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TOPIC: How picky
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Hello all, been lurking in the forums, decided to make a post on something I have not seen yet.

We are new to the lifestyle, have had NO experience in this before. We both know what we want, the issue we are running into is how picky should we be for our first encounter? Being newbies we got hit with non stop mails from "experienced" people during our time on the "new members near you" banner, but most of them seem to just want to have a quick "meet us at the hotel and we'll fuck", and we are not sure we are looking for that from the site just yet. That kind of thing we feel would be more fun if it happened at a party, rather than planning it out.

Is it better to hold out for what we REALLY want for our first time, or just take whats available so we can get some experience under our belt?

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Hey NJNY, thanks for the welcome. I realize this post is ancient :) I know all are different, a little respect for the bodies we have is a good thing. A thick skin is also a plus :)

Saint Amant LA
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shana_n_james, welcome to the forums.

i do agree with the sentiment that folks should seek out who they like and not disparage folks they may not be interested in, for whatever reason(s).

however the fora are a reflection of all phases of the human experience so unfortunately as with all else in life there'll be some posts that will elicit a moue, or a snort, or even a WTF.

gotta learn to pass them by.

nice to see you here, strap in, pop some popcorn, and enjoy the forums!

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I'm all for being selective. After all, we don't want to pick up any drama, disease, stalkers, people who have a radically different idea of what constitutes sexual pleasure... Further, we also have our sexual preferences...some things turn us on and others turn us off. Each person is different, and that's a good thing. However, when I see all of the posts about how people who are fat, old, ugly face (by whose standard), dry personality (also subjective), short, weird hairstyle etc are "substandard", undesirable, and unworthy; I think that those people have to live in the bodies they were born with. We all should take care of our health and hygiene, but maybe we don't have to be so cruel to people who happen to be over 60 or those whose hairlines have receded or chunky chicks... If you aren't interested, fine. Say no thanks... But let's not say these people are unfuckable and wonder aloud why they exist...

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I hadn't seen this thread before. It was fun reading posts from some of the people who aren't members any longer.

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No substandard women here and this exceptional one just enjoyed some afternoon delight.

Sheboygan Falls WI
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I'm horny today. Are there any substandard wimmin out there who want to fuk?

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Spanky, you've expressed your "competition" theory all over the forums. As for the other stuff I mentioned, you should know what I was talking about, because you have said each and every one of those things. Certainly you haven't forgotten; I'm the old fart whose memory is supposed to be slipping.

Brookhaven MS
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Spanky, my post was clear.

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Ahoy-if I seriously viewed getting laid as a competition I would have conceded loss to you a long time ago my friend. As far as the others go I have, absolutely no idea what you're talking about.


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My manners are just fine! thanks for asking :)


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TOPIC: How picky