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TOPIC: What do you think is the problem
Created by: kick_ass_couple
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Hi everyone! I (the male half) have been lurking and reading here for the last couple of months...I have learned a lot and appreciate everyone's candor and honesty.

Here is the problem: Since joining SLS we have received lots of emails and we always answer every message, whether be to express our own interest in the couple or non-interest. The problem lies in the fact that after we are approached and the couple has expressed interest. For example, we will reply to a message that says they like our profile and are interested...then, nothing. Along with the reply we also open our private photos, so that they can see the both of us. I'm afraid that maybe I might be the problem...lol. At first we only included mostly pictures of the wife and maybe a couples photos with us both. My pics were mostly in the private and personal galleries, so the other couple would get to see me when we opened the galleries to them. I must be a hell of a lot uglier than I imagined because they only stop contacting us after they have seen me. I have pretty thick skin...I also know that it is hard to get 4 people to click at they same time, so I don't let it bother me too much. I have since began to include more pics of me in the default gallery as to help weed out couples before they contact us (actually we have had no responses since I began this practice). It's just getting a bit frustrating because the wife is convinced that it's her looks that are driving folks away and I really don't think that is the case. We are new to the LS and we haven't played with anyone yet, so maybe that works against us. We are just new to all this and I was wondering if anyone else has experienced this before? Does anyone have any advice that might help? Thanks to everyone in advance!

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Just took a look at your profile and there's Nothing wrong or off-putting that I could find, including the pic's. You're a very cute couple and the profile is fine. It's honest and up front about who you are and what you want. The pics are tasteful. If you were closer and we were within your stated age ranges, we'd be more than willing to meet with you both. (Feel free to tell her that I think she's HOT! (LOL)).

Have you taken steps to hook up with any groups in your area? Attended any Meet & Greet's? Visited any club events? I would suggest that you do so. Even if you don't find another couple that you 'click' with, you'll both have gotten out of the house and had a pleasant evening together. That's never a bad thing. Right?

Have you considered any other lifestyle websites? We know of many very nice couples who are members of other sites, but not of SLS.

Have patience, be open to possibilities, and things will happen. Have Fun!


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KickAssCouple,

You two are fine, and I personally think that you're not bad looking at all, why on earth would you allow someone else to make you feel so down about yourself.

Chin up, you are a great looking couple, we'd love to meet you.

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Welcome to the forums neighbor :)

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Lot of great responses here....getting goods pics and patience...as hot as you two are you'll find a rather long line up of friends before you know it. Another thing that you'll find besides an over abundance of BS fakes....it's feast or famine on here...enjoy the rush when it cums!

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I never had to work with them (thank Zod)...Getting together for birthdays, holidays, or whatever else they could come up with was enough...I cringe every time I hear someone is getting married or having a kid or whatever other life altering event forces me to make an appearance down to that part of FL...

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"We just might be pal" ------------------------- Not likely, although I don't conspire with the overall family unit (the one I was birthed into) I don't think we have any kin in the Canton Area.

LOL - Actually I worked with my immediate family for many years. Not a big fan of family gatherings anymore because of it!

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"Bayou - are we related? Bwah ha ha ha "

Funnily enough my family is originally from somewhere near the northern side of Canton, Ohio (3 generations back, I couldn't tell you exactly where)... We just might be pal.

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Awkward meetups with shallow people we have nothing to talk about and nothing at all in common with. If I really wanted that experience, I'd go over to my family's house for dinner. ------------------------- Bayou - are we related? Bwah ha ha ha

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To the OP...If you're not getting a lot of responses to your profile, take that as a good thing. You've probably eliminated 90% of the bullshit you have to wade through to find the genuine couples or singles who really want to enjoy themselves and your company, not put notches on a bed-post or steal your pictures for fap-reference later. We have hundreds of hits on our profile but just a select few have contacted us. And those that have are genuinely interested in meeting the two of us, not just her.

To be 100% truthful, I (the male half) have always felt the way I look hinders our "level" of play partners and the people we encounter through online ventures. We just don't get the traffic we would if I eliminated myself from the free previews. I know, I've done it. But in all honesty, where would that get us? Awkward meetups with shallow people we have nothing to talk about and nothing at all in common with. If I really wanted that experience, I'd go over to my family's house for dinner.

Keep your head high man. Things will happen when you least expect it.

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KA, most of the time you get people that look at your profile that are looky loos. Don't let it bother you. From what I saw you two are very attractive and if you were closer to us we would try to set up a date. We fond that going to parties were the best way to meet others.

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