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TOPIC: How to explain the lifestyle
Created by: stetal
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He has a friend that would like to have sex with him but is hung up since we are married. We have tried to explain the life style to her but she is hung up on us being married and it being sex without feeling. Is there anyone that can give us a way to explain it all to her. Any help would be helpful. Thanks

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Swinging; sexual activity with someone other that your spouse or SO, with the full knowledge and consent of your spouse/SO.

Swinging neither precludes nor requires emotional involvement or commitment for sexual activity. It's not cheating because it's conducted with the full knowledge and consent of the spouses/SO's involved. The spectrum of swinging activity ranges from 'fuck buddies' to polyamory, with all points in between included.

If your your 'friend' is aware that sexual activity between her and 'him' is not an issue for you, then I'd respect her feelings on the subject and drop it. For some people, the concepts of love and sex are inseparable.


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Oh, you meant THAT kind of feeling.... Never mind. ; )

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Novacaine?

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I find it works pretty damn well for fun and enjoyment.

Spring TX
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Sex without feeling, how does that work?

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What sweet and cpl said.

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My advice is to seek someone in the lifestyle so this person does not go shouting your business she obviously does not understand to the whole community you live in. Worst mistake is outting your lifestyle business to family, and friends who are vanilla.

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"she is hung up on us being married and it being sex without feeling"

Stop. Right. There.

This person isn't "hung up" on anything. Sounds more like someone who isn't in the lifestyle and isn't comfortable with fucking a married guy and/or casual sex. Instead of trying to coerce her into doing something that she's not on board with, move on and find someone else who is.

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Stetal, welcome to the Forums. Sit back, put up your feet, and get ready to peruse the hundreds of threads that allow differing opinions on lots of different lifestyle topics. In the 3-Some topic, there is a thread on developing feelings for your play partner that gives different perspectives, for example. It sounds like your husband's female friend thinks there would be feelings, and you are insisting that there wouldn't - and you both may be right in certain situations.

Do you have any experience in swinging yourselves? If you do, try explaining to her why you did it, what it meant to you, and why you want to continue. Would you, the wife, be part of the playtime, or do you and your husband play separately? Some people just don't understand and never will, which only means they aren't the right person to swing with.

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He has a friend that would like to have sex with him but is hung up since we are married. We have tried to explain the life style to her but she is hung up on us being married and it being sex without feeling. Is there anyone that can give us a way to explain it all to her. Any help would be helpful. Thanks

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