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A mutual LS friendsuggested I look up his SMfriend while vacationing in Memphis. Weemailed and chatted on phone for a couple of days before I arrived, seemed to have a good rapport. Wemet and had a couple of fun dates and then I went home, not really expecting anything ecxept somefuture funwhen I next visited my family at holiday times.(2 times a year)

The SM musthave liked being abused by my charm and wit,he called a couple of days later inquiring about seeing me again and sooner than thenext holiday. I have been treating him "pitifully" ever since;-)..and plan to continue doing so. Ihaven't heard him complain yet.

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I (the husband) brought it up. Had whimsically made comments, taken tongue in cheek, for years. Did light role playing along the lines of alternate lovers too. Since we still looked good (and she wanted to do nudist things anyway) and were very sexually capable, I decided to pursue it in earnest. Went to a local meet and greet, to make sure the folks were as I expected (normal), rather than creepy, and to ask the questions that would be our concerns (STIs and discretion). Since it looked fine, I decided to bear out my fantasies and my desire to do this LS thing.

The initial shock of the revelation became fairly irrelevant as things evolved quickly. It was taken seriously and we discussed what might be fun to consider and, of course, the issues of safety. I have to say that the weeks that followed included the most and best sex (surpassing the early dating ad marriage stuff) of our lives together. Some people who just dive right in apparently have similar sex with each other after their first LS experiences. Set up accounts at these online places and made plans and rules. There have been the occasional deal killer worries about catching herpes and similar. But were committed to two things: (1) really giving the LS a sincere shake to see if it is for us a great augmentation to our lives, and (2) play to our mutual comfort -- it's about fun and only if it is fun for both of us.

I am absolutely glad I brought it up. Not just for the fantastic sex since then. But we have hit a core level of personal honesty that has vastly improved our marriage connection, after many years. I was not expecting my wife to admit that she would love to do this for recreation and to build a deep social life. It could have gone so many other ways, and has undoubtedly for other couples. But you either have to jump in the pool or wonder how great it would be to swim.

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We've been faithfully married for 30 years and we simply ran out of toys to buy, positions to try and venues to experiment in. The adventure of swinging was another arena to explore. It's been very fun!

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Mr. L and I have always been very open. A couple of years ago, having recently started dating, Katy Perry was singing a song while we were waiting for previews at a movie theater. He asked jokingly if I'd ever kissed a girl and liked it, as another of her songs famously mentioned, and I said that yes, in fact I had! Mr. was quite intrigued, and that led me to mention some other things that turn me on, and the rest is history. Through lots of talking we have figured out what we want, and through talking and experiences we know what we like, so we have a hell of a time doing those things when we can manage it :-)

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Welcome to the forum Wildandwonderful....very appropriate screen name!

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Many nights in bed we would share our thoughts on swinging.We really talked a lot about it for about 6 months then I said lets just do it. The reason we decided to do it was we both felt like we needed more. We have been married for 18 years and I really like women this seemed like the only way for me I didnt want to cheat.(BTW I'm the female.)You only live once. Yolo!!

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Bump - Love this thread. :-)

Marietta OH
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Thank you Nic! That we did! Everything just fell into place, it was prety awesome :)

Cumberland IN
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Welcome to the forum, and to the "pool"! Sounds like you jumped right in the deep end!

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Mr. and I decided to share our sexual bucket list. We both had a threesome with another woman on the list! So the lines of communication were opened. I was told to check out this website by an LS acquaintance. This was last week. We went to our first Hotel party just a few days ago, and are still grinning from losing our virginity that night!

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