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TOPIC: When the well dries up
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Its kind of funny when you think about it. A person will swear up and down that they are only dating you for fun and the sex is just sex. they may also have the same kind of relationship with three or four different people. But let them find out that one of those other people they are dating is also having sex with other people, and and the person is dumped without a thought for being dishonest.

Then there is the swing partners versus potential boyfriend/girlfriend. A few years ago I exchanged a few emails with a woman who lived in a town I worked in and agreed to meet her at a bar that Friday night. we only exchanged first names and she said she didn't want my number, since she was just looking for some actions on the side. That same week a woman started working at the plant from a temp agency and there was instant chemistry. We exchanged phone numbers and ended up talking for three hours during the first call. I decided I'd break the date with the swinger chick because this woman was so much cooler, but when I asked her out, she said she had a date and she didn't like to stand guys up. She would just say things weren't working out.

Well, I went to the meeting anyway (I was going to tell her I had met someone) and guess who it was? Yeah, the woman from work. She was not happy one bit. She wanted to know how I could think about breaking a date with her to go out with someone else. I was confused, because she said the same thing to me.

That was five years ago and my last attempt at swinging as a single man until I posted my new ad here about six months ago. It is soooooooo much easier to just date than swing.

But sometimes I like to watch, you know? Oh, well. There are always videos. Not the same, though.

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You know what's funny, after I divorced and started dating again I went out with a doctor who told me, on the first date, that he wanted to re-marry but he wanted a open relationship...polygomous, swinging, totally open, whatever, but he wasnt going to be monogomous. That ended it for me! I was thinking, "ForGET it, Buddy Boy."

But it did get me thinking. I started to read up on polygomy and I thought I would like to be in some polygomous, tantric community. You know, so it would also be spiritual. Do yoga, have a gang bang, etc. :) Yeh, okay, go FIND such a thing! Since I'm bi I was dating women, and several were already married and in The Lifestyle, and we started going to clubs with them, and that's how we ended up here.

I think it's easy for women to find guys who will swing, but not visa versa.

Jen L.

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*Take a break* Meet previous couples or friends you have not being giving much contact to. Find someone steady to swing with.

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It's rare air to find folks to partner with.

We get very picky as we age. Couple that with a few twists and turns.. and you have very, rare, air.

It's incredibly difficult to find partners that can even handle the sex, let alone any spice.

My gf is a classic example. Men just can't handle her lifestyle.

There are plenty of men that "think" they would like swinging. Reality is much different. When they find out it's not all about them, the attractiveness changes.

Hence my final goal in life. To populate my life with special people.

Comfort to all who hurt,

Mischief

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Centralbucks I believe I know who you are thinking of and I agree.... I hope that when he is ready good friends are there for him. We had only met them once or twice but they were a fun loving couple, they seemed to be always smiling, it is a great loss for each of thier family's and friends. And I hope that they rally around when the time is right for him to journey back if he chooses.

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It's tough. We have a very dear friend who just lost his wife to Cancer a few days ago. They were a wonderful couple to know and thoroughly enjoyed playing. We can't imagine that he'll be playing for sometime. We can only hope that when he's ready some of the longtime couples they've played with in the past will offer some help.

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I've wondered what swingers do when they divorce and start dating again. It must be a rather awkward thing to bring up in a new dating situation. "Hey, Honey, wanna go out Saturday night? What do you say we go to a swing club?" LOL

Seriously, it is challenging enough to find a soulmate for a wonderful solid marriage. Imagine how much more difficult it is to find someone like that who also would be open to swinging.

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Get married???

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