among swingers, almost but not quite to the point of being nonexistent.

Just openly discuss your concern with your husband so he clearly understands your discomfort, and this whole thing will become a non-issue for you in no time at all.

Jim

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*sigh!*

Me too sweetie!

*Bigger Sigh!*

Brownwood TX
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I know! Neither would you babe!

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Oh but alas, you gorgeous specimen of a woman, Our distance is far and desire is great! All that I can do is get you worked up until we meet! I am a tease??? Not that those stunningly sexy eyes are not teasing enough for me to continue! (Not to mention all those other beautiful body parts you posses!)

Ps. if you lived closer life would not be so unfair!

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wow, thats cheesy!

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Or would that have been HEAD cheese, maybe???

South Riding VA
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funlovin wrote <<was there cheese oozing out?>>

Would that have been WISCONSIN cheese? ROFL

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I am with 4play on this one couple.Your hot and almost perfect..........perfect would have you in sarasota!

Now tell me this why do women always think for a time that its them being the problem ,when a guy can not do what needs to be done? I do have to admit there are certain situations that can be a problem.in our first year we met this couple that was pretty cool, had a few homes in a few states , had a condo here that they come to.She had a crust buildup down there that put an end to all I wanted to do.At that time, i had no knowledge of how to tell her about it, now I would take her to the shower take a warm wash cloth and bath her with myself

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