HOW DID YOU GET PAST WHAT YOU HAVE BEEN TAUGHT BY SOCIETY: Swingers Discussion 364641011

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User Details are only visible to members.	Well, based on what I've learned from friends from other countries (especially Brazil and China), monogamy is a conscious choice, not a natural instinct. We have to be taught to have sex with only one person for the rest of our lives because its good for the community as a whole. Since almost everyone subscribes to that belief, it has become true. However, it isn't in our NATURE to be with only one person, or even one person at a time. Follow me for a bit. I live in a desert and have three daughters. I'm getting old and my daughters are at the child bearing age. If they continue to live with me, they will have to eventually take over the herding of sheep and camels, and gathering water. They will also be responsible for killing the sheep, as well as salting it, butchering it, and cooking it. A whole lot for three women, but they can do it. However, they all look like my wife did at their age, and every man within a hundred miles was after my wife when they saw her. I even had to kill one man because he had horses instead of camels, and horses are much easier to manage. My wife was willing to sleep with him for a month if he gave me three horses, but what if she got pregnant with another girl? That man wouldn't take the girl because it takes three girls to safely do the lifting and carrying of one boy if he is raised right. Plus, since she is my wife, I would have to take care of her while she is pregnant, especially the last three months. In order for the baby, boy or girl, to be healthy, my wife will have to eat as much as I do, which means more work. And if the baby is a boy, I'll get three horses, but not much else out of the deal. Again, I'll have to do more work because I'd have to get hay and oats for them, which means giving some of my lambs and calves to others. The thing for me to do is find men for my daughters to marry who can take care of them and either come live on my farm and run it, or start a farm of their own and let my wife and I live with them, doing what we can when we get too old to do for ourselves. But to keep them from entering into deals like my wife almost did, which could have had devasting effects, I have to make them believe its in their best interest to only sleep with her husband and not any other men. So, I have to public announce that she is going to be faithful to this one man and that it will be wrong for her to look at another, no matter how beneficial it would be for her to leave her current husband for the new one. Also, I have to make their husbands feel that my daughters are better than the other girls. So, after making sure they are still virgins, I will tell the men that my daughters are so particular that they haven't been with anyone else, and as long as they are provided for and treated right, they will never be with anyone else. Finally, I have to convince the elders to make it illegal an punishable by stoning for a man to lay with another man's wife. Also, a woman who lays with many men must be supported by those men in some way. Of course, it would not be good for her to marry, but the men must take care of her by providing her with food and clothing. In a real sense, she would be providing a service not only to men, but to wives who cannot have children, so she must be also given a place to stay, so she won't have to impose too much on her family. Of course, it would not be good for every young woman to want to lead this kind of life. They would if given the chance, so we must make it less appealing. These women can't have the same protection virgins or wives have, meaning a woman must be desperate to choose this life. <more to come>
Lansing MI			Username hidden (145 post)

User Details are only visible to members.	keeping emotions out is very easy...when you are with another person they are there for pleasure and erotic sex and nothing more. there are no feelings for that person except a close friendship. yes we are able to keep emotions out and totally enjoy the experience because again the person you are with is basicly your sex toy till you are done. you love and leave with your spouse and also have some close friends you can share erotic sex with. hope i have made sense.
Niagara Falls NY			Username hidden (1021 post)

User Details are only visible to members.	Hey Smooth, Taking things out of "context", which is what MOST of us here has had to do, is an unique experience. I actually went to catholic school for most of my life. To actually get into the lifestyle, there had to be something "missing" for me from my educational status. That something was the actual meaning of "love". My husband "loves" me no matter what I do, say or hear. There is an emotional connection with us that NOONE can come between. That emotional connection has NOTHING to do with the physical one that we find between ourselves, with ourselves, or with others. WE are into this life WITH each other. If you can find the "balance" with your life mate and your sex partners, you can get past what "you have been taught". Good luck and good fortune as you hunt not only your sexual appeal, but your mental "tug of wars" also. Lora (and Chuck)
Pittston Township PA			Username hidden (1137 post)

User Details are only visible to members.	tequila is also quite effective :)
Denham Springs LA			Username hidden (78 post)

User Details are only visible to members.	I've always taken the things society tried to teach me with a grain of salt. There's a lot of stuff that you've always been told that you have to do, or that you couldn't ever do. These things have to be handled with a little common sense. We were married for 22 years before we started in the lifestyle. We talked about it in bed sometimes, and it was always part of our fantasy life. But actually going out and having real sex with someone else besides our partners was a huge step. It helps a lot if you have a good, solid relationship between yourselves. And having a great sex life together is a big plus, too. When you have that type of base to start from, it's going to take a lot to separate the two of you. From there, just look at it as recreational or casual sex. It's kinda like making new friends, except you get to be a LOT closer with them than ever before. We enjoy some of the friendships we've made almost as much as the sex. It's great to have friends that you can be really open and honest with, and you all have something in common, too. Just my opinion - Gary
West Sacramento CA			Username hidden (65 post)

User Details are only visible to members.	We've been together for 13 years and it has been a monogamous relationship. How do you get past what you have been taught all your life- one partner at a time? How do you keep your emotions out of your new sexual encounters? Are you truly able to enjoy the sexual moment or do emotions ever get in the way?
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