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Sounds like you have already stepped into the cheating world. And I agree with the rest - you should not do that....but thats you. There is still time. Seems that the TV is your biggest problem, she is tuning you out. Does she have a job? Or is she couching it all day? Your trying to get us to think its her, maybe it is, but she is not here to tell her side of the story. Don't take offense to this word but selfishness comes to mind. Meaning you are the selfish one. Did you ever help with the kids, laundry, dishes, dinner etc etc?? She just may resent you! You asked for advice and cheated anyway. Now no one "feels" for you. Your in a sad situation, one that your not alone in. Have had afew contact us such as yourself only they say the wife knows what he is doing, we just decline.

What if the TV were to "breakdown"??? Have you gone shopping and tried to find that special dress that would make her feel beautiful? Take her out to dinner in it? Take her home and don't expect sex that night. It took years to get this way, takes years to get it back! Don't rush it.

Nibbles, I think you have the key and believe you are right on this one.

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I'd love if your wife came on and posted all the reasons she's not interested in sex...My wife watches tons of tv...and has a couple of extra pounds...but we have an amazing sex life...You sound really lame coming on here to find someone to cheat with and blame your problems on your wife.....Sex and love is a two way street..and if your on a swingers website to find a mistress you've already shown you're not doing enough for your wife....Because you seem less interested in making your marrige better and more interested in just getting laid....Why the hell even start this topic anyway...for sympathy???

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for 2try and scuzzy....neither of you mention in your profile that you are married.....Why must cheating husbands use the lamest excuses for being on here? I mean really...how do you expect people to react after they've read your profile...and find out? It just looks bad no matter what your situation is..... There is no catagory for "married males" i understand... but i dont think married men have any business having a "single" male profile if they dont mention they're married..There are plenty of honest husbands out there who have couples profiles that say "Male half playing solo" While that may not be for everyone the honesty is the most important part of it....I dont agree with what they're doing....but at least they are honest.

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did you ever consider that if you decieve your spouse you put yourself in a very lonely place and from then on have to view yourself as a cheat..y do things that detract from your self esteem how would you feel to find the person you love most and rely on to be your closest friend,had,for whatever reason, been decietful? this, too me, is what swinging is about, the recognition that sexual attractivness of people other than a spouse is inevitable and that to pretend otherwise is a fraud. so much better to share sexual adventures with our spouses than to decieve them. so much easier to live with ourselves.

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Mr. Caretaker, you rule!!!!!!!!!

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Start taking an evening walk with her every night. Not only does he give you guys time to talk and bond but it could help with the extra weight she has gained.

Since she likes TV so much, try popping a porno in. That should make for an interesting night even if you don't get any. LOL

I do hope that you don't cheat on your wife. As everyone else has already said, it will only make things worse. Maybe not at first but eventually it will.

Carrie

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I really do feel sorry for the guy who posted this! :(

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Been there. Wife entered extended period of limited sexual interest. More desperate I became, the more turned off she became. We eventually spent years in therapy working through a number of issues, most unrelated to the sex. In the process, we each have learned a lot about each other and ourselves. Now the tables are a bit reversed. Her sex drive has increased while mine has waned. Go figure.

My message...You have to do something. Sitting at home getting angrier and angrier is not the answer. I strongly suggest joint counseling. If she is unwilling to enter counseling with you, you must go alone. Ultimately, you (and she) will need to make several decisions. A trained professional can help you define the real questions. If not counseling, divorce, cheating and permissive non-monogomy are your three other options. I suspect you know that.

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Don't cheat on your wife! If she has self-esteem issues, and finds out you are cheating, think how THAT will make her feel.

You need to tell her that you are seriously sexually frustrated, and that you can understand that she has no sex drive.

If she is taking a drug that ruins her sex drive, OR has emotional issues, then I don't think the things you try to do to turn her on will work. You can't really work on getting her to be wild while she has other things going on.

However...being loving, helping with the kids, giving her a back massage w/o expecting sex in return, taking good care of her, will help your relationship.

Standard advice is that she should talk to her family dr. first. Tell him/her she has no sex drive.

My first marriage sucked, and I totally empathize with your frustrations. I am female, but I have a very high sex drive. Higher than most men, even.

However...are you in this marriage or not? If so, don't cheat. NO EXCUSES for lying to your wife!

BTW, almost all people in this lifestyle, despite being open sexually, do NOT play with men who cheat. Not knowingly, anyhow.

Jen

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everyones already given great insight but i just wanted to say good luck.

i hope that your wife is feeling better soon [with your help ofcourse] and you guys are back to where you were before!

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