The very first time: Swingers Discussion 2164391016

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User Details are only visible to members.	I'm assuming the other couple who "have shown interest" are LS newbies also, although you are currently vanilla friends? Well, this could work, but there are a lot of levels to "shown interest." If you are all absolutely sure that you all understand what you're talking about, give it a go. You absolutely, positively, for damn sure certain don't want to make an overture and get a response like, "Whaaat? You want to fuck with us? Are you out of your minds?" That will spoil your night -- and probably your friendship.
Charlotte NC			Username hidden (544 post)

User Details are only visible to members.	I wish there was a "like" feature on SLS, because the advice you just got is spot-on accurate and well stated, particularly regarding expectations. Communicate often, respect the limits of everyone involved and have fun!
Westerville OH			Username hidden (9 post)

User Details are only visible to members.	Welcome, madacada. Sirandp has excellent suggestions. In fact, all 3 of them are the best one. Fun is what you're doing it for. It's fun to communicate in ways you haven't before. It's fun to have modest expectations and occasionally exceed them. It's fun to know yourself and your relationship better. When it's not fun, stop -- and communicate, share your expectations, learn who you are. And when the light turns green again, go for some more. Eventually go home. Recall the fun.
Flat Rock NC			Username hidden (2805 post)

User Details are only visible to members.	Well, if you don't have any nervousness or excitement, you're doing it wrong! ;) Seriously though, we started off swinging with friends, and we've had both good and not-so-good experiences. About the same as with people we meet in clubs or online. We actually prefer swinging with friends when we find ones who don't have marital problems, etc., that detonate the typical drama bombs. The biggest issue that tends to pop up in first-time encounters is the green-eyed monster. The tug of jealousy, possessiveness, or even self-consciousness might pop up... even if you've done a lot of communicating and psyching up. There's something about going from "talking about it" to "doing it" that kicks up emotions. The best advice I can muster is: 1) communicate communicate communicate 2) reduce your expectations; realize it may be awkward 3) remember it's about having fun... when it stops being fun, stop.
New Market MD			Username hidden (193 post)

User Details are only visible to members.	My wife and I are totally new to this, and are in the process of setting up our first encounter. We aren't comfortable with the idea of total strangers, at least not yet, so we asked a couple we are good friends with about it. They have shown interest, so we are planning on moving forward. We are planning on soft swap to start, and will take it from there. My question is, what can we expect the first time. I know every encounter is unique, as are the people involved, but what type of nerves/excitement are normal? Have any of you ever had a bad experience swinging with close friends? Or good experiences? Is there any preparations to make before a first encounter? Advice? Stories to share of your first time? Just looking for as much info as possible before taking this monumental step.
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