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TOPIC: What's your estimate on percentage of real people here

Created by: Doc_n_Janine Original Starting post for this thread:
We keep running into people that just waste time. It is so incredibly frustrating. People will string communication out over weeks, even months, always professing they want to meet with you and they never follow through. In our estimation, we have to weed through 20 or so contacts before we find someone that is real and genuine, and out of those, less than 10 percent ever make anything happen. What's your guess on percentage of real people (or people that are serious about meeting)?

Created by: Doc_n_Janine
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We keep running into people that just waste time. It is so incredibly frustrating. People will string communication out over weeks, even months, always professing they want to meet with you and they never follow through. In our estimation, we have to weed through 20 or so contacts before we find someone that is real and genuine, and out of those, less than 10 percent ever make anything happen.

What's your guess on percentage of real people (or people that are serious about meeting)?

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User Details are only visible to members.	You brought up probably the most debated subject on the forums. In my opinion. IF you read their profile. IF you match what they are looking for, age, location, body type, etc. And IF you follow their contact directions, and IF you include pics and a thought out email thats not a one liner.. Then YES it is rude for them not to respond even if they are not interested. Ill tell you exactly how WE do it. We check email every couple weeks sometimes longer on here. So it builds up. We have exactly what we are looking for and exactly what we want to know and see in a first email. Reason being. That will be our ONLY email on here. Anyone we're interested in, our response to them is opening all our pics, and giving them an outside email that goes to my wifes phone. That she gets right away and answers right away. We dont have any more interaction on here after that because it will probably be another couple/few weeks before we get on again. So if you dont read our profile, and you dont include what we ask for, then we delete and move on very quick. No pic. Delete. One liner. Delete. Wayyyy out of our stated interest. Delete. If you do match and do send what we ask for but we are just not interested for whatever reason, we do send a polite no thank you response. It would be rude not to. We ask for pic in FIRST email or on profile. Again, we will decide from the first email whether we are interested. We get a lot of people who write, and then say "If you are interested, Ill send a pic" They get deleted. We're not responding to ask for something we already asked for. Or we get a pic with a blurred out face or some pic of a guys chest or something. Delete also. I cant speak for what you do. You may be the exception. But the majority of guys who email us DONT follow those directions, so they have already been told in our profile we wont respond. We have 2 standard responses. 1. Thank you but we're not compatible. 2. Hey, thanks for the email. We're interested and think we might be a match. We opened our pics up here for you. Since we dont make it on here much, please email us at xxxxxxxxx which we receive instantly so we can move forward. So out of those 100 emails. 50 wont get a response 20 will get a rude response depending on my mood and if my wife gets distracted...haha 20 will get the "no thanks" response 10 will get the "contact us here" response Out of those 10. 2 or 3 will contact us on that email. The rest will send us another email on here. They will get deleted on the next go around. Out of those 2 or 3. 2 will be pic collectors, or cammers, or too shy to meet in person and ONE will end up in our bed. So 99 people will think we are fakes. But we only started with 30 who were potentials, since they followed the directions. And we found 1/3 who we were interested in. That was 10 people. So 1/3 isnt bad. If the rest had done the same. We likely would have had 1/3 or more of the 100. So 30 or more people would have gotten favorable responses. We spend an hour a month on here together on average. And we go through 100 emails in one hour. It doesnt take any longer because we can delete most in the first 2 minutes. The rest of the time we spend looking at profiles, reading real responses, an responding back to. So bottom line. Ifyou personally were local. And sent us a nice email with a face picture, we would respond, no thank you. Youre bi, looking for a couple, followed the directions, but are outside our age range. So a polite no thanks would be in order. But miss one of those steps. Even if you were in our age range, an a perfect match, you wouldnt get a response.
Mount Juliet TN			Username hidden (662 post)

User Details are only visible to members.	And to the op. They have a new term for it, don't remember what it's called. But it has to do with people spending to much time interacting on line causing them to with draw from real human contact.
New Orleans LA			Username hidden (2193 post)

User Details are only visible to members.	No you didn't it's just that people in the lifestyle are no different than people anywhere else. You just have to seek out people whom you want to be around and forget the rest. It's just life. I hate rude people too.You know people who wont hold the door open for a lady,share the sidewalk,move out of the way when your getting off an elevator,people who drive on the shoulder of the road and squeeze in front of you when your in line at a detour. Oh and men who don't remove their hats when indoors. But you know what their's not a lot a cab do abut it.
New Orleans LA			Username hidden (2193 post)

User Details are only visible to members.	No, I don't think they are. I think they should be. We're not talking about day-to-day interaction, we're talking about the most intimate interaction there is. The giving of one's body and the sharing of one's life companion. What else should create an environment where people are sensitive to others? Then again maybe I banged my head too hard and I'm confused! Ha!
Lafayette MS			Username hidden (15 post)

User Details are only visible to members.	You think people in the lifestyle are anymore polite than people in the vanilla world. "snort" hang out here for a while.
New Orleans LA			Username hidden (2193 post)

User Details are only visible to members.	playtimetxcpl, exact-a-mundo!!!! You put it very distinctly from the viewpoint of someone who has been in the LS for awhile and is respectful. What else can I say other than the next load of clothes is reading to go in and thanks..... :-)
Lafayette MS			Username hidden (15 post)

User Details are only visible to members.	I disagree. We try to respond to every message we get. We do so even if it's a polite not interested. A couple of times, we explained to them nicely why we weren't interested or what was (or was lacking) in their profile that we didn't like. Sometimes we give them tips to finding people in the future based on what we hear from other couples. But usually, it's just a polite "no" and we wish them well finding playmates elsewhere. We do so, because we would like the same done to us. Replies should become the standard, no the exception. If for nothing else, the person knows you didn't forget to respond to the message and doesn't feel bad wondering if they should contact you again or not.
Waco TX			Username hidden (44 post)

User Details are only visible to members.	Too many times a polite rejection leads to harassing followup emails. It's not worth responding and running that risk.
Avondale LA			Username hidden (4496 post)

User Details are only visible to members.	Akron, your statement reminds of the Rush song "Freewill"; "If you choose not to decide, you still have made a choice". But if people are reminded of what is proper maybe a few will take the time to do the right thing. I guess I just have decent manners and refuse to treat people inconsiderately. I'm so special.... hahahaha
Lafayette MS			Username hidden (15 post)

User Details are only visible to members.	Sorry, you ain't going to change people. No reponse IS a response.
Avondale LA			Username hidden (4496 post)

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