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TOPIC: My man doesn't want same room HELP!!
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Wait a sec. You stated he doesn't like the look of his own penis. That truely does sound like some type of body image issue. I believe most guys in general don't dislike the look of their own penis. Also with him enjoying anal and his brother being gay it's possible he is dealing with some issues of sexual desire, that's not to say he's gay, but I would think he does have fears tied to it.

The only thing you can do is communicate. You will have to get him to open up and explore this thinking. This can be difficult because so many of us run around with certain opinions and beliefs, but really have not taken the time to explore (within ourselves) the "WHY". It can be difficult to articulate things which you don't fully understand yourself. Just have patience and work on the lines of communication and trust. Make sure you make him feel accepted and loved as he explores these issues.

Don't push the swinging, it he's already expressed his limits, just respect them.

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I think if this was classified .....as you say as "normal" then we would be seeing a lot of it. Normal means the majority of men react this way. However, you DON'T usually see men reacting to this extreme on their thinking of other men's penis. It's very unsusual for a man to be so repulsed..... as for your same room problem..... Get to the root of why looking at a male penis is repulsive to him and then you'll start to make head way....no one just "becomes" thaaaaaat repulsed without a catalyst of some sort.

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sound homohobic there

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Poor thing you really don't understand how lucky you are.Why do you need someone else in same room except you and your new lover?Many woman would give up a lot for such freedom!

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I think givin time, he will adjust to it. Sometimes it is hard for one or the other spouse to see each other with someone else. It took me time to see my hubby with someone else. Just keep the communication going. You are still new to this. Things change as time goes by.

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You stated his problem was that he did not want to "see" another penis. Do you two watch porno movies together?

I wonder if there is more going on here than he's leading you to believe. Some jeolousy perhaps?

You can also consider a blind fold for him.

communicate, communicate

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TOPIC: My man doesn't want same room HELP!!