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TOPIC: Swing Clubs: What happens

Created by: LibidinousLB Original Starting post for this thread:
Before the question, some context (and I apologise if this question has been asked and answered already [it seems like the sort of question that would be] but I've looked and not been able to turn up previous discussions specifically surrounding this issue): The GF and I have been talking about sexual adventuring for a while. We posted here about a year ago and posted some three or so years ago on AFF, but never really followed up on it. About a year ago, we figured the best way of stepping in was to hire an escort. While it had it's fun moments (sex being like pizza, even when it's bad...), it was a tremendous letdown. Even though she advertised as being someone who enjoyed working with couples, the girl we hired was totally not into it. Reminded me of the scene in "Klute" with Jane Fonda staring blankly at the ceiling whilst her client went about his business. Really dire and put us off the adventures for nearly a year after that. Now we're talking about it again, and while I think we'll probably try the escort route again (we've got a trip coming up), we also are looking into swinging. There seems to be a tremendous amount of overhead when trying to set up meeting folks via SLS or AFF. Emailing, chatting, more emailing, weeding out flakes and poseurs, etc. So we're considering going to Club Joi (close to where we live) or maybe a club in London, Vancouver, or SF, all of which we travel to pretty frequently. Thing is, we have no idea what actually happens at a swing club. What do people do whilst there? We assuming dancing, chit chat, etc., but what's the standard way of interacting with folks there. If you chat someone up just to friendly and make a connection, are they going to assume you're interested in swinging with them? Do most people just make connections and then followup later? I understand there are play areas at most clubs, but how prevalent is people actually getting naked? Would it be ok to go and just check out the scene without an implicit suggestion that we're looking to play right then and there? And what sort of age range does one usually get? Though we are right around 40 (today's actually my 40th birthday) which looks to be just left of the mean on SLS, we are hoping there are folks around our age. We're both a bit introverted, so is there an openness to people who need a little help getting started, socially? Anyway, just have lots of questions before we decide to venture out into swingland and we'd appreciate any input from those of you who have been to clubs. Cheers, James

Created by: LibidinousLB
Original Starting post for this thread:

Before the question, some context (and I apologise if this question has been asked and answered already [it seems like the sort of question that would be] but I've looked and not been able to turn up previous discussions specifically surrounding this issue):

The GF and I have been talking about sexual adventuring for a while.  We posted here about a year ago and posted some three or so years ago on AFF, but never really followed up on it. About a year ago, we figured the best way of stepping in was to hire an escort.  While it had it's fun moments (sex being like pizza, even when it's bad...), it was a tremendous letdown. Even though she advertised as being someone who enjoyed working with couples, the girl we hired was totally not into it.  Reminded me of the scene in "Klute" with Jane Fonda staring blankly at the ceiling whilst her client went about his business. Really dire and put us off the adventures for nearly a year after that.

Now we're talking about it again, and while I think we'll probably try the escort route again (we've got a trip coming up), we also are looking into swinging.  There seems to be a tremendous amount of overhead when trying to set up meeting folks via SLS or AFF.  Emailing, chatting, more emailing, weeding out flakes and poseurs, etc.  So we're considering going to Club Joi (close to where we live) or maybe a club in London, Vancouver, or SF, all of which we travel to pretty frequently.  Thing is, we have no idea *what actually happens* at a swing club.  What do people do whilst there? We assuming dancing, chit chat, etc., but what's the standard way of interacting with folks there. If you chat someone up just to friendly and make a connection, are they going to assume you're interested in swinging with them? Do most people just make connections and then followup later? I understand there are play areas at most clubs, but how prevalent is people actually getting naked?  Would it be ok to go and just check out the scene without an implicit suggestion that we're looking to play right then and there?  And what sort of age range does one usually get? Though we are right around 40 (today's actually my 40th birthday) which looks to be just left of the mean on SLS, we are hoping there are folks around our age.  We're both a bit introverted, so is there an openness to people who need a little help getting started, socially? 

Anyway, just have lots of questions before we decide to venture out into swingland and we'd appreciate any input from those of you who have been to clubs.

Cheers,

James

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User Details are only visible to members.	It is the sexually charged atmosphere more then anything. Everyone is there for a good time and in a sexy mood.
Middletown DE			Username hidden (313 post)

User Details are only visible to members.	we love going to the clubs just for the party atmosphere. Naughty really lets her hair down and just have fun which i enjoy watching her do. you cant beat a good club
Delta PA			Username hidden (66 post)

User Details are only visible to members.	Awesome BDH!
New Albany IN			Username hidden (23 post)

User Details are only visible to members.	heehee or not fucking them....either way, this bitch is going to have fun.
San Marcos TX			Username hidden (21703 post)

User Details are only visible to members.	... And then fucking them. -M
Fort Worth TX			Username hidden (1475 post)

User Details are only visible to members.	And the more you go, the more comfortable you'll be. :) Before you know it, you'll be talking to people!!
Shippensburg PA			Username hidden (1791 post)

User Details are only visible to members.	for goodness sakes. Go and have fun. Everything else is a bonus.
San Marcos TX			Username hidden (21703 post)

User Details are only visible to members.	The best way to for me to describe what does/does not happen in a swing club is up to you all. Make sure you both are on the same page on what you are looking for BEFORE you all show up. If you find a couple with similar interests game on. If not well you gave it a shot... Good luck!
New Albany IN			Username hidden (23 post)

User Details are only visible to members.	What I have found, and talked with a few people about: Very much the same as a regular club until around midnight when the alcohol is really kicking in and people start going to the play areas or getting naked. Some nights there might be relatively little sex on premise, other nights its a Greco-Roman orgiastic fuckfest. From your profile, it appears you are HWP, so you will probably generate some interest. No one will be pushy (unless its a very BADLY managed club). You may get asked to go back to a play room. But like most clubs of any kind, people are reluctant to introduce themselves to strangers. Swingers, surprisingly, are no less shy than anyone else. It's quite possible to sit there all night and no one will talk to you.
Las Cruces NM			Username hidden (28 post)

User Details are only visible to members.	There are alot of different kind of clubs. Our first club was awesome. It was sponsered by a group here at sls. It was pretty tame. Bar, Great music, lots of dancing (and we dont even dance!) ;) Great sexual energy. There was a seperate (but open) lounge that some were tamely playing in, (mostly by just couples) and watchers ... we ended up in there too for a bit! :) ...and plenty of places to just hang and chit chat and feel no pressure. We didnt really meet anyone, a couple of approaches, ....but we just had an awesome time with each other!!! It was a great club to start in. Look for the same. Most Clubs have 'details' (on their website) of what kind of night it may be. I would imagine you would feel more comfortable starting at an off-premise event where it's not so wild. Look up groups in your area and start joining some, (on the left toolbar) and see if there are any group events that interest you. you also will receive invitations once your a member. good luck! and welcome to the forums!!
Brodheadsville PA			Username hidden (1780 post)

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